What you should not tell your relatives

Who hasn’t heard that silence is gold? But our people invented a lot of similar sayings: “It is better to be silent than empty lies”, “should be silent if there is nothing to say”, “He who is silent will teach two”. Silence has been appreciated at all times.

And indeed, excessive openness, no matter how much it attracts others, can play a cruel joke with us. It turns out even communication It doesn't have to be completely frank. Otherwise, there is a risk of getting into a stupid situation and even ruining family relations.





It would seem that relatives can be trusted with any problem, tell about plans or share a secret. But such carelessness threatens you first and foremost. So remember what things to keep with you, not trusting them even the closest people.

1. Income
   Of course, everyone wonders how much money their loved ones have at their disposal. However, when you talk about your modest or large income, you allow others to get into your budget. Why would someone, in thought or in real life, share and distribute your salary (or claim a portion of it)?
2. Debt.
   Every debt is your business. Why talk about oppressive loans and debts when you can’t get help from others? But relatives with a high degree of probability will condemn, multiplying the negative.
   
   
   
   
3. Expenses
   How much you spend is your business. Some spend more, some spend less. Talking about your spending, you push people to express their opinion on this. Does anyone know what to spend your money on? In addition, loved ones are unlikely to understand and support if you talk about weaknesses, which willingly spend even the last pennies.
4. Problems
   Talking about troubles, the most you can count on is attention. No one should rush to help you, so you have to solve the problems yourself. So why give people a reason to lecture you again?
   
   
   
   
5. Prospects
   A promotion looms on the horizon, and you're running to brag about a happy future ahead? Stop it. That energy is worth spending to make alluring prospects a reality. And when it's done, you'll share the result, not just idle chatter.
6. Plans
   Planning a purchase? First buy, and then brag, because relatives may not support your aspirations, but only spoil the impression of the acquisition. Are you planning to take a break after a busy day? Take a rest first, and you'll tell me later when you show pictures and hand out souvenirs.
   
   
   
   
   
   
7. The future
   Painting in color what your future will be, and loved ones radiate distrust, undermining your faith? Plans for the future, whether it’s changing jobs or working on a new project, are your business. There are counselors on every corner, but nobody knows what's best but you.

Of course. share Your success can and should be. But discussing these things will not make you or your family happier. Think carefully before sharing your innermost thoughts with anyone. Perhaps it's best to keep it a secret? At least until you get the results.





We recently talked about why we should stop talking to toxic relatives. Such people are hard to see in their surroundings. In addition, we talked about how elementary upbringing and hospitality can turn out for a person. These are peculiarities of communication Better to learn from the mistakes of others, right?