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If I Was 22: The Hunger That Eliminates Fear of Failure
You and I have certainly grown up in a different environment, and I don't want to pretend to know your personal goals or expectations. And yet I remember what it meant to be twenty: I loved music, I loved girls, and the press rocked so violently that it might well pass for a first job.
My focus on fun shifted dramatically over time when another force came into my life, a force that is the main catalyst for making something—anything—of myself.
First of all, you have to find your passion.
I have always said that passion is the foundation of genius.
Passion is the force that awakens you. Passion takes the lid off imagination, ability and drive. It frees your mind from limiting beliefs and breaks down old thought patterns. Passion is what gives you a sense of purpose.
Young enthusiasm helps to do almost everything that needs to be done, but if you force yourself to do something, then this energy will not last long.
Passion awakens such a strong desire that you simply do not have to force yourself. There is another driving force within you, the force that pulls you forward.
If someone asks me, Tony, what’s the biggest secret to success in life? Every great leader I’ve had the privilege of working with, whether in politics, sports, music or business, has been successful because of one, the most important force. And that power is hunger.
What is the difference between passion and hunger?
Passion is the first gear, it shifts, but hunger is the ticket that gets you to your destination.
It is human nature to light up big dreams, the spark of passion is easy to knock out, especially in youth. But when it comes to fulfilling a dream, the enthusiasm suddenly subsides, because we begin to fear one thing: failure.
But the good news is that hunger destroys the fear of failure.
Hunger will help overcome it. Hunger will give you determination. It is the force that binds you to a commitment, it fastens you to the intended result, and you will not sleep at night until you achieve your goal. Hunger cannot be suppressed.
It's not enough to crave results. You need to want it so much that you feel out of place until you get what you want. You are willing to die getting what you want, and there are no other options.
If you want to take the island, burn the boats.
This insatiable hunger will be the only thing that will not allow you to settle for less. Hunger is the X Factor that won’t necessarily make your resume stand out from the pack, but I promise you it will be the driving force that will pull you forward and to the breakthrough when everyone else is exhausted, lost or paused.
Today, the whole world is in your pocket. You just have to reach out and take it, but listen to me... if you feel hungry.
If you don't, you're fine. Life always has two choices: to grow or die. Climb up or slide down. And sometimes hunger is waiting for your back to hit the wall, when you're at the bottom of the pit and you're looking up.
If you plan to retreat a little more, then you still have somewhere to fall.
This explains why many people are unable to pursue their passion. They take a step forward and two back until they fall and start over, sometimes something completely different. They live in a world of stumbling steps and false starts. It's what passion does without hunger, and that means it's just one thing: that you don't jump, you don't commit, you hold your horses because you're afraid of failure and you're more comfortable falling on a soft straw.
Having a safety net – parents, relatives, a comfortable hometown, decent work – creates a huge sense of comfort and confidence. But what looks like an asset can, in effect, be a cannonball on the leg and paralyze the will-depriving force of inertia.
What I want to say is that today we have the highest percentage of people between the ages of 25 and 34 living with their parents in history at 15%. I'm not trying to judge anyone, there's nothing wrong with living at home, but when your mom stuffs the fridge all the time, you just don't have a chance to get hungry.
Having to deal with difficulty is an invaluable experience. But the real need arises only when you pursue your passion. Passion is the only true need to take action.
So my question is:
What's your passion? What do you live for?
Let me be clear: I am not asking who you want to be. What do you want to create? What can you give me? What's your gift? What do you want to do better than anyone else on this earth? What do you want to do every day and never get bored? What are you willing to share with the world? That's your passion.
The search for true passion
Many people, both young and old, will say, “But Tony, I don’t know what my passion is.”
The quickest way to find your passion is to do what interests you. Really immerse yourself in this business, do not just indulge. Give yourself to it. Do your homework and model the people who did the best. Study their experience. Dedicate every cell of your being to exploring and living this life and feel where that level of focus can take you.
If that doesn’t work, there’s another one...
If you can’t draw work-heaven, just describe work-hell.
Often, when I ask people what they would never do to make a living – who they would never want to work with, what office they would never want to sit in, working conditions that would drive them crazy – these descriptions are usually the most vivid.
It’s amazing how much energy anger can produce. So get pissed off for five minutes, give it a go, and in such a passionate state, try to describe the opposite of what's so pissed you off right now. And you will see what it is, your heavenly work. What is she like? What does it feel like?
