How to Forgive a Daughter Who Ruined Her Personal Life Forever

There are all sorts of conflicts in families. They are especially felt between children and parents. It happened to me and my daughter. After she behaved, I find it hard to believe her. And I don't know what to do.



After 20 years of a difficult marriage with a powerful husband, we finally decided to divorce. Everything was peaceful, given the previous years of life together. We have two teenage children. My son decided to live with my father, and my daughter stayed with me.

Before I filed for divorce, I began correspondence with a man on the Internet. He was a very nice person, but we met live after I submitted the documents. We quickly began a relationship that quickly turned into a romance. Of course, we didn't advertise it.

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My daughter has a difficult character, fatherly. Like him, she also tends to keep things under control, so our life together was not the most peaceful. Adolescent behavior is, of course, ubiquitous, but my daughter was a little different. In addition to unpleasant behavior, she regularly made complaints and was constantly unhappy with something.

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One day she picked up my phone and found correspondence with a friend from the Internet. That same day, she demanded that I tell my father. I said no, and she started screaming and screaming. And it went on for days. Screams, condemnations, demands that I confess, because it is “ashamed to look my father in the eye” after such a deception.

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After a week of such pressure, I could not stand it and told my husband about everything. Of course, he was offended, and since then we have hardly communicated. He's not talking to me about the divorce. He doesn’t even want to talk about how his son is doing.

I am very sorry that I was manipulated by a teenager. She would have told my father about my affair anyway. She's already told her brother. He took everything calmly and without judgment.

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When my husband found out about what was going on in my family because of our relationship, he decided to leave. He did not want to be part of such a conflict.

I'm alone now. Living with my daughter is very difficult. I can't forgive her for interfering with my privacy and blackmailing me. Because of her, I was unable to properly divorce my husband and maintain a relationship with my beloved man.

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But on the other hand, she's still a child. And most importantly, my baby. In this situation, there is also my fault. Divorce is always stressful for a child. I don’t want to make the problem worse. Of course, I could send my daughter to live with her father, but she doesn't want to. He doesn't like me. I don't know what to do. I think I'm a bad mother.

What actions should be taken in the case of problematic behavior of adolescents? What should I tell my daughter and what should my mother do? Share with us in the comments!