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Eckhart Tolle: Any attachment starts with pain and ends with pain
Any attachment stems from a subconscious refusal to meet openly with their own pain and go through it. Any affection with pain begins and pain ends.
What would you experienced any affection is to alcohol, food, permitted or prohibited drugs or to you use that something and that someone in order to cover up their pain. That's why after the initial euphoria of intimate relations, they appear so much misery and so much pain.
By themselves, these relationships do not cause pain and unhappiness. They pull out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Similarly acting any other attachment. Any attachment will inevitably come to the point where she pretty much has no effect on you, and then you feel the pain much sharper than ever before.
This is one of the reasons why most people avoid the present moment and are trying to find at least some salvation in the future. The first thing they would face, focusing on the present moment, would be their own pain, and this is exactly what they fear most.
If they only knew how easy, staying in the present moment, to gain access to the power of God's Presence that dissolves the past with all its pain and to the reality that will dispel the illusion. If they only knew how close they are to their reality, as they are close to God.
Avoiding relationships to avoid pain — not a solution. The pain is there anyway. Three failures in relationships for the same number of years are more likely to push you through to the search for God in its own depths than three years on a desert island or three years spent locked up.published
©Eckhart Tolle
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/blog/15486/
What would you experienced any affection is to alcohol, food, permitted or prohibited drugs or to you use that something and that someone in order to cover up their pain. That's why after the initial euphoria of intimate relations, they appear so much misery and so much pain.
By themselves, these relationships do not cause pain and unhappiness. They pull out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you. Similarly acting any other attachment. Any attachment will inevitably come to the point where she pretty much has no effect on you, and then you feel the pain much sharper than ever before.
This is one of the reasons why most people avoid the present moment and are trying to find at least some salvation in the future. The first thing they would face, focusing on the present moment, would be their own pain, and this is exactly what they fear most.
If they only knew how easy, staying in the present moment, to gain access to the power of God's Presence that dissolves the past with all its pain and to the reality that will dispel the illusion. If they only knew how close they are to their reality, as they are close to God.
Avoiding relationships to avoid pain — not a solution. The pain is there anyway. Three failures in relationships for the same number of years are more likely to push you through to the search for God in its own depths than three years on a desert island or three years spent locked up.published
©Eckhart Tolle
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/blog/15486/
