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10 basic signs that the love is not real
Sometimes a woman begins to think about how seriously to her concerns her man.
In such situations, I as a psychologist, began periodically encounter in hectic consultations.
Because in the already distant 2008, I was curious to understand, and if there are so-called signs, when love is not real…
I studied a lot of psychological books on relations, interviewed friends and acquaintances, talked with customers, he thought on the subject... and here's what I found.
It is possible to allocate 10 basic signs that make it clear that the relationship of man to woman are not serious and their love is not real. And now I'll introduce you to them.
1. Not helping around the house.
This is a situation where a woman asks to help around the house... and the man remains indifferent. And no matter what it is. Taking out the trash, washing dishes, or simply repairs. What would the woman never asked the man remains indifferent and pretends like it just simply does not apply.
Question for self-examination:
"How long have your man help you around the house?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if his last care was more than 6 months ago.
2. Keep back.
In answer to a woman questions a man walks away from a direct answer, always something omission. From that of women constantly is a feeling that deep down men something buried very deep. That is, the man does not reveal their secret thoughts and desires of a woman, and therefore avoids frankness with her.
Question for self-examination:
"Takes a man's direct questions?»
"It creates the feeling that he's not telling us something?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he does not disclose his secrets for more than 2-3 months.
3. Indifferent opinion.
The man decides which tie him to choose what he should wear to the Banquet, or what gift to choose mother. That is, in solving any domestic issues, he is only guided by his opinion, and completely indifferent to the fact that he will tell the woman about them. Moreover, if a woman tries to give him some advice, he firmly suppresses her attempts, in the literal sense of the word "covering her mouth". All this suggests that not only a man's opinion closed, but his senses are also hlopoty in relation to this woman.
Question for self-examination:
"How long has he consulted with you on what you should wear?»
"How long has he been asked your opinion about the choice of gift?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he's not interested in your opinion for more than 2-3 months.
4. Coldness in public.
When the public gets the impression that man and woman are essentially strangers. So he holds her hand, hugs, kisses, not to say endearing words. The indifferent man there with him this woman or not, and maybe even a little prickly with her. This suggests that subconsciously the man does not identify himself in "Union" with this woman, and internally resides in the search of the second half.
Question for self-examination:
"How long has he kissed you in public in recent times?»
"How long has he hugged you in public for the last time?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if his last public attention was more than 6 months ago.
5. Not acquaints with the family.
Asked to introduce my parents to the man shirk under various pretexts. Familiarity with the mother is often the final stage before the wedding. Therefore, if a man does not meet her parents, it suggests that he a future together with this woman sees.
Self-assessment:
"He introduced you to his mother?"
The reason to think about the frivolity of his relationships, if Dating his mom (or parents) in your experience it was not.
6. Gifts "not from the heart".
Of course, even a man indifferent can regularly make a woman have a variety of gifts. Another thing is that gifts, you can choose "without a soul". That is to buy them on principle — "it is Necessary something to give to yelling stopped!"
Choosing gifts "not from the heart", a man not particularly concerned about, we need this gift to a woman or not. He spends not buy it at best their precious 20 minutes of time not in order to give a really necessary thing, but only in order to in some sense to "otmazatsya."
Self-assessment:
"How long have you had the feeling that his gift to you is another "excuse"?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you can't remember when he gave the very necessary and useful for you.
7. No plans for the future.
When a man applies lightly to the woman, he is not that is not a building, and not even mention the joint with her future.
Yes, of course, formulaic familiarity with friends, going to the movies, bowling, or restaurants may be the place to be.about are there any children there?!
But the man is not planning what will happen between them next year, and avoids discussion of this with the woman on various pretexts.
Self-assessment:
"You all heard at least once from him vysskazyvaniya about your future together?"
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you can't remember a time when he talked to you about a future together.
8. Each "in itself".
Despite the fact that the man is in a Union with a woman, he is not a part of her life. That is, he avoids discussing her sore for a day themes can help to solve urgent problems, to watch together a movie, or just banal together to go shopping. Thus, the behavior of the men clearly says that his "world" is separated from "the world" women... and everyone in fact "itself".
Self-assessment:
"How long have you went shopping?»
"How long have you watched any film?»
"How long has he listened to your story about urgent problems?»
The reason to think about the frivolity of his relationship, if any sovmestnyh events you have been more than 4 months ago.
9. No compromises.
When a man is not serious, he can not compromise even in any melachah, whether the issue of a joint vacation or banal rubbish removal.
He is completely indifferent to how to make "both sides were satisfied." And strongly defends his "innocence".
Self-assessment:
"When was the last time he lost to you in resolving any issue?»
"When was the last time he compromise?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he is always "right" at least the past 3 months.
10. Not talking about Love.
Male, which is not serious, avoids declarations of love. Yes, he can say "we're good together", "it was great" or "I like you", but the phrase "I Love you!"can't hear under various pretexts.
Self-assessment:
"When was the last time he talked to you about that Love?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you're still trying to remember when was the last time.