This simple trick sometimes helps a lot to get the right clues when you feel like you’re stuck.
So you've set your sights on the object of your passion and you're hungry enough to follow it, so what's next? You have to serve something bigger than yourself.
The question is never, “What will I get?” You know?
You can get whatever you want, but the only way to true greatness is to find a way to serve others.
The Bible says, “Whoever wishes to be first among you, let him be your slave.” This means that there is nothing wrong with being a great and successful leader, but you can only do it by serving others.
History knows many people who have achieved the highest success despite the fact that they did not wait for graduation to start serving other people.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah, Ellen, Walt Disney, Ralph Lauren, Wolfgang Pack, John Lennon, Lady Gaga, Abraham Lincoln – they didn’t drop out of laziness. They found their passion early and were ready to serve others.
Their hunger was so severe that they could not physically wait.
There is nothing more effective than a sense of urgency to change people’s quality of life.
The good news is that you're living in an era of accelerated idea generation and incredibly rapid innovation that the world has never seen before.
The bad news is that you should have started five years ago.
Feel the pressure? Good. Internal pressure is not a bad thing. If you feel nothing but a smoldering light inside, then it’s bad.
I learned from conversations with great thinkers and cultural leaders that they all share a common inner feeling. It's a sense of responsibility that they have to give something to the world, a sense of purpose, a sense that their calling is to serve people.
It is not about what life can give them, but what they should bring to it.
I don’t want to downplay the value of higher education, I just want to make one very simple point. We hear people say, “Knowledge is power.” That's wrong. Knowledge is not power. Knowledge of concepts has only potential value for you. The real power is in the realization of the knowledge gained.
I encourage you to use what you just learned in college. Let the process of knowledge not stop. Not now and never.
The key point that will distinguish you from other specialists in your field is the willingness to constantly improve your skills.
To truly master a particular field of knowledge, you need to dig deep. Today, everyone seems to know a little about everything and it suits them.
Listen: That's not enough.
Having decided to become a master in a particular subject that makes you passionate, you will have to work hard. You should be eager to know about it absolutely everything that a person can know. You must study the subject more deeply and better than anyone else, and most importantly, you must use this knowledge not for your own benefit, but to serve something greater.
Motive matters.
So what's the point? Here it is, in a word: results.
We live in a world where there are no boundaries for those who can create results. The sooner you can use what you’ve learned to produce results, the sooner your diploma scores – great or nightmarish – will no longer matter.
There's no substitute for the result.
The determining factor in your success is your ability to create a good result for people better than anyone else. Satisfy people's needs. Make their lives better – through music, cooking, finance, literature, art, business: no matter what field you work in, you will get paid for results.
Of course, it can also be just lucky: someone can write you a check just because you are well positioned, but such tactics will not bring success in the long run.
Achieving concrete results is what changed my life.
When I was 17 and just starting out, I had nothing: just a desk made out of a door that I took off my hinges and placed horizontally in the middle of a pitiful cubicle in Asuza, California. I picked up my phone and promised myself to make 100 calls a day to the people I wanted to do business with. No excuses were accepted. I kept a strict record.
I had nothing but hunger, but I knew that as long as I had not lost my passion and as long as the sense of higher purpose had not left me, I would reach someone.
It was terrible at first. But I kept working hard.
People ask, “How long does it take to learn how to do something well?” I always have one answer: “How much time are you willing to devote to this?” ?
I've read almost 700 books on human development, psychology, physiology. I wanted to know everything that could change a person’s quality of life.
I was obsessed.
I myself have tried to change my body, develop my mind, put my emotions in order and maintain my strength of mind. I started with myself, then I began to help my friends, and the more results I produced, the wider my influence spread. And I didn't charge anyone a cent until we got the results.
Before I had a reputation, I could only rely on my results. And the results created my brand.
Over time, I found other areas where I could learn and be useful. I realized that I wanted to do it all the time, that it had to be my life’s work. But there was one hitch – there was simply no such career path.
I didn’t know what to do with my passion. I was thinking about writing a book, but the New York Times best-selling list of 17-year-old writers isn’t dense. I could have been a motivational trainer, but that was an idea I rejected immediately. I have never had the desire to “pump” someone – I prefer strategy. Some people who haven’t been to my meetings still think I’m motivated because, among other things, I’m good at energizing and fueling passion – but that’s never been my focus.
Energy is simply a by-product of the right strategy.
My personal passion is finding a strategy that will help a person get from where they are now to where they want to be in a minimal amount of time.
