If You're a friend to your child, who would be his mother? Bashny.Net

The status of mother and girl friend are totally different.

Friends don't bear the responsibility lies with the parents; they can't give the support that a child seeking mother and father.

To be friends is to be on an equal footing.

But between you and the child there is a distance, there are themes that you will never be able to discuss with him( at least should not) have declarative your right to make decisions.

For a child, parents are gods.

A Bastion of stability, security and love.” If mom knows what she's doing, the world is all right.” A mother knows what to do! )), since a very long time, primary responsibility will lie on it.

 

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As it did not want to be friends with the girl or become best friend to his son, these sites are not yours. They have to take peers. It is with them he will discuss the intricacies of relationships and other similar issues where you ordered input. Like him in your parents ' bedroom.

Mom has her role. If she decides to make of his daughter's close friend himself, and of the son of a close friend (almost a replacement for his man), it very much violates the boundaries of their children.

Adults aunts and uncles should be friends only with older aunts and uncles. it is with them you need to build intimate, close relationships.Instead of trying to take over the world, soul and body of his child.

Boundaries have always exhibited an adult. It is he who sets the rules. And it is a big part of the responsibility.

Even if you and your child have to communicate like an adult – adult and not as child – parent, you are still a parent to him, your status does not change, no matter how much your “baby” would not be years.

You never have to equal.

And this is tolerated.

Especially do not try to pass on to his child the responsibility for you. Make him a parent you change places with him. Hang him caring about you, trying to make him a companion, a man you can trust and whom you can love forever.

Adults aunts and uncles build relationships with other adults, aunts and uncles, not with their children, no matter how much these children would not be years.

For daughters the father is the man – a dream.

Years five she even decides to kick mom and having dad and children to live with him in love and harmony till death do them part.

But as sad as it is to realize, but even the most loving fathers have to vacate the place men near her daughter another – first the kid, then the guy, and then the man. And there is nothing you can do about it. C'est La vie.

All the boys, they realize it or not, was in love with their mothers. And if the mother for whatever reason does not put the border between himself and the son, the sons of “forbidden love” and continues to burden their relationship. If mom is smart enough to turn its attention to other adult men, the son understands that mommy is busy and will be able to successfully build relationships with peers.

It is not necessary to be a friend to your child, he better be supportive, loving, reliable parent.

And make friends among us adults!)) published 

Author: Irina Dubova

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