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12 books about harmony in the couple
To make friends, to show affection and spend time together, to be able to admire each other and share experiences... Secrets of strong couple relationships seem simple, but in reality they are available only to those who are open and configured on the dialogue with a partner. 12 books that will help to understand their feelings and dialogue.
"Map of love" by John Gottman
In the heart of the book – the famous examination of the relationship between partners in a marriage conducted by the American family therapist John Gottman in 1999. Volunteers, couples of different ages and length of relationship were tested psychologists under the supervision of cameras and microphones. The analysis of their facial expressions, gestures, intonations and feelings during the discussion of controversial topics allowed John Gottman to formulate the basic principles of a happy marriage. These laws harmonious family relationships described in the book. (Eksmo, 2011)
"WE. The deeper aspects of romantic love" Robert Johnson
Romantic love is a state of love, and a psychological phenomenon, a time when in communication with another person we learn the meaning of his life. But also expectations and disappointments in them. American Jungian psychologist Robert Johnson explores the nature of love, using the method of depth psychology is the analysis of the myth (in this case of the myth of Tristan and Isolde) as symbolic expressions of our unconscious. The book shows the origins of romantic illusions and authenticity of a Mature love. (Kogito-Tsentr, 2009)
"You and your family. A guide to personal growth" Virginia Satir
"Family life is something like an iceberg. The sailor's fate depends on knowing that the iceberg is the underwater part, and the fate of the family – from understanding the feelings, needs and structures that stand in its everyday life", – said the founder of family counseling, the American psychotherapist Virginia Satir. This book she wrote of men and women who have difficulties in relationships with each other. Learn how family structure, what kind of laws develops, it is possible to understand what is happening with our couple in daily life, and "own efforts to make his family happy." (Institute of General humanitarian studies, 2015)
"Love, love, love: different ways to improve relationships, about acceptance of others and oneself" Liz Burbo
"Acceptance" is the key word around which to build a storytelling book Liz Bourbeau, a canadian psychologist, the founder of the school of spiritual development "Listen to your body". Talking about how to learn to accept yourself, your loved ones as we are. The book is a detailed transcript of the dialogues psychologist with your clients are a married couple. Asking questions and analyzing the answers of the partners, Liz Burbo examines in detail each situation. This is an exciting reading because from Chapter to Chapter (meeting) we observe how changing each of the participants in the dialogue, as they learn to make their family and external circumstances. The result be other relationships within the family, more trusting and loved ones. (Sofia, 2013)
"Why men want sex and women love" Allan Pease, Barbara Pease
Talking about priorities, needs, communication methods and device of the brain of each sex, psychologists Allan and Barbara Pease confirm some myths, debunks others and give a scientific explanation for the third. It turns out that men can not lie to the women, that 80% of couples where one partner snores, break up and that women terribly exciting offer of the husband to vacuum or wash the dishes. After devoting many pages convincing statement of the insuperable differences between male and female nature, the wife of Magnus at the end soften the blow: "People differ from other animals in that it is able to identify and change their behavior by making a conscious choice." To help us in this, and this book is written. (Eksmo, 2014)
"Marriage is dead – long live marriage!" Adolf Guggenbuhl-Craig , a Swiss psychotherapist reflects on what today is a prerequisite for a happy marriage. He carefully explores the history of the institution of marriage and comes to the conclusion that the myth of the happy marriage was formed under the influence of the image of the Holy family. But he's nothing more than a myth: according to the author, "the so-called happy marriage is definitely lost." However, widespread divorce and families consisting of one person, the author is not calling, giving us the ability to choose: "marriage is the happiness of many, but it can be different." (Kogito-Tsentr, 2007) "How to live in pairs and remain free" Tina Tessin, Riley K. Smith
Is it possible to live together with another person and avoid conflicts? Do I need to sacrifice themselves? We lose ourselves in loving Union or, on the contrary, we find? Do I have to defend their position? American psychotherapists Tina Tessin and Riley K. Smith proves that freer feeling each of the partners, the happier and more durable than their Union. The book describes the behavioral strategies that allow you to peacefully overcome the problems in the relationship, to love each other and remain a free people. (Phoenix, 2005)
"Honey, we need to talk about our relationship" by Patricia Love, Steven Stosny
Loss of confidence and loss of spiritual connection between a man and a woman – the main cause of many divorces. American psychologists Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, each of which more than a quarter century advises couples, saying that in most cases it is possible to overcome alienation. In his book, they understand "two dialogues of the deaf", explaining in detail why is it so difficult to "hear" each other, in what may be the implication of certain accusations of neglect and emotional impoverishment. Gradually deconstructing competing claims, the authors explain how to establish with your partner the emotional bond in moments of crisis, when a marriage that's already ready to collapse. (Sofia, 2008)
Read the discussion "We don't understand each other" and other topics in "Two" on the forum.
