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We share everything! and 9 mistakes in a relationship
The family is a boat sailing on the rough and winding river of life. Pair – two rowers that kept the paddle. Relationship is how these rowers rowing. Smoothly and synchronously or, as in the fable of Krylov "Swan, pike and cancer" each to his own.
"The casting is over. The choice is made!"
Stop checking your mate for suitability, creating him (her) provocative situations. Remember how in the tale of Ivan Tsarevich and Vasilisa the Beautiful. Do not wait for Ivan and burned the skin there are the frog pads, for what he paid. Your significant other already chose you, why even check the "loves or not"? Ask yourself what bothers you, what are you hesitating for?
"Die rather than surrender!"
It is not necessary to prove his innocence at the cost of all its nerves. Think about it, why are you doing this? What you want to prove to(my)yourself? Why is it so important you insist? The problem with many couples is that they are like two warriors compete and eager to win at any cost. If your husband put dirty in the sink not washed, and towel in the bathroom hung exactly is imperfect is not a reason to make a huge scandal!
Try to talk calmly and explain what kind of feelings do you have about a glass and a towel, and most importantly, how would you like to see your favorite came in next time. If you do that without accusations and allegations, that you will hear.
"You can't have secrets from me!"
Personal life and personal space should be for everyone is important. It is important not to confuse personal life and life on the side. If you are married, don't make excuse to your other half beginning to suspect you of infidelity. You are in a couple, but you will continue to be individuals, with their needs, interests, friends, Hobbies, secrets – and that's what is right for every family. If your significant other is hiding from you phone, someone calls and the question of "Who is it?" answers evasively or jokes (lying) – think about it, everything is okay in your relationship?
"We share everything!"
The person must continue to grow and develop. The merger, says that your significant other is not growing and developing as a person. She is afraid of losing you, therefore, to seek to merge with you in all areas of your activities. Then and there – jealousy, scandals and tantrums. Steam is an organism that develops harmoniously. If someone develops – pair collapses. Pay attention to your mate – she's got issues and need help, your or specialist.
"Your phone – my phone! I want to know all about you!"
Why? Who gave you the right to dig into other people's things? Yes, Yes it is in the wrong! Because the phone is not yours, so ... If you trust each other, and build on their relationship, and hide what you don't. And hence the reason to secretly check your phone, the second half will not occur. Of course, if your significant other does not suffer from jealousy (not confident in their abilities, not a full person) or you give reason to think so. How honest is your relationship? Do you trust each other?
"I am for you, and you..." or "He(and) I(on)..."
Want to disappoint you – no one owes nothing! Why? Where recorded this debt? To be a victim and sacrifice yourself – it's your choice. What's your other half? Your victim nobody wants more she starts to get bored, then annoy and after does cause revulsion.
Think about whether you want such an attitude? If not – stop being a victim! There must be a twist, otherwise it is not interesting! Remember when you first met, unless you were like this (hell)? Is it you (you) love? Remember your mood, your look, voice, gait, dreams, goals...
"Social is important to me!"
Many young couples spend their free time, especially in the evenings, browsing the Internet, namely social networks. He — his, she – her. Virtual communication is becoming important for everyone, but not for the pair. Often there is a virtual flirting, which someone develops a real intrigue. Sooner or later it is detected and the relationships crack like a porcelain vase.
And even if the reality isn't reached – the relationship and trust tarnished. Put on one scale virtualnoe his fleeting passion, and the other in their marriage. What will outweigh? Ask yourself the question, what do you give this hobby and what is missing in the marriage? Talk about this with your partner, share your thoughts
"To have a baby at any cost!"
From the birth of the child your relationship will not get better. If you are unable to establish them before the child's birth, then after birth, your relationship will be even worse. The child tests the strength of your family boat that you call "Marriage". What was causing only discontent, now become a stumbling block. Did the child's fault that two adults are unable to learn to live together in peace and understanding?
"Psychological infertility" — with the diagnosis often come to me young couples. They still continue to fight each other, proving to yourself who's boss, who is right. It's two kids in a fight. The energy level is two of the male energy. Female no. Where's the baby? Of course not! If you want to have a child, become adults!
"Leisure is like?"
Spending time together is very important. Matter how to visit with friends, relatives, and spending that time just the two of us. If you avoid spending time together and always find a reason to call someone (friends, relatives...) for a walk, picnic, a trip... go where you wanted to go together, think about what bothers you to be alone with each other? Remember how before the wedding you spend time? In the same way? What has changed? Why you are not interested to be together? Remember, no one is obliged to entertain and make your leisure time enjoyable! Paired everything is equal – is invested, both of you.
Unsolicited advisers: set the distance with such people!Poisoned relationship
"I'll tell you which one (s) you...!"
Why to take out quarrels from a log hut, if it's just crap? Today you fight, tomorrow we make it up, and the mother, the girlfriend (friend) or sister (brother) remaining in the role of Rescuer, will wonder what happened, so forgive Often, friends are not friends and in case of any slack, knowing your problem, quickly take the place of the wife in this relationship the role of comfort girls.
Many even manage to talk about their family troubles at work. You know, your problems are none of the colleagues do not need, but listen to the story as well is interesting. Because of your background they are all wonderful.