But the problem is, when I was 22, there was no such profession. She just didn't exist. There was no LinkedIn job search that said, “Required: A novice personal growth strategist.” Competitive salary plus commission”.
But I am. And don’t worry, you don’t have to have big teeth and arms like bunches of bananas to make your way. You just need to clearly define what you want.
When you know your passion, you just don’t want to live by other people’s rules, you can go your own way. And don't get me wrong: it's not about breaking rules, it's about working for results.
Forget what is written in the job description – provide the person with the result, and I promise that you will be paid attention. People will change the rules for you if you can produce outstanding results.
When I first started working with people, there was no such thing as life coaching. I made up the name myself. A professional approach to this case could be obtained only through the profession of a therapist. I would have had to go to college, get a regular degree, and get to know the traditional way of looking at human problems (at the time that meant therapy for years, if not decades). And this method didn't interest me at all.
I was eager to help many people, different people – businessmen, athletes, investors, politicians, entrepreneurs, parents, artists, children. Not a couple hundred patients a month in the office, but millions of people around the world.
This idea completely captivated me.
Very often, the standard way to do something is not the only way, but people are just so used to it. If you offer a different way to achieve what people want, they will do anything for you.
So if you're 22 and you're reading this right now, I know you're not happy with your accomplishments for the day. You want to do more, be more, give more to others. You’re in the prime of your youth – don’t wait for tomorrow or a birthday with zero at the end of a date to look back and realize you have to do something about yourself.
Turn your “should” into “should” right now.
You can do whatever you want with your life, whether there is a paved path or not. Clear the path, pave the road, step forward and implement it.
Victor Dosenko: Ageing cannot be defeated. But death can be pushed back.
Dmitry Likhachev: Take care of youth until old age!
Discover your passion. Feel hungry. Imagine the life you would like to live. Massive active action, flexibility, strict discipline and a sense of purpose to serve not only yourself but also other people are the components of which the ability to consistently produce results develops, which will help you pave your own path to success.
And finally, in times of difficulty and doubt—and there will be—remember the words my mentor said to me many years ago, when I was not well. He said, "Tony, Keep working on yourself, keep improving, get stronger, and keep looking for ways to serve more people. If you do that, I promise your talents will clear the way for you.?
I wish you an amazing life! published
©Tony Robbins
Source: vk.com/anthony_robbins_ru?w=wall-53757050_257
My focus on fun shifted dramatically over time when another force came into my life, a force that is the main catalyst for making something—anything—of myself.
First of all, you have to find your passion.
I have always said that passion is the foundation of genius.
Passion is the force that awakens you. Passion takes the lid off imagination, ability and drive. It frees your mind from limiting beliefs and breaks down old thought patterns. Passion is what gives you a sense of purpose.
Young enthusiasm helps to do almost everything that needs to be done, but if you force yourself to do something, then this energy will not last long.
Passion awakens such a strong desire that you simply do not have to force yourself. There is another driving force within you, the force that pulls you forward.
If someone asks me, Tony, what’s the biggest secret to success in life? Every great leader I’ve had the privilege of working with, whether in politics, sports, music or business, has been successful because of one, the most important force. And that power is hunger.
What is the difference between passion and hunger?
Passion is the first gear, it shifts, but hunger is the ticket that gets you to your destination.
It is human nature to light up big dreams, the spark of passion is easy to knock out, especially in youth. But when it comes to fulfilling a dream, the enthusiasm suddenly subsides, because we begin to fear one thing: failure.
But the good news is that hunger destroys the fear of failure.
Hunger will help overcome it. Hunger will give you determination. It is the force that binds you to a commitment, it fastens you to the intended result, and you will not sleep at night until you achieve your goal. Hunger cannot be suppressed.
It's not enough to crave results. You need to want it so much that you feel out of place until you get what you want. You are willing to die getting what you want, and there are no other options.
If you want to take the island, burn the boats.
This insatiable hunger will be the only thing that will not allow you to settle for less. Hunger is the X Factor that won’t necessarily make your resume stand out from the pack, but I promise you it will be the driving force that will pull you forward and to the breakthrough when everyone else is exhausted, lost or paused.
Today, the whole world is in your pocket. You just have to reach out and take it, but listen to me... if you feel hungry.
If you don't, you're fine. Life always has two choices: to grow or die. Climb up or slide down. And sometimes hunger is waiting for your back to hit the wall, when you're at the bottom of the pit and you're looking up.