"Why we love: the Nature and chemistry of romantic love" Helen Fisher Anthropologist Helen Fisher analyzed a lot of information about lovebirds: they did a CT scan of their brain and conducted in-depth surveys; measured the level of dopamine and other chemicals through which we experience the excitement and pleasure. Fisher shares the results of his years of research and explains what happens to us on a biochemical level, when we fall in love, experience passion, love or suffering from unrequited love. (Alpina non-fiction, 2013)
"The secrets of happy families. Male gaze" Bruce Feiler
What does "unisex" look? At least psychology, high technologies, in our particular case. We do not find in this book of advice like "Listen to yourself". But you will find a variety of instructions "How to make..." – children learned how to dispose of pocket money, the fight is not to become a scandal, and in a step to understanding, and so on. And yet, says Bruce Feiler (the leading column in the New York Times and the father of the family), it is important to reconstruct the history of his family. Common history – not just an excuse to spend time together, listening to and creating fascinating stories, it's more a sense of their place and their importance, their responsibility. But the author is not preoccupied with children. Marital intimacy – in it he also reveals something completely unexpected: for sex "proximity needs a pair of the least... People who are married, have a sense of separateness. Too close relationships kill desire." (Alpina non-fiction, 2015)
"Systemic therapy of couples" Scientific editor and author of Anna Varga
The collection, compiled family therapist Anna Varga affected by many problems-family relationships – an inability to talk and Express emotions, the contradiction between marital and parental role, life with a partner suffering from alcoholism... Vivid examples, important topics. Theory and live practice. The authors of the articles – domestic psychologists and psychotherapists (we are able to each of them to make an appointment!): Inna Khamitova, Grazyna Bodinya, Tatiana Drabkin, Lucy Mikaelyan, Catherine Zhornyak. (Kogito-Tsentr, 2012)
"Marriage and family" Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh
This book contains the thoughts of Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh (1904-2003), one of the most influential Orthodox theologians of the world, about the relations that make up the core of our lives: family and marriage, divorce and monasticism, the education of children. But the main focus is on love – one that is akin to the realm of faith: "...faith not only in God, and the mutual faith of one person into another. Such faith can only be born out of love... who is sighted is able to see all the beauty of a man even in the moment when this beauty ranged or when something in the beauty of faded". (Foundation of the spiritual heritage of Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh, 2014) published P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: www.psychologies.ru/events/books/psychologie/byit-vmeste-12-knig-o-garmonichnyih-otnosheniyah-v-pare/
"Map of love" by John Gottman
In the heart of the book – the famous examination of the relationship between partners in a marriage conducted by the American family therapist John Gottman in 1999. Volunteers, couples of different ages and length of relationship were tested psychologists under the supervision of cameras and microphones. The analysis of their facial expressions, gestures, intonations and feelings during the discussion of controversial topics allowed John Gottman to formulate the basic principles of a happy marriage. These laws harmonious family relationships described in the book. (Eksmo, 2011)
"WE. The deeper aspects of romantic love" Robert Johnson
Romantic love is a state of love, and a psychological phenomenon, a time when in communication with another person we learn the meaning of his life. But also expectations and disappointments in them. American Jungian psychologist Robert Johnson explores the nature of love, using the method of depth psychology is the analysis of the myth (in this case of the myth of Tristan and Isolde) as symbolic expressions of our unconscious. The book shows the origins of romantic illusions and authenticity of a Mature love. (Kogito-Tsentr, 2009)
"You and your family. A guide to personal growth" Virginia Satir
"Family life is something like an iceberg. The sailor's fate depends on knowing that the iceberg is the underwater part, and the fate of the family – from understanding the feelings, needs and structures that stand in its everyday life", – said the founder of family counseling, the American psychotherapist Virginia Satir. This book she wrote of men and women who have difficulties in relationships with each other. Learn how family structure, what kind of laws develops, it is possible to understand what is happening with our couple in daily life, and "own efforts to make his family happy." (Institute of General humanitarian studies, 2015)
"Love, love, love: different ways to improve relationships, about acceptance of others and oneself" Liz Burbo
"Acceptance" is the key word around which to build a storytelling book Liz Bourbeau, a canadian psychologist, the founder of the school of spiritual development "Listen to your body". Talking about how to learn to accept yourself, your loved ones as we are. The book is a detailed transcript of the dialogues psychologist with your clients are a married couple. Asking questions and analyzing the answers of the partners, Liz Burbo examines in detail each situation. This is an exciting reading because from Chapter to Chapter (meeting) we observe how changing each of the participants in the dialogue, as they learn to make their family and external circumstances. The result be other relationships within the family, more trusting and loved ones. (Sofia, 2013)
"Why men want sex and women love" Allan Pease, Barbara Pease
