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Adult play: It's all because of you.
This game was described by Eric Burn. Although she was born in America, she also meets us. Yeah, yeah.
The couple accuse each other of this phrase. With further development, it turns into a game of "If it weren't for you."
The trouble is that children learn this game quickly, and then unconsciously play all their lives in almost all difficult situations. It is the government’s fault, the neighbors’. But most of all, of course, parents, spouse (a) and children are to blame.
A very interesting argument used by all neurotics is poor upbringing. Who prevented this defect from being corrected? After all, you can do sports yourself, and lose weight and learn music, and English too. You can see the game "Because of You."
Where they learn this game is hard to say. Most likely, watching his father accuse his mother of all sins.
I want to describe a scene that was told by one of my clients. He was imbued with the idea of non-interference in the upbringing of children and did not monitor how his daughter performed her lessons.
But you better listen to his story.
“My wife did not share my pedagogical innovations and continued to supervise our daughter’s lessons. By this time, her daughter was in the third grade and already suffered from excellent student syndrome. My daughter was in math class. My wife was sitting next to me all the time. They fought each other. After some time, with the reproaches that I don’t care about the fate of the children, that because of me my daughter will grow up stupid, that she was very tired, my wife asked me to watch her daughter do her homework.
With a dissatisfied look and shouting, “Look, you’re making me waste my time,” I sat down next to my daughter and watched her write things down and kept quiet. This went on for five minutes. Then, when she was about to write down some absurdity, I couldn’t stand it and made a remark to her. The daughter's hand twitched. She made a mark in a notebook and said in about the same tone, "You see what I did because of you." Now I'm not getting an A. It's all because of you!
Then I remembered that as a child, I also blamed my parents for everything, and then all people and circumstances.
It's a pretty characteristic story. But only when a person stops blaming the circumstances and the people around him, and begins to look for mistakes in his actions, something can change in his fate.
Dear readers, be sure to get married and have children. It will always be clear who is causing your failures, especially after your parents die. They may say, “If it were not for you.” You won't have to look far.
Singles and unmarried people are much more difficult. They usually explain a bad life by not having families and children. I would like to remind you once again that everyone’s fate is in his own head, and if you are unhappy with fate, or rather the scenario, change yourself, rewriting your script. published
Author: Mikhail Litvak
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
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The couple accuse each other of this phrase. With further development, it turns into a game of "If it weren't for you."
The trouble is that children learn this game quickly, and then unconsciously play all their lives in almost all difficult situations. It is the government’s fault, the neighbors’. But most of all, of course, parents, spouse (a) and children are to blame.
A very interesting argument used by all neurotics is poor upbringing. Who prevented this defect from being corrected? After all, you can do sports yourself, and lose weight and learn music, and English too. You can see the game "Because of You."
Where they learn this game is hard to say. Most likely, watching his father accuse his mother of all sins.
I want to describe a scene that was told by one of my clients. He was imbued with the idea of non-interference in the upbringing of children and did not monitor how his daughter performed her lessons.
But you better listen to his story.
“My wife did not share my pedagogical innovations and continued to supervise our daughter’s lessons. By this time, her daughter was in the third grade and already suffered from excellent student syndrome. My daughter was in math class. My wife was sitting next to me all the time. They fought each other. After some time, with the reproaches that I don’t care about the fate of the children, that because of me my daughter will grow up stupid, that she was very tired, my wife asked me to watch her daughter do her homework.
With a dissatisfied look and shouting, “Look, you’re making me waste my time,” I sat down next to my daughter and watched her write things down and kept quiet. This went on for five minutes. Then, when she was about to write down some absurdity, I couldn’t stand it and made a remark to her. The daughter's hand twitched. She made a mark in a notebook and said in about the same tone, "You see what I did because of you." Now I'm not getting an A. It's all because of you!
Then I remembered that as a child, I also blamed my parents for everything, and then all people and circumstances.
It's a pretty characteristic story. But only when a person stops blaming the circumstances and the people around him, and begins to look for mistakes in his actions, something can change in his fate.
Dear readers, be sure to get married and have children. It will always be clear who is causing your failures, especially after your parents die. They may say, “If it were not for you.” You won't have to look far.
Singles and unmarried people are much more difficult. They usually explain a bad life by not having families and children. I would like to remind you once again that everyone’s fate is in his own head, and if you are unhappy with fate, or rather the scenario, change yourself, rewriting your script. published
Author: Mikhail Litvak
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
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