If you plan to retreat a little more, then you still have somewhere to fall.
This explains why many people are unable to pursue their passion. They take a step forward and two back until they fall and start over, sometimes something completely different. They live in a world of stumbling steps and false starts. It's what passion does without hunger, and that means it's just one thing: that you don't jump, you don't commit, you hold your horses because you're afraid of failure and you're more comfortable falling on a soft straw.
Having a safety net – parents, relatives, a comfortable hometown, decent work – creates a huge sense of comfort and confidence. But what looks like an asset can, in effect, be a cannonball on the leg and paralyze the will-depriving force of inertia.
What I want to say is that today we have the highest percentage of people between the ages of 25 and 34 living with their parents in history at 15%. I'm not trying to judge anyone, there's nothing wrong with living at home, but when your mom stuffs the fridge all the time, you just don't have a chance to get hungry.
Having to deal with difficulty is an invaluable experience. But the real need arises only when you pursue your passion. Passion is the only true need to take action.
So my question is:
What's your passion? What do you live for?
Let me be clear: I am not asking who you want to be. What do you want to create? What can you give me? What's your gift? What do you want to do better than anyone else on this earth? What do you want to do every day and never get bored? What are you willing to share with the world? That's your passion.
The search for true passion
Many people, both young and old, will say, “But Tony, I don’t know what my passion is.”
The quickest way to find your passion is to do what interests you. Really immerse yourself in this business, do not just indulge. Give yourself to it. Do your homework and model the people who did the best. Study their experience. Dedicate every cell of your being to exploring and living this life and feel where that level of focus can take you.
If that doesn’t work, there’s another one...
If you can’t draw work-heaven, just describe work-hell.
Often, when I ask people what they would never do to make a living – who they would never want to work with, what office they would never want to sit in, working conditions that would drive them crazy – these descriptions are usually the most vivid.
It’s amazing how much energy anger can produce. So get pissed off for five minutes, give it a go, and in such a passionate state, try to describe the opposite of what's so pissed you off right now. And you will see what it is, your heavenly work. What is she like? What does it feel like?
This simple trick sometimes helps a lot to get the right clues when you feel like you’re stuck.
So you've set your sights on the object of your passion and you're hungry enough to follow it, so what's next? You have to serve something bigger than yourself.
The question is never, “What will I get?” You know?
You can get whatever you want, but the only way to true greatness is to find a way to serve others.
The Bible says, “Whoever wishes to be first among you, let him be your slave.” This means that there is nothing wrong with being a great and successful leader, but you can only do it by serving others.
History knows many people who have achieved the highest success despite the fact that they did not wait for graduation to start serving other people.
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah, Ellen, Walt Disney, Ralph Lauren, Wolfgang Pack, John Lennon, Lady Gaga, Abraham Lincoln – they didn’t drop out of laziness. They found their passion early and were ready to serve others.
Their hunger was so severe that they could not physically wait.
There is nothing more effective than a sense of urgency to change people’s quality of life.
The good news is that you're living in an era of accelerated idea generation and incredibly rapid innovation that the world has never seen before.
The bad news is that you should have started five years ago.
Feel the pressure? Good. Internal pressure is not a bad thing. If you feel nothing but a smoldering light inside, then it’s bad.
I learned from conversations with great thinkers and cultural leaders that they all share a common inner feeling. It's a sense of responsibility that they have to give something to the world, a sense of purpose, a sense that their calling is to serve people.
It is not about what life can give them, but what they should bring to it.
I don’t want to downplay the value of higher education, I just want to make one very simple point. We hear people say, “Knowledge is power.” That's wrong. Knowledge is not power. Knowledge of concepts has only potential value for you. The real power is in the realization of the knowledge gained.
I encourage you to use what you just learned in college. Let the process of knowledge not stop. Not now and never.
The key point that will distinguish you from other specialists in your field is the willingness to constantly improve your skills.
To truly master a particular field of knowledge, you need to dig deep. Today, everyone seems to know a little about everything and it suits them.
Listen: That's not enough.
Having decided to become a master in a particular subject that makes you passionate, you will have to work hard. You should be eager to know about it absolutely everything that a person can know. You must study the subject more deeply and better than anyone else, and most importantly, you must use this knowledge not for your own benefit, but to serve something greater.
Motive matters.
So what's the point? Here it is, in a word: results.
We live in a world where there are no boundaries for those who can create results. The sooner you can use what you’ve learned to produce results, the sooner your diploma scores – great or nightmarish – will no longer matter.
