Why the words “men don’t cry” should be banned Bashny.Net

Biochemist William Fry found that women cry 3.5 times a month. Men also cry, but 2 times less. Crying is a person’s reaction to experiences. Crying can be the result of prolonged stress, stress, positive or negative emotions. The scientists concluded that Crying is good for your health. During emotional crying, facial muscles contract and breathing increases. And this contributes to the saturation of organs with oxygen and reduces stress.



Maybe that’s why men’s life expectancy is lower than women’s? Gender stereotypes Men are forbidden to express their emotions by crying. A man should always be strong physically and emotionally, he is not allowed to show weakness. Especially when you cry for whatever reason. If you look at it, it sounds crazy. After all, crying from the loss of a loved one, crying from happiness or emotional experiences is natural. So why did women take their tears?



Toxic masculinity is a set of social ideas about what the behavior of a normal man should look like. In fact, this is a set of well-established habitual qualities that society gives the ideal, in its opinion, male. That is, a man must be strong, brave, fearless, and a number of qualities with the word “should”.



Since childhood Boys are forbidden to cry Or to express your emotions to any degree. This is considered shameful and unworthy behavior. Such an attitude and ardent advocacy of gender stereotypes harm the male psyche. When a man does not correspond to universal ideas, he experiences stress and powerlessness from the fact that he does not reach the bar set by society.



Psychologist Gary Barker says toxic masculinity is unhealthy masculinity. It harms both the man and his surroundings. The more a man believes in such limited notions of masculinity, the more he is prone to destructive behavior. Scientifically proven that drunkenness, violence, harassment or use of psychotropic substances is toxicityInconsistency with the public perception of men.



Because of the established beliefs about masculinity, men have problems in relationships. They distance themselves from their own children and loved ones because of their own beliefs: “A man should not be a rag and show feelings.” When a man accumulates emotions in himself and can not give them free rein because of his beliefs, it affects physical health. How many men seek medical help in a timely manner? This is a manifestation of weakness, it is better to endure and aggravate the situation - the victim of toxic masculinity will decide. And who would he make worse? That's right, to myself.



According to Gary Barker, healthy masculinity is manifested in accepting any gender change. He is not afraid to ask for help, takes care of his health and shares his experiences with loved ones. A healthy man is not annoyed by the presence of LGBT communities. No one really needs a cool guy mask. The most important thing is to be able to share your experiences and build trusting relationships. Then there will be relief.



So, dear friend, crying is normal. Going to the doctor when something is disturbing is also normal. Taking care of your children as well as your wife is wonderful. Be yourself and stop following conservatives. When men stop being afraid to show their feelings openly, then the world will be a little kinder. What do you say?