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The girl was punished in different ways, loaded with work, as if she was 12-year-old Cinderella.
Sooner or later, every parent has to answer the question: “Should the child be punished if he is guilty?” Inexperienced mothers and fathers often give free rein to emotions and break down on children. However, psychologists assure that this approach to education is unlikely to bring a good result.
Today's edition. "Site" I invite you to think about it. We will share a wise instructive story, and also tell you what point of view is close to us. It'll be interesting!
I would like to share my story, but I realized that My parents never punished me.. I didn't get to know what the paternal belt was, which my peers were so afraid of. And I never had to stand in a corner or kneel on buckwheat. I hope this kind of bullying is a long time ago.
Back to history. It was told to me by a friend who had a very difficult childhood. When she was young, her father left the family. Yuli was raised by her mother and grandmother. They both often broke down on Yulia: the grandmother was used to this pattern of behavior, and the mother for many years could not move away from the divorce.
As soon as Yula did something wrong, whether it was broken dishes or an untidy room, women’s voices sounded all over the apartment. The girl was punished differently. For example, she could sit at home for a week and not see her friends. Or she was loaded with housework, like she was not a 12-year-old girl, but the new Cinderella.
Around the same age, Julia found herself in a situation that changed a lot in her life. Yuli's mother was going to visit her school teacher. She was 75 years old and wanted to congratulate her. Julia’s grandmother wasn’t home, so her mother decided to take her with her.
Before going out, she said to her, "I hope you behave yourself and don't embarrass me!" All the way Julia was silent, worried about the evening went smoothly. She was always nervous when her mother asked her for something in such a harsh, cold tone.
The situation at the house at Larisa Petrovna smelled of caramel and muffins. She lived in a small bright apartment, where everything smelled of history. The woman met Julia and invited the guests to drink tea. There were already homemade treats and an elegant set on the table. Under each cup lay a cotton napkin embroidered by hand. “I've only seen those in movies. I thought, in ordinary life, napkins with gold threads do not frame ... Julia thought at that moment.
The guests sat down at the table, the hostess poured aromatic tea on miniature cups. Suddenly Julia thought about her every move, afraid to do something wrong. And under the law of meanness, of course, it happened. The girl reached for a cup, but did not grasp her pen well and accidentally spilled tea on that beautiful napkin.
Julia is stuporous. She knew she was waiting for her. The mother jumped up and started yelling at her as if they were not visiting, but at home. In order not to hear the cry and not to see her mother, Julia closed her eyes and put her small palms to her ears. She knew her mother wouldn't rest for long.
But suddenly it stopped. Larisa Petrovna pulled Yulin’s mother and quietly said: “Maria, what are you doing?” Is that miserable napkin worth the tears of that little girl and your bad mood? She's here to get dirty. Think back to school time, did I ever yell at you or one of your classmates? Why are you doing this to your own daughter?
Yuli’s mother could not find a word to answer Larisa Petrovna. She was ashamed and hurt. To say goodbye, an elderly teacher gave Yulia the same napkin: “Gently wash it with your hands and use it.” For a memory!
Since then, Yulia’s mother has never yelled at her daughter again. And every time her mother, Yulina's grandmother, did it, she defended the girl and stopped another family quarrel.
Should I punish a child who accidentally spilled tea on a napkin? My answer is, of course not. However, this applies not only to such situations, but, in fact, anything. I am convinced that it is necessary to talk to children, to explain to them why one should act one way or another. Cries and endless abuse do not help parents in the education of their child. On the contrary, it destroys such an important and valuable contact between the child and his father and mother.
Not so long ago on the YouTube channel “Gentle Editor” there was a video dedicated to the topic of fatherhood. However, it will also be useful for mothers. If you are just planning to have a child or are already raising your baby, be sure to watch this video on the link.
What's your position? Do you think the child should be punished at all? Boldly share your opinion in the comments!
Today's edition. "Site" I invite you to think about it. We will share a wise instructive story, and also tell you what point of view is close to us. It'll be interesting!
I would like to share my story, but I realized that My parents never punished me.. I didn't get to know what the paternal belt was, which my peers were so afraid of. And I never had to stand in a corner or kneel on buckwheat. I hope this kind of bullying is a long time ago.
Back to history. It was told to me by a friend who had a very difficult childhood. When she was young, her father left the family. Yuli was raised by her mother and grandmother. They both often broke down on Yulia: the grandmother was used to this pattern of behavior, and the mother for many years could not move away from the divorce.
As soon as Yula did something wrong, whether it was broken dishes or an untidy room, women’s voices sounded all over the apartment. The girl was punished differently. For example, she could sit at home for a week and not see her friends. Or she was loaded with housework, like she was not a 12-year-old girl, but the new Cinderella.
Around the same age, Julia found herself in a situation that changed a lot in her life. Yuli's mother was going to visit her school teacher. She was 75 years old and wanted to congratulate her. Julia’s grandmother wasn’t home, so her mother decided to take her with her.
Before going out, she said to her, "I hope you behave yourself and don't embarrass me!" All the way Julia was silent, worried about the evening went smoothly. She was always nervous when her mother asked her for something in such a harsh, cold tone.
The situation at the house at Larisa Petrovna smelled of caramel and muffins. She lived in a small bright apartment, where everything smelled of history. The woman met Julia and invited the guests to drink tea. There were already homemade treats and an elegant set on the table. Under each cup lay a cotton napkin embroidered by hand. “I've only seen those in movies. I thought, in ordinary life, napkins with gold threads do not frame ... Julia thought at that moment.
The guests sat down at the table, the hostess poured aromatic tea on miniature cups. Suddenly Julia thought about her every move, afraid to do something wrong. And under the law of meanness, of course, it happened. The girl reached for a cup, but did not grasp her pen well and accidentally spilled tea on that beautiful napkin.
Julia is stuporous. She knew she was waiting for her. The mother jumped up and started yelling at her as if they were not visiting, but at home. In order not to hear the cry and not to see her mother, Julia closed her eyes and put her small palms to her ears. She knew her mother wouldn't rest for long.
But suddenly it stopped. Larisa Petrovna pulled Yulin’s mother and quietly said: “Maria, what are you doing?” Is that miserable napkin worth the tears of that little girl and your bad mood? She's here to get dirty. Think back to school time, did I ever yell at you or one of your classmates? Why are you doing this to your own daughter?
Yuli’s mother could not find a word to answer Larisa Petrovna. She was ashamed and hurt. To say goodbye, an elderly teacher gave Yulia the same napkin: “Gently wash it with your hands and use it.” For a memory!
Since then, Yulia’s mother has never yelled at her daughter again. And every time her mother, Yulina's grandmother, did it, she defended the girl and stopped another family quarrel.
Should I punish a child who accidentally spilled tea on a napkin? My answer is, of course not. However, this applies not only to such situations, but, in fact, anything. I am convinced that it is necessary to talk to children, to explain to them why one should act one way or another. Cries and endless abuse do not help parents in the education of their child. On the contrary, it destroys such an important and valuable contact between the child and his father and mother.
Not so long ago on the YouTube channel “Gentle Editor” there was a video dedicated to the topic of fatherhood. However, it will also be useful for mothers. If you are just planning to have a child or are already raising your baby, be sure to watch this video on the link.
What's your position? Do you think the child should be punished at all? Boldly share your opinion in the comments!
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