Author: Natalia Pokhotelov
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/article/tipichnye_oshibki_vo_vzaimootnosheniyah/
"The casting is over. The choice is made!"
Stop checking your mate for suitability, creating him (her) provocative situations. Remember how in the tale of Ivan Tsarevich and Vasilisa the Beautiful. Do not wait for Ivan and burned the skin there are the frog pads, for what he paid. Your significant other already chose you, why even check the "loves or not"? Ask yourself what bothers you, what are you hesitating for?
"Die rather than surrender!"
It is not necessary to prove his innocence at the cost of all its nerves. Think about it, why are you doing this? What you want to prove to(my)yourself? Why is it so important you insist? The problem with many couples is that they are like two warriors compete and eager to win at any cost. If your husband put dirty in the sink not washed, and towel in the bathroom hung exactly is imperfect is not a reason to make a huge scandal!
Try to talk calmly and explain what kind of feelings do you have about a glass and a towel, and most importantly, how would you like to see your favorite came in next time. If you do that without accusations and allegations, that you will hear.
"You can't have secrets from me!"
Personal life and personal space should be for everyone is important. It is important not to confuse personal life and life on the side. If you are married, don't make excuse to your other half beginning to suspect you of infidelity. You are in a couple, but you will continue to be individuals, with their needs, interests, friends, Hobbies, secrets – and that's what is right for every family. If your significant other is hiding from you phone, someone calls and the question of "Who is it?" answers evasively or jokes (lying) – think about it, everything is okay in your relationship?
"We share everything!"
The person must continue to grow and develop. The merger, says that your significant other is not growing and developing as a person. She is afraid of losing you, therefore, to seek to merge with you in all areas of your activities. Then and there – jealousy, scandals and tantrums. Steam is an organism that develops harmoniously. If someone develops – pair collapses. Pay attention to your mate – she's got issues and need help, your or specialist.
"Your phone – my phone! I want to know all about you!"
Why? Who gave you the right to dig into other people's things? Yes, Yes it is in the wrong! Because the phone is not yours, so ... If you trust each other, and build on their relationship, and hide what you don't. And hence the reason to secretly check your phone, the second half will not occur. Of course, if your significant other does not suffer from jealousy (not confident in their abilities, not a full person) or you give reason to think so. How honest is your relationship? Do you trust each other?
"I am for you, and you..." or "He(and) I(on)..."
Want to disappoint you – no one owes nothing! Why? Where recorded this debt? To be a victim and sacrifice yourself – it's your choice. What's your other half? Your victim nobody wants more she starts to get bored, then annoy and after does cause revulsion.
Think about whether you want such an attitude? If not – stop being a victim! There must be a twist, otherwise it is not interesting! Remember when you first met, unless you were like this (hell)? Is it you (you) love? Remember your mood, your look, voice, gait, dreams, goals...
"Social is important to me!"
Many young couples spend their free time, especially in the evenings, browsing the Internet, namely social networks. He — his, she – her. Virtual communication is becoming important for everyone, but not for the pair. Often there is a virtual flirting, which someone develops a real intrigue. Sooner or later it is detected and the relationships crack like a porcelain vase.
And even if the reality isn't reached – the relationship and trust tarnished. Put on one scale virtualnoe his fleeting passion, and the other in their marriage. What will outweigh? Ask yourself the question, what do you give this hobby and what is missing in the marriage? Talk about this with your partner, share your thoughts
"To have a baby at any cost!"
From the birth of the child your relationship will not get better. If you are unable to establish them before the child's birth, then after birth, your relationship will be even worse. The child tests the strength of your family boat that you call "Marriage". What was causing only discontent, now become a stumbling block. Did the child's fault that two adults are unable to learn to live together in peace and understanding?
"Psychological infertility" — with the diagnosis often come to me young couples. They still continue to fight each other, proving to yourself who's boss, who is right. It's two kids in a fight. The energy level is two of the male energy. Female no. Where's the baby? Of course not! If you want to have a child, become adults!
"Leisure is like?"
Spending time together is very important. Matter how to visit with friends, relatives, and spending that time just the two of us. If you avoid spending time together and always find a reason to call someone (friends, relatives...) for a walk, picnic, a trip... go where you wanted to go together, think about what bothers you to be alone with each other? Remember how before the wedding you spend time? In the same way? What has changed? Why you are not interested to be together? Remember, no one is obliged to entertain and make your leisure time enjoyable! Paired everything is equal – is invested, both of you.
Unsolicited advisers: set the distance with such people!Poisoned relationship
"I'll tell you which one (s) you...!"
Why to take out quarrels from a log hut, if it's just crap? Today you fight, tomorrow we make it up, and the mother, the girlfriend (friend) or sister (brother) remaining in the role of Rescuer, will wonder what happened, so forgive Often, friends are not friends and in case of any slack, knowing your problem, quickly take the place of the wife in this relationship the role of comfort girls.
Many even manage to talk about their family troubles at work. You know, your problems are none of the colleagues do not need, but listen to the story as well is interesting. Because of your background they are all wonderful.
Author: Natalia Pokhotelov
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.b17.ru/article/tipichnye_oshibki_vo_vzaimootnosheniyah/
