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10 benefits of loneliness and the single life
The legendary life coach Tony Robinson wrote about the benefits of solitude. He believes that this is a blessing, not a punishment of fate.
Many people believe that being alone is a terrible punishment of destiny. This supposedly means that you do not like and you do not want to communicate. This is often "suffer" freelancers working at home. It's kind of like all know.
But actually temporary solitude you can choose for some periods of their life consciously. Because of those days that we are on our own, you can benefit greatly. I'm not defending the character of Tom Hanks in the movie "Outcast", but encourage you to differently treat the prospect of spending the coming weeks in a conditional "alone". If such a prospect is, of course, looming over you.
Here are the advantages of such a life, if it's not healing.
You will get the opportunity to recharge my batteries
When we are surrounded by a large number of people, you get tired quickly. Trying to maintain the happiness of other people, trying to make them laugh or calm, we offer a large and not always positive — impact on their own emotional background.
Communication between family people so strong that they are permanently independent from each other on an emotional level. Spend some time independent of this — a great success. And the ability to understand, finally, himself.
You will have time to think
Residents of large cities live in a crazy fast pace. Therefore, we have critically little time during which we could be alone with yourself and your thoughts. Most of the townspeople this time begins when they went to bed and set the alarm.
But loneliness will give you a lot of time to process your own thoughts and not discussing accidents at work, with spouse, colleagues or friends.
If you do not have a permanent girlfriend and you're working at home, use this time to the maximum. Learn to manage your emotions. Loans to their education — on the Internet is the most effective.
You will get the opportunity to observe their own emotions
The range of communication has a great influence on our perception of the world. Moreover, if you are around — always merry, and your brain will be constantly busy coming up with new jokes. If you are dealing with whiners, too, will soon become one of them. And if you live another month as a hermit, you begin to understand who you really are. You will learn what really pleases you, not someone else. What upsets you. And what makes you laugh. And what makes you happy. And the experience is priceless.
You will have time for things you love
Once you're constantly in the company of friends, always have to make compromises as to what to do. You need to find something that will appeal to all.
And when you live alone, it gives us more freedom to do what you want to do most. Don't kill yourself this time! Self-sufficiency is a great skill that can be developed.
You will become more productive
Friends will sooner or later begin seriously to interfere with the work. They can force you to get drunk on Tuesday and disrupt the next working day. Wife constantly load you with household chores. And only if you are a recluse, you can do.
Time spent alone, usually described as the most productive time in life. Mainly, this is because we have fewer opportunities for distraction.
You will learn to appreciate the relationship
When you live alone, in the end, you learn to appreciate the presence of loved ones near. Interpersonal relationships will cease to be a chore.
You will feel more independent
Life alone teaches many things: to iron, to wash, to cook, to eat, to pay the bills. All this takes a lot of time and effort, but at the same time gives you confidence and that you are able to live alone. If you use it properly, you can stop being afraid of loneliness and the only reason to cling to the crumbling family.
The sooner you leave the parental home and begin to live for yourself, the better.
You will only answer for myself
A life full of relationship, bears the brunt of responsibility for other people. And that they were good and pleasant to live. Of course, instead of someone who cares about you, but for strong, independent people extra care, and extra care over a dozen people around is just a burden.
Usually, if you think to yourself, they call you selfish and constantly criticized. But being some time in solitude, you can enjoy your selfishness.
You don't have every day something to apologize
When you live alone — no need to apologize for what you just did. What we do, for the most part almost no effect on other people. So, to worry about only one subject — himself.
When you are in a relationship, you always need to agree important decisions and actions, to assume part of the obligations of another person. You will not be able to go to a bar with friends, without consulting with his wife, because she will be offended.
You stop seeking approval
Many people are so insecure that you are constantly looking for answers "YES" and "OK" from their friends, family, bosses. We always go to someone for advice, though like know the correct answer to all questions.
