Hidden messages in the education of children

 

Usually each parent has a set of phrases, templates, or familiar and stable phrases with which he, as a parent, trying to raise my child. These are our familiar everyday phrases contain special information, at first sight, invisible hidden messages.

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On the basis of such hidden messages, and the parent claims the child forms an opinion about himself, about people, the world around him.
We specially made this collection from different sources, borrowing materials from different authors, to every parent (or child) could visually see what can cause some forms of education and communication.

The PHRASE — be Quiet, slow down, be careful
HIDDEN MESSAGE — don't trust the world, don't live to the max
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE is Make it 100% fun

PHRASE — I'll kill you, damn it, I should abort
HIDDEN MESSAGE to Get lost! don't be!
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE to All these must be totally excluded from the speech!!!

PHRASE — never mind, I think!
HIDDEN MESSAGE - You and your problems are not important
Alternately, let's try to see it from different angles, look for alternatives

PHRASE — Let's move! Soon! Shut! Other orders
HIDDEN MESSAGE — You're not important. My interests are more important than your
Alternately, we HAVE 15 minutes. Let's agree, as we do to catch?

The PHRASE — You to me will always be that little boy/little girl
HIDDEN MESSAGE - never grow up!
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — I like to see you grow and learn the world.

The PHRASE — don't cry, don't laugh so loud, don't whine!
HIDDEN MESSAGE — don't Express their emotions!
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — I understand your feelings.

PHRASE — What are you, like a little, you have to be serious!
HIDDEN MESSAGE — don't be a baby!
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — But he's actually a child! Exclude such statements!

PHRASE — How much can you repeat! Never can do, remember, etc.
HIDDEN MESSAGE — You are stupid, can't do anything himself. You're a bad loser
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — I trust you. Your actions is your responsibility. We all make mistakes. Through mistakes we learn.

The PHRASE, don't do it, I'd rather do this
HIDDEN MESSAGE — I don't believe in you!
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE IS - I trust you, I believe you can

PHRASE — Boys don't cry Girls should behave quietly. Man has no right to emotions
HIDDEN MESSAGE — a Man not entitled to the emotions of Women victims.
Alternately, You can freely Express your feelings. I know what you mean.

The PHRASE — will fall, break, bite, break, etc. threat-warning.
HIDDEN MESSAGE — the World is dangerous, not good.
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — I trust you. Try it, go for it!

The PHRASE is Sloppy, muddle, my sadness and all the other name calling and generalizations all around thieves and villains.
HIDDEN MESSAGE — AND you're just like everyone else.
Alternately, they may form a false idea about themselves and should be excluded from the speech.

PHRASE You always.., never.., all life.. I knew it.
HIDDEN MESSAGE — You're hopeless. The inability to change.
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE to Do not a person but a specific act. Your life is in your hands.

The PHRASE — Comparing with other children.
HIDDEN MESSAGE — You bad, would be better if instead you just had another.
A POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE — I love you for who you are.

Of course, the child chooses the main installation, on which he will
build your character and life, but we can help him to build a more harmonious relationship with yourself and the world around you. published 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

 

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