How to explain to your always complaining friend that no one owes her anything

We all live in a world full of various illusions. One can observe the following picture: people who have little contact with society create a world for themselves, in which they replace reality with their own conjectures about how everything should be. These worlds are pink, and it is very unpleasant when they appear from anywhere. awkwardness.



We're in the newsroom. "Site" We decided to dispel some myths to show you how much more prosaic and self-serving the world is than it really seems. This doesn’t mean you have to hate everyone, but sometimes you have to tell yourself the truth. Some things in life are easier to perceive when you clearly understand what is happening.

“Sorry, I’m too busy and forget to call you.” The inconvenient truth is that no one is really busy enough not to respond to your message. You become dependent on circumstances, waiting for an answer, but people deliberately do not want to answer you. Here's the thing. If the answer to your question is long, just stop waiting for it. Because he's gone.



My interest is more important than yours. No one's gonna break into a cake for you. You can know this person personally, be confident in his reputation, but he will first think about himself and his problems. It’s important to be able to say no, because only strong people do that. And the weak, as you can imagine, are just being used. So don’t drive yourself and always think about your own interests.

You can’t please everyone, it’s a truth you should always remember. Different people want different things, and if you indulge everyone, you can turn into something completely formless. And someone won't like that either. The only person who needs to please is you. And your loved ones whose opinions matter to you. There will always be someone who tries to criticize you.



You can justify yourself as much as you like and feel sorry for yourself and do not find time to live the life that you see in your wildest dreams. I don’t like that definition, but I use it: Successful people ignore their excuses. They just keep going instead of pitying themselves. That's how smart I am, and I'm not appreciated. Even the basic “I’m tired today” doesn’t work for you.

The inconvenient truth about the thoughts "According to your business." Even the Bible says that. What's the use of the castles in the air drawn in your head? You are defined only by your actions. How many steps you take is all yours. Yes, for this you need to go out into the world, and it can be gray, inhospitable and prickly. It's out of fear that you don't know much about him. Get to the surface, gain experience and act!



No matter where you go, you always take yourself with you. I want to believe in luck, in the chance that the social elevator will suddenly take you upstairs. But that's never the case in life. Problems need to be solved on their own, they need to be worked on. And most of them are -- right! -- in your head. So start with yourself.

It would be strange to expect something from the world just like that. Even a good and beautiful man like you. You can wait a lifetime for the world to notice you because you think you deserve more. You can start living your life right now and finally give yourself a chance to open up. That's the reality.



Sometimes it is very difficult to tell yourself that you are an ordinary person, just like everyone else. Yes, you see and perceive things differently. Yeah, you're sweet inside, and you want everybody to be nice. But, alas, that's not enough now. The world will not see you until you act. The truth is that you can only help yourself.



An uncomfortable truth Rarely anyone has to taste, but a refreshing shower is not superfluous. Especially for those who are used to shifting responsibility for their lives to others. Write in the comments what you think about this. We suggest you look at the material on how to admit your mistakes. Thank you for staying with us!