Talking about priorities, needs, communication methods and device of the brain of each sex, psychologists Allan and Barbara Pease confirm some myths, debunks others and give a scientific explanation for the third. It turns out that men can not lie to the women, that 80% of couples where one partner snores, break up and that women terribly exciting offer of the husband to vacuum or wash the dishes. After devoting many pages convincing statement of the insuperable differences between male and female nature, the wife of Magnus at the end soften the blow: "People differ from other animals in that it is able to identify and change their behavior by making a conscious choice." To help us in this, and this book is written. (Eksmo, 2014)
"Marriage is dead – long live marriage!" Adolf Guggenbuhl-Craig , a Swiss psychotherapist reflects on what today is a prerequisite for a happy marriage. He carefully explores the history of the institution of marriage and comes to the conclusion that the myth of the happy marriage was formed under the influence of the image of the Holy family. But he's nothing more than a myth: according to the author, "the so-called happy marriage is definitely lost." However, widespread divorce and families consisting of one person, the author is not calling, giving us the ability to choose: "marriage is the happiness of many, but it can be different." (Kogito-Tsentr, 2007) "How to live in pairs and remain free" Tina Tessin, Riley K. Smith
Is it possible to live together with another person and avoid conflicts? Do I need to sacrifice themselves? We lose ourselves in loving Union or, on the contrary, we find? Do I have to defend their position? American psychotherapists Tina Tessin and Riley K. Smith proves that freer feeling each of the partners, the happier and more durable than their Union. The book describes the behavioral strategies that allow you to peacefully overcome the problems in the relationship, to love each other and remain a free people. (Phoenix, 2005)
"Honey, we need to talk about our relationship" by Patricia Love, Steven Stosny
Loss of confidence and loss of spiritual connection between a man and a woman – the main cause of many divorces. American psychologists Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, each of which more than a quarter century advises couples, saying that in most cases it is possible to overcome alienation. In his book, they understand "two dialogues of the deaf", explaining in detail why is it so difficult to "hear" each other, in what may be the implication of certain accusations of neglect and emotional impoverishment. Gradually deconstructing competing claims, the authors explain how to establish with your partner the emotional bond in moments of crisis, when a marriage that's already ready to collapse. (Sofia, 2008)
Read the discussion "We don't understand each other" and other topics in "Two" on the forum.
"Why we love: the Nature and chemistry of romantic love" Helen Fisher Anthropologist Helen Fisher analyzed a lot of information about lovebirds: they did a CT scan of their brain and conducted in-depth surveys; measured the level of dopamine and other chemicals through which we experience the excitement and pleasure. Fisher shares the results of his years of research and explains what happens to us on a biochemical level, when we fall in love, experience passion, love or suffering from unrequited love. (Alpina non-fiction, 2013)
"The secrets of happy families. Male gaze" Bruce Feiler
What does "unisex" look? At least psychology, high technologies, in our particular case. We do not find in this book of advice like "Listen to yourself". But you will find a variety of instructions "How to make..." – children learned how to dispose of pocket money, the fight is not to become a scandal, and in a step to understanding, and so on. And yet, says Bruce Feiler (the leading column in the New York Times and the father of the family), it is important to reconstruct the history of his family. Common history – not just an excuse to spend time together, listening to and creating fascinating stories, it's more a sense of their place and their importance, their responsibility. But the author is not preoccupied with children. Marital intimacy – in it he also reveals something completely unexpected: for sex "proximity needs a pair of the least... People who are married, have a sense of separateness. Too close relationships kill desire." (Alpina non-fiction, 2015)
"Systemic therapy of couples" Scientific editor and author of Anna Varga
The collection, compiled family therapist Anna Varga affected by many problems-family relationships – an inability to talk and Express emotions, the contradiction between marital and parental role, life with a partner suffering from alcoholism... Vivid examples, important topics. Theory and live practice. The authors of the articles – domestic psychologists and psychotherapists (we are able to each of them to make an appointment!): Inna Khamitova, Grazyna Bodinya, Tatiana Drabkin, Lucy Mikaelyan, Catherine Zhornyak. (Kogito-Tsentr, 2012)
"Marriage and family" Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh
This book contains the thoughts of Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh (1904-2003), one of the most influential Orthodox theologians of the world, about the relations that make up the core of our lives: family and marriage, divorce and monasticism, the education of children. But the main focus is on love – one that is akin to the realm of faith: "...faith not only in God, and the mutual faith of one person into another. Such faith can only be born out of love... who is sighted is able to see all the beauty of a man even in the moment when this beauty ranged or when something in the beauty of faded". (Foundation of the spiritual heritage of Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh, 2014) published P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: www.psychologies.ru/events/books/psychologie/byit-vmeste-12-knig-o-garmonichnyih-otnosheniyah-v-pare/
