How to get her: nervous and hesitant

Communication is our whole life, and often what you say is more important than what you want to say. How to achieve emotional control, the courage to voice their ideas and to defend them, says psychologist, author of Entrepreneur magazine sherry Campbell.


1. Clearly Express their opinionsto share their ideas at work, need confidence, especially if your goal is to impress or influence colleagues from another Department or more senior colleagues. To be confident during communication with the chief or an important potential client, you need to have a clear position. The more clarity you will have in the beginning of the conversation, the more chances that your ideas will be received with interest.

Don't worry that you'll marry some face. The worst thing that can happen is that your ideas will be consider and rejected. But if you find the courage to convey, you will have more confidence in their opinion than when you prefer not to make. If you believe your ideas may have some value, please raise them. It's worth a little risk.



2. Be preparedIf you came to battle and Express their thoughts and opinions, I can't be weak. The clarity and directness give you the power and influence, especially if you want to convey your thoughts to more senior people. Say bold, but not annoying.

And never start with apology or any other justification which demonstrates your insecurity. Start the conversation with a firm, confident statements of "I am", which is supported by clear evidence. Facts and research will help you not to stumble — you have reliable information that you can cite if someone challenged your words. Then, whenever your opinion is questioned, you have the opportunity to reinforce confidence in their ideas. So consider these situations — you do not deny, you are given the opportunity.


3. Stick to the mainBe prepared to stand firmly for their ideas. Can be scary to resist when someone is sharply disputing your words, especially if it's some big boss. But remember that the most worthwhile ideas often seem controversial. So when you offer something new, in advance expect you will challenge, and respond to data and facts.

Show your conviction, but do not take a defensive or aggressive stance. Both are screaming about lack of confidence and undermines the credibility of your idea. If someone challenges your words, or doubts them, are beginning to show that you understood the point of view of your opponent, and then firmly and friendly demonstrate distinct reasons — why you see it all differently.


4. Provoke questionsTop managers appreciate thoughtful suggestions. They welcome ideas that provoke some new discussion. They love it when they are challenged and when they are challenged in expressing the opposite point of view. So come to these conversations from a position of cooperation and openness.Tune into decisions. It's much better than to remain silent or internally to object. The more you are on such cooperation, the more interesting you are for them — both the higher and the lower.

But you need a certain strength of character that, on the one hand, to show such flexibility, and not to deviate from the ideas and opinions that you hold. You have to combine hardness with the ability to cause others issues and the desire to dig deeper in what you are offering them.


5. Be respectful

People are always people. If your words are condescending towards others, they will not be taken seriously. Your attitude, approach, nonverbal cues, tone says a lot about you. Respect yourself, showing confidence, but we respect the people who listen to your ideas.

Many people have a subconscious tendency to give to those who have more power. But if you act thus, you will not be respected. So don't let someone who is older or more important than you, to control the flow of conversation or to muzzle you. And in turn demonstrate their respect for him by offering only the best ideas.

Conversely, if you refer to people who are below you in the posts show the same respect. Listen carefully to them, accept the value of their approach, build on their ideas as possible.


6. Be sincere, Not all groups are equally willing to accept the opinion of all participants. Sometimes business and not you personally: maybe this is the culture of the Department and the company. Looking at colleagues, you can come to the conclusion that there is a "normal" style of dress, conversation, behavior, and there is the temptation to maintain the status quo. But remember that a large success never comes by upholding the status quo. Moreover, there is no need to disrupt the corporate culture, even if you plan to become a more powerful Communicator. Even working in the current system, you can feel free to Express their views and be yourself.

Sincerity is contagious trait. The more you are true to yourself, despite the surrounding culture, the more you are willing to speak out about what you really care about, the more you will inspire the success of their colleagues. Be prepared for the risk. Don't suppress your sense of humor, creative energy, spontaneous desire is not benefit you or your company.

Emotions can inspire confusion and weaken you. Therefore, during any communication, remember that emotions can not be trusted. You can feel shyness, insecurity, uncertainty. Think of these feelings like a pebble in your Shoe is uncomfortable, but should be ignored. These emotions need to be overcome to get your ideas heard, accepted, implemented.


And again,start any communication with a smile. In this case, all it seems that you have everything under control. But if you act confident enough you will be enough confident. published


P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

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