There's no substitute for the result.
The determining factor in your success is your ability to create a good result for people better than anyone else. Satisfy people's needs. Make their lives better – through music, cooking, finance, literature, art, business: no matter what field you work in, you will get paid for results.
Of course, it can also be just lucky: someone can write you a check just because you are well positioned, but such tactics will not bring success in the long run.
Achieving concrete results is what changed my life.
When I was 17 and just starting out, I had nothing: just a desk made out of a door that I took off my hinges and placed horizontally in the middle of a pitiful cubicle in Asuza, California. I picked up my phone and promised myself to make 100 calls a day to the people I wanted to do business with. No excuses were accepted. I kept a strict record.
I had nothing but hunger, but I knew that as long as I had not lost my passion and as long as the sense of higher purpose had not left me, I would reach someone.
It was terrible at first. But I kept working hard.
People ask, “How long does it take to learn how to do something well?” I always have one answer: “How much time are you willing to devote to this?” ?
I've read almost 700 books on human development, psychology, physiology. I wanted to know everything that could change a person’s quality of life.
I was obsessed.
I myself have tried to change my body, develop my mind, put my emotions in order and maintain my strength of mind. I started with myself, then I began to help my friends, and the more results I produced, the wider my influence spread. And I didn't charge anyone a cent until we got the results.
Before I had a reputation, I could only rely on my results. And the results created my brand.
Over time, I found other areas where I could learn and be useful. I realized that I wanted to do it all the time, that it had to be my life’s work. But there was one hitch – there was simply no such career path.
I didn’t know what to do with my passion. I was thinking about writing a book, but the New York Times best-selling list of 17-year-old writers isn’t dense. I could have been a motivational trainer, but that was an idea I rejected immediately. I have never had the desire to “pump” someone – I prefer strategy. Some people who haven’t been to my meetings still think I’m motivated because, among other things, I’m good at energizing and fueling passion – but that’s never been my focus.
Energy is simply a by-product of the right strategy.
My personal passion is finding a strategy that will help a person get from where they are now to where they want to be in a minimal amount of time.
But the problem is, when I was 22, there was no such profession. She just didn't exist. There was no LinkedIn job search that said, “Required: A novice personal growth strategist.” Competitive salary plus commission”.
But I am. And don’t worry, you don’t have to have big teeth and arms like bunches of bananas to make your way. You just need to clearly define what you want.
When you know your passion, you just don’t want to live by other people’s rules, you can go your own way. And don't get me wrong: it's not about breaking rules, it's about working for results.
Forget what is written in the job description – provide the person with the result, and I promise that you will be paid attention. People will change the rules for you if you can produce outstanding results.
When I first started working with people, there was no such thing as life coaching. I made up the name myself. A professional approach to this case could be obtained only through the profession of a therapist. I would have had to go to college, get a regular degree, and get to know the traditional way of looking at human problems (at the time that meant therapy for years, if not decades). And this method didn't interest me at all.
I was eager to help many people, different people – businessmen, athletes, investors, politicians, entrepreneurs, parents, artists, children. Not a couple hundred patients a month in the office, but millions of people around the world.
This idea completely captivated me.
Very often, the standard way to do something is not the only way, but people are just so used to it. If you offer a different way to achieve what people want, they will do anything for you.
So if you're 22 and you're reading this right now, I know you're not happy with your accomplishments for the day. You want to do more, be more, give more to others. You’re in the prime of your youth – don’t wait for tomorrow or a birthday with zero at the end of a date to look back and realize you have to do something about yourself.
Turn your “should” into “should” right now.
You can do whatever you want with your life, whether there is a paved path or not. Clear the path, pave the road, step forward and implement it.
Victor Dosenko: Ageing cannot be defeated. But death can be pushed back.
Dmitry Likhachev: Take care of youth until old age!
Discover your passion. Feel hungry. Imagine the life you would like to live. Massive active action, flexibility, strict discipline and a sense of purpose to serve not only yourself but also other people are the components of which the ability to consistently produce results develops, which will help you pave your own path to success.
And finally, in times of difficulty and doubt—and there will be—remember the words my mentor said to me many years ago, when I was not well. He said, "Tony, Keep working on yourself, keep improving, get stronger, and keep looking for ways to serve more people. If you do that, I promise your talents will clear the way for you.?
I wish you an amazing life! published
©Tony Robbins
Source: vk.com/anthony_robbins_ru?w=wall-53757050_257
