How to convince children to come home more often, because the father and mother are very bored

How much love, care and motherly warmth children receive while they are still in the parent’s nest! The connection of the closest people is so great and strong that it seems that it will always be so. Unfortunately, children grow up and move away. The words of the mother of an adult daughter from today life-story “Oh, that’s not how my father and I raised you, oh, not like that...” There, if you like, a whole palette of feelings and unfulfilled dreams.

What about the grown-up daughter? Readers, judge for yourselves! Everyone has their own truth. But can all the actions be justified?

The words of the mother of an adult daughter Marina Pavlovna has three children who have long grown up and left the parental nest. The eldest and his family live abroad. When I was young, I never saw him again. Just photos, letters and greeting cards on holidays. A woman keeps everything carefully and often, especially on long winter evenings, re-reads.



“Son, missed with your father for you, would have come at least once, and with the daughter-in-law-grandchildren would have introduced ...”, writes the mother. Only the son has no time, he has his own life.

The middle - Polinushka - married to a military man. Everything in the cities and towns rides and wanders. They have one daughter, sometimes they come to visit, but very rarely and briefly. Marina Pavlovna's husband is very respectful of his son-in-law, San Sanych, they are happy together for the middle daughter, well settled in life. When he arrives, he sees his eyes glowing with happiness. So everything is fine in the family, so the soul is calm for her.

But the youngest — Lyudusya — all one. Still at home in the village, she married, but after the birth of her son Andryusha, family life did not work out, they separated from her husband. She clung to the words of the mother of an adult daughter: “Go to the city.” Why sit in the village? And you're still young and beautiful, you have to make things better. Lyuda went to the city, studied as a seamstress and got a job in a sewing factory, then took her grandson.

“In the city he will be better, there is a school nearby and different clubs – not bored,” said the daughter, collecting his son, and he clutched his grandmother’s skirt and quietly cried. Who is the mother who can cross...



GettyImages The decision to visit an adult daughter “You will be without me for a week,” Marina Pavlovna said to her husband, “I can’t continue living like this, my soul is sore, I need to visit Lyudochka.”

My grandfather also planned to go, but the trouble was that he became ill by the end of the summer.

Loaded large bags and packages with guests from the village. The sun had not yet risen, as Ivan Vasilyevich put his wife on the train. Yeah, it's gonna be a little hard on her with a bag like that, but where to go.

For almost a day, Marina Pavlovna was riding in a stuffy carriage of a seat card. She lay on the lower side shelf and imagined how her daughter and grandson would come and hug her. These thoughts and dreams warmed the soul along the way. It's been three years since I saw you, Andriushka, probably, grew up, stretched out.

“Mom, why didn’t you tell me in advance?” You could have called me, but I have to take a day off from work, pick up my kid from school, then go to the grocery store. A whole day like a squirrel in a wheel as soon as I got your telegram.”



GettyImages: I'm so sorry, honey, I wanted to surprise you! I sent a telegram the old-fashioned way. You know, the connection in our village is not always there, explained the mother, walking from the bus stop.

“Maybe there is something you are not saying? If what didn't happen? How's Dad doing?

“Yes, all is well, slightly ill, it happens to him in autumn. And we are still in good health.

The door to the apartment was opened by Andrew, his grandson. God, he's grown up over the years. His shoulders were wide, like his grandfather's. And hands.

“Hello granddaughter!” his grandmother hugged him tightly.

"Okay, ba," - the boy quickly released from his arms and began to look at his grandmother.

Dialogues, or What words of the mother of an adult daughter went into the heart "Why did you not meet me out of the way, barely dragged bags with guests and your simple things," Marina Pavlovna reproachfully looked at her daughter.



GettyImages: Well, that's how you got ready. I cooked borscht and fryed the cutlets. It is not an empty table to meet your mother.”

Well, borscht so borscht. A few minutes later, the woman shouted into the phone to her husband: “It’s okay!” We met, we helped! Don't worry at all, here we sit down at the table, the daughter cooked dinner, delicious. Greetings from all of you!

When they sat down at the table, Luda poured borscht on plates and asked: "Mom, do you want one patty or two?".

Marina Pavlovna was hungry on the road so that she would have eaten all three, but she looked at her daughter and said: “You put it on the table, I will take it myself.”

There were five small cutlets on the dish. Everyone ate one. The woman reached for the second, and the third did not take – uncomfortable. I remember how I always cooked a lot for children, especially for holidays (a whole bowl of cutlet) to eat full. And here ... maybe the daughter with finances is futile, maybe we should help with money, because savings are small. He and his grandparents will be rich this year.

Then I walked all the rooms. There is fresh renovation everywhere, new furniture, TV in the hall on the whole wall. The grandson has a small room, but cozy, everything in it is available.



GettyImages The first hints that mom is here extra “Mom, how long are you staying with us?” asked Luda, washing dishes in the kitchen.

"Are you not happy with tea? Just arrived, and when will I leave you interested? ?

“It’s just that the tickets are tight right now. You need to take it right away, otherwise you'll have to take a seat on the sidewalk again, and even at the end of the car. You, Mom, would give me your passport, I'll go to the train station tomorrow. In such a way that this case should not be put off in a long box.”

Marina Pavlovna shrugged her shoulders, well, that's the way it should be. She spent the evening in the company of her grandson, looked at photos, and then - videos from school mornings. Happy for Andrew, smart guy grows up, smart. Oh, it's a pity Grandpa won't see it, we'll have to ask him to sign a picture.



GettyImages' decision to get out of sight So it's been a few days. Every night, relationships and communication became colder. The grandson began to lock himself in the room more often, doing lessons, or even running away to the neighbors to play the console. And Luda was late from work, then she met with friends in the evening. I came, took off my boots and went to bed right away.

Marina Pavlovna was bored with simple human warmth and caress. That's not how she imagined meeting her daughter, oh, wrong. She called her husband and went to collect some of her belongings. Walking past my grandson’s room, I heard a conversation between my daughter and my son.

“Mama, when will Uncle Yura come?” He promised to take me to football.

“Soon, my son, my grandmother will leave,” replied Luda.

"When will Grandma leave?"

I did not listen, tears came to my eyes. Holding on to the wall and with the other hand to the heart, she entered the room. She packed her things quickly, put on her coat and was already standing at the door when her daughter came out into the hallway.



GettyImages: Where are you going tonight? The train is tomorrow night.

"Nothing, I'll change the ticket. Oh, my dear, this is not how my father and I raised you. I won't tell him anything, or he'll start to worry. Thanks for the photos, he asked for everything, he wants to see his grandson. Good-bye!

Sit down and drive well. The place is normal, not sideways, and on that daughter thank you. True, I had to sit at the station at night, wrapped in an old shawl. On the night train, the woman looked out the window and thought how fast life had flown, all these years. And how he and his father did not need adult children, but how much love, care and parental warmth was invested in them.

“Hello, Marinochka, how did you get there?” asked her husband, meeting him at the station. I didn’t find a place for myself, I missed myself so much that I lost weight!

Marina Pavlovna hugged him and smiled. While someone is waiting, someone still needs it.



GettyImages from the editorial office How do you like this story? We believe I didn't leave you indifferent. But tell me, which side are you on? An adult daughter who has every right to privacy and space? Or on the side of Marina Pavlovna, who, with emotional trepidation and warmth somewhere naively, but sincerely, imagined another picture of a meeting with her younger daughter? Leave a comment.

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