Successful couples who live together for a long time: the Unwritten rules

Success factors for a pair of1. The renegotiation of the contract (unwritten and not always fully spoken), giving the illusion that the original match, unwitting pledges, add-ons can remain without major changes, and awareness.

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2. Humor, teasing each other and distance, which is achieved by the flexibility, not only in worldly success, who meet each other, but also finding unexpected points of view, deterioration through the joke and the irony.

3. The success of each of something unique and recognition of others. The measure and proportion of dependence — independence. That is, the resonance with each other in several unexpected axes, often not noticeable to others. For example, it is well relieves stress of attending, but nothing without asking, and not demanding of attention when he comes home wound up. How people form a "vestibule and the transition" from one state to another.

4. Resistance pair to the inevitable surrounding platitudesand averaging, for example to the glamorous requirements of youth, thinness and generally "alignment at the picture" (which is always a stranger). That is, sense pairs "we don't really like it" and help each other to find this originality.

5. Help in the details, for example, he gets the best definition of events and the lens for a look at a number of things, and she's proud of and sometimes to ridicule his decision, made casually and on the fly.

6. Active physical contact, touch and looks, that is their particular space. This includes the ability to cultivate smells and sensations, pleasant, often coming from childhood. For example, she is able to fry the potatoes just like he loved once, and for him to bring her flowers and to understand her attachment to smells.

7. Knowledge and evolving sexual preferences, proportion of maintenance habits and the introduction of novelty, "we are" and "life is not stopped."

8. The right to the loneliness of the other and letting go of the "leash". The opportunity to leave and leave, right to return, thumbs up. The pulse relationship, and not fixed into rigid rules.

9. Often the couple argues and quarrels endlessly, but it is a combination of love-hate, attraction — irritation, is much more effective than "smooth" relations, which arise from time to time with others. Contradictions and similarities form the alloy. published


Author: Leonid Krol

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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