Pamela Druckerman: How to raise happy children without sacrificing your personal life

French parents are capable of raising an obedient, polite and happy children without compromising their privacy. But they don't spend sleepless nights trying to put their children, their children do not demand infinite attention, their children do not interfere in communication adults and not throwing tantrums when something they very much wanted their children behave in public places and can no claim to perceive parental rejection.

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How can the French, despite the fact that they loved their children, keep a good figure, have a career and lead an active social life? How, even with infants, they can remain fashionable and sexy?

These and other similar questions you will find answers in the book Pamela Druckerman "French children don't spit food. Parenting secrets from Paris".

Pamela Druckerman – American writer and journalist, specialist in international relations, BA in philosophy, a former correspondent for "The Wall Street Journal" and a columnist for such publications as "Mary Clare", "The Observer", The Guardian, The Washington Post, "The New York Times". She also collaborated with "CNBC", "CBC", "NBC", "BBC" and was included in the list of "100 most influential people". At present is the author's column in the magazine "The New York Times" and is the mother of three children. With the purpose of writing of the books Pamela Druckerman conducted its own study, which allowed her to identify the key features of education of children of French parents.

Sorry, in frame one of the description it is not possible to accommodate all the useful information from the book, but you can note its basic ideas. We bring to your attention.


About the mode of the day the French babies


Already to four-month age French kids are adult life: they sleep sound at night and eat exactly the same as adults, learning from their daily routine.

According to the French, babies are quite intelligent beings, who just need to get used to in the first period of his life to his autonomy. Parents, first and foremost, should carefully observe the child, but not to run to it headlong, as soon as the baby to change position or make a sound.

Upon reaching the age of four months French children eat four times a day:

  • 8,
  • 12,
  • 16,
  • in 20 hours.

Moreover, parents consciously teach children to pause between meals, as between periods of sleep.

Great attention France pays to the quality of the food. From the child's diet completely eliminated canned foods, but there is a lot of fish and vegetables. And the first solid foods offered little French, it consists of bright vegetable purees. In addition, the French allowed the kids to eat sweets.

It is important to note that children from an early age are taught to clean up toys and help their parents in cooking and table setting. On weekends, decided to arrange a Grand family meals and bake all kinds of cakes and pies.

Special attention deserves the fact that the French give their children the opportunity to be alone with yourself, because they, too, must have personal space. You can leave the child in the cradle for a while, so he learned without shouting to Wake and sleep. Mom, in turn, must have time to teach him.

From birth, the French are striving to raise a baby full of strong personality, and the baby recognizes a parent's right to privacy.


On early socialization

The French believe that in four months their children are ready for social life. Mom and dad take their children to restaurants and to visit, and also early enough to give them to the nursery. Despite the fact that French parents are not particularly keen on the ideas of early development, they believe that the kids need to develop civility and interpersonal skills.

As for the French nurseries, the children in them are taught only to communicate. Once a week children are seen by a psychologist and a pediatrician, who study the peculiarities of their sleep, diet, behavior, etc.

The French adhere to the principle that children need to grant independenceand to develop in them the ability to overcome difficulties, relying only on themselves. Parents care about their children, but do not isolate them from the outside world. In addition, they are extremely unconcerned about the fact that children may quarrel and fight.

Another feature of French parents is that they do not praise their children at the earliest opportunity. They believe that children are confident only if you are able to do anything for myself. If you praise your child too often, it can lead to dependence on approval.

The French never does not afflict his children with endless lessons. Their children, of course, go to different clubs, but kids were not accepted "to train." For example, on family the swimming lessons the children play, swim, ride a rollercoaster, and to learn to start swimming in only six years.

Especially important in France, is considered the training of courtesy, because she is a true national project. The word "please", "thank you", "Hello" and "goodbye" — an indispensable part of children's lexicon. If the child is polite, he gets one stage with the adults.


About the life of French parents

The French believe that the birth of a child does not necessarily build your whole life around it. On the contrary, the child should as soon as possible to integrate into family life, to the quality of life of adults were not harmed.

The attitude of the French to pregnancy is always calm, and expectant moms will never learn hundreds of parenting books and everything connected with it. Similarly, the surrounding perceive pregnant friendly, but never will "stuff" their advice on what and what not to do pregnant.

Almost all French in three months back to the usual work schedule. Working French women say that a big break in his career – venture. Don't forget French mother and about the relations between spouses after the birth, the couple aim to quickly resume an intimate relationship. There is even a special time of day which they spend together with each other – it's called "adult time", and comes after the children went to sleep. The French believe that if children understand that parents have their own needs and deeds, it goes the benefits to the children.

The French children are accustomed to the fact that their parents have their own space, but children at any time of the day zaprygivayem in the parental bed are nonsense. In many families, children are even forbidden to enter the parents ' bedroom on the weekends.

Moms in France are different from any other mothers – their identity remains intact, they do not run everywhere for their children and communicate with other moms, walking with the child. Good mother, according to the French, will never become the servant of his child, and understands the value of their own interests.


After reading the book Pamela Druckerman "French children don't spit food. Parenting secrets from Paris" you can make the following conclusions:

  • French children from an early age to become accustomed to the behavior in society, self-sufficiency and diversified diet.
  • French parents are not inclined to radical changes in his own life and regime of the new family members integrate in the already opened.
  • French parents don't rush to their children for their first call, and watching them, soaking pause.
  • With the birth of the child perceived as an individual that needs free space and time for yourself.
  • Child always with respect for the privacy of the parents.
  • The state system of preschool education in France is structured in such a way that mom can continue to work while children are developing in a wonderful setting under the supervision of highly skilled professionals.

These insights can add a lot, but they know you, having read the book themselves.


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We want to add that Pamela Druckerman were able to create an excellent novel on the topic of education in French. And from this really unique books of foreign parents, of course, drawn useful ideas and tips on how to raise their beloved children.published


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