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In such situations, I as a psychologist, began periodically encounter in hectic consultations.
Because in the already distant 2008, I was curious to understand, and if there are so-called signs, when love is not real…
I studied a lot of psychological books on relations, interviewed friends and acquaintances, talked with customers, he thought on the subject... and here's what I found.
It is possible to allocate 10 basic signs that make it clear that the relationship of man to woman are not serious and their love is not real. And now I'll introduce you to them.
1. Not helping around the house.
This is a situation where a woman asks to help around the house... and the man remains indifferent. And no matter what it is. Taking out the trash, washing dishes, or simply repairs. What would the woman never asked the man remains indifferent and pretends like it just simply does not apply.
Question for self-examination:
"How long have your man help you around the house?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if his last care was more than 6 months ago.
2. Keep back.
In answer to a woman questions a man walks away from a direct answer, always something omission. From that of women constantly is a feeling that deep down men something buried very deep. That is, the man does not reveal their secret thoughts and desires of a woman, and therefore avoids frankness with her.
Question for self-examination:
"Takes a man's direct questions?»
"It creates the feeling that he's not telling us something?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he does not disclose his secrets for more than 2-3 months.
3. Indifferent opinion.
The man decides which tie him to choose what he should wear to the Banquet, or what gift to choose mother. That is, in solving any domestic issues, he is only guided by his opinion, and completely indifferent to the fact that he will tell the woman about them. Moreover, if a woman tries to give him some advice, he firmly suppresses her attempts, in the literal sense of the word "covering her mouth". All this suggests that not only a man's opinion closed, but his senses are also hlopoty in relation to this woman.
Question for self-examination:
"How long has he consulted with you on what you should wear?»
"How long has he been asked your opinion about the choice of gift?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he's not interested in your opinion for more than 2-3 months.
4. Coldness in public.
When the public gets the impression that man and woman are essentially strangers. So he holds her hand, hugs, kisses, not to say endearing words. The indifferent man there with him this woman or not, and maybe even a little prickly with her. This suggests that subconsciously the man does not identify himself in "Union" with this woman, and internally resides in the search of the second half.
Question for self-examination:
"How long has he kissed you in public in recent times?»
"How long has he hugged you in public for the last time?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if his last public attention was more than 6 months ago.
5. Not acquaints with the family.
Asked to introduce my parents to the man shirk under various pretexts. Familiarity with the mother is often the final stage before the wedding. Therefore, if a man does not meet her parents, it suggests that he a future together with this woman sees.
Self-assessment:
"He introduced you to his mother?"
The reason to think about the frivolity of his relationships, if Dating his mom (or parents) in your experience it was not.
6. Gifts "not from the heart".
Of course, even a man indifferent can regularly make a woman have a variety of gifts. Another thing is that gifts, you can choose "without a soul". That is to buy them on principle — "it is Necessary something to give to yelling stopped!"
Choosing gifts "not from the heart", a man not particularly concerned about, we need this gift to a woman or not. He spends not buy it at best their precious 20 minutes of time not in order to give a really necessary thing, but only in order to in some sense to "otmazatsya."
Self-assessment:
"How long have you had the feeling that his gift to you is another "excuse"?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you can't remember when he gave the very necessary and useful for you.
7. No plans for the future.
When a man applies lightly to the woman, he is not that is not a building, and not even mention the joint with her future.
Yes, of course, formulaic familiarity with friends, going to the movies, bowling, or restaurants may be the place to be.about are there any children there?!
But the man is not planning what will happen between them next year, and avoids discussion of this with the woman on various pretexts.
Self-assessment:
"You all heard at least once from him vysskazyvaniya about your future together?"
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you can't remember a time when he talked to you about a future together.
8. Each "in itself".
Despite the fact that the man is in a Union with a woman, he is not a part of her life. That is, he avoids discussing her sore for a day themes can help to solve urgent problems, to watch together a movie, or just banal together to go shopping. Thus, the behavior of the men clearly says that his "world" is separated from "the world" women... and everyone in fact "itself".
Self-assessment:
"How long have you went shopping?»
"How long have you watched any film?»
"How long has he listened to your story about urgent problems?»
The reason to think about the frivolity of his relationship, if any sovmestnyh events you have been more than 4 months ago.
9. No compromises.
When a man is not serious, he can not compromise even in any melachah, whether the issue of a joint vacation or banal rubbish removal.
He is completely indifferent to how to make "both sides were satisfied." And strongly defends his "innocence".
Self-assessment:
"When was the last time he lost to you in resolving any issue?»
"When was the last time he compromise?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if he is always "right" at least the past 3 months.
10. Not talking about Love.
Male, which is not serious, avoids declarations of love. Yes, he can say "we're good together", "it was great" or "I like you", but the phrase "I Love you!"can't hear under various pretexts.
Self-assessment:
"When was the last time he talked to you about that Love?»
Reason to think about the carelessness of his attitude, if you're still trying to remember when was the last time.
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