Despicable blackmail of mother-in-law who refuses to sit with children of working parents

When parents spend a lot of time at work, childcare Most often it falls on the shoulders of grandparents. But when relationships in the family are not the best way, such mutual assistance may not be. Who'd you leave the baby with?

Today's edition. "Site" will share the story of our subscriber, who at first was very happy that she could leave the child with her mother-in-law. However, one unpleasant conversation confused all plans and put the young family in a difficult position.



When my mother-in-law suggested that she would look after our Dimochka while we were working, I was very happy. There was not enough money lately and I had to go to work. And with whom to leave a two-year-old child, we could not imagine. And there is such help, writes Svetlana.



“But it was all over within two months. We visited our mother-in-law for the holidays, and her daughter was there too. They both began to teach me, to advise me, to tell me something. I got angry and told them everything I thought. We ended up fighting, I took the baby and went home.

And in the evening, when my husband and I were already going to bed, my mother-in-law called and said that if she was so bad, there was nothing to come to her for help. “And with the child now cope yourself, I have enough of my own worries,” said and hung up. I didn't even have time to object.”



“My husband only spreads his hands. As soon as there's a fight, he's on Mom's side. Now she says it's my fault when I didn't stay away. And his mother, they say, does not have to sit with our child. And so, she says, we should be grateful to her for helping us so much.”

"It's wonderful! I have to go to work and leave the baby with no one. Your mother-in-law put us in such a stupid position, and we still have to bow to her? I just don't know what to do. After all, I can only give Dimochka to kindergarten in September. What about September? ?



My mom works on the same schedule as me, Monday to Friday. We don't have any money for a nanny. Where can I find her this weekend? My husband does not offer anything, only insists that I reconcile with my mother-in-law, but I do not want to hear it. Today she says one thing, and tomorrow she will think again.”

“I’m pretty sure that this precious relative just got tired of sitting with her grandson, so she set it up to make me feel guilty.” She does her own business. What's the pensioner doing? Especially in winter. I wouldn’t laugh, a young woman said.



What do we do? One thing is clear that if Svetlana does not find a common language with her mother-in-law, then she will hardly have to count on the help of her husband's mother. But on the other hand, it could be for the best. After all, it is always better to cope with your worries on your own, and you do not have to listen to complaints.

Therefore, other solutions should be sought. Perhaps a woman will have to go on maternity leave again, or even look for a job that allows her to work at home. Maybe we can find a nanny with an hourly fee. Or among the neighbors will be mothers in the decree, together with which you can find a mutually beneficial solution.



In any case, you should not sprinkle your head with ash, but it is better to look for options. Perhaps the mother-in-law was really tired of messing around with her grandson and would soon refuse to help. Even if at the last meeting we could do without a quarrel.