When you learn to live alone, you learn to trust your instincts and make decisions without the support of a third party.
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Many people believe that being alone is a terrible punishment of destiny. This supposedly means that you do not like and you do not want to communicate. This is often "suffer" freelancers working at home. It's kind of like all know.
But actually temporary solitude you can choose for some periods of their life consciously. Because of those days that we are on our own, you can benefit greatly. I'm not defending the character of Tom Hanks in the movie "Outcast", but encourage you to differently treat the prospect of spending the coming weeks in a conditional "alone". If such a prospect is, of course, looming over you.
Here are the advantages of such a life, if it's not healing.
You will get the opportunity to recharge my batteries
When we are surrounded by a large number of people, you get tired quickly. Trying to maintain the happiness of other people, trying to make them laugh or calm, we offer a large and not always positive — impact on their own emotional background.
Communication between family people so strong that they are permanently independent from each other on an emotional level. Spend some time independent of this — a great success. And the ability to understand, finally, himself.
You will have time to think
Residents of large cities live in a crazy fast pace. Therefore, we have critically little time during which we could be alone with yourself and your thoughts. Most of the townspeople this time begins when they went to bed and set the alarm.
But loneliness will give you a lot of time to process your own thoughts and not discussing accidents at work, with spouse, colleagues or friends.
If you do not have a permanent girlfriend and you're working at home, use this time to the maximum. Learn to manage your emotions. Loans to their education — on the Internet is the most effective.
You will get the opportunity to observe their own emotions
The range of communication has a great influence on our perception of the world. Moreover, if you are around — always merry, and your brain will be constantly busy coming up with new jokes. If you are dealing with whiners, too, will soon become one of them. And if you live another month as a hermit, you begin to understand who you really are. You will learn what really pleases you, not someone else. What upsets you. And what makes you laugh. And what makes you happy. And the experience is priceless.
You will have time for things you love
Once you're constantly in the company of friends, always have to make compromises as to what to do. You need to find something that will appeal to all.
And when you live alone, it gives us more freedom to do what you want to do most. Don't kill yourself this time! Self-sufficiency is a great skill that can be developed.
You will become more productive
Friends will sooner or later begin seriously to interfere with the work. They can force you to get drunk on Tuesday and disrupt the next working day. Wife constantly load you with household chores. And only if you are a recluse, you can do.
Time spent alone, usually described as the most productive time in life. Mainly, this is because we have fewer opportunities for distraction.
You will learn to appreciate the relationship
When you live alone, in the end, you learn to appreciate the presence of loved ones near. Interpersonal relationships will cease to be a chore.
You will feel more independent
Life alone teaches many things: to iron, to wash, to cook, to eat, to pay the bills. All this takes a lot of time and effort, but at the same time gives you confidence and that you are able to live alone. If you use it properly, you can stop being afraid of loneliness and the only reason to cling to the crumbling family.
The sooner you leave the parental home and begin to live for yourself, the better.
You will only answer for myself
A life full of relationship, bears the brunt of responsibility for other people. And that they were good and pleasant to live. Of course, instead of someone who cares about you, but for strong, independent people extra care, and extra care over a dozen people around is just a burden.
Usually, if you think to yourself, they call you selfish and constantly criticized. But being some time in solitude, you can enjoy your selfishness.
You don't have every day something to apologize
When you live alone — no need to apologize for what you just did. What we do, for the most part almost no effect on other people. So, to worry about only one subject — himself.
When you are in a relationship, you always need to agree important decisions and actions, to assume part of the obligations of another person. You will not be able to go to a bar with friends, without consulting with his wife, because she will be offended.
You stop seeking approval
Many people are so insecure that you are constantly looking for answers "YES" and "OK" from their friends, family, bosses. We always go to someone for advice, though like know the correct answer to all questions.
When you learn to live alone, you learn to trust your instincts and make decisions without the support of a third party.
source: lifter.com.ua
Source: /users/1077