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To turn the tide in their favor: how to respond to biased
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Each of us though time in life is met with a biased attitude from the side of teachers, bosses, work colleagues or other people with whom we somehow have to communicate. In this article we have gathered the advice of psychologists for those who are trying to cope with this problem:
1. No matter what you think about other people. This is your life and you should live – and not to them. Live as you want.
2. If someone for no reason trapped a grudge on you, do not bother and do not try to "find the reason in yourself." A biased attitude usually hides the banal self-doubt, attempts to assert themselves and have a lot of different complexes. People tend to project their own shortcomings on others is much easier than to get rid of them.
3. Agree, you also treated people biased, and probably repeatedly. Try to remember a few of these situations so you will understand that it is not man provoked a disapproving attitude, and you yourself are something they invented.
4. To be independent of other people's opinions is quite simple in words, but in reality it is much more difficult. Sometimes it is worth to get mad or be offended, to use this negative energy and channel it in a positive direction.
5.The demonization of enemies – the approach is simple, and even enjoyable, because in this case you act as a positive character, and the surrounding become evil and heartless monsters that you fight. However, it is worth remembering that in fact all these people are just victims of their own insecurities and subconscious fears, and no worse than the other – you were just unlucky to get caught under the hot hand, or rather head.
6. There is a huge difference between constructive criticism and openly biased judgments. Sometimes it is worth to listen to people who criticize you, maybe they are just trying to help you. Our brain is difficult to tolerate criticism and equally sensitive to any attacks, but if for a moment calm down and think, you will easily find the above difference. So if someone is trying to tell you something important – try to listen.
7. It is not necessary to take it out on other people – it makes you easier still will not, and negativity in the world will only get bigger.
8. Ill contagious. Save your nerves: throw the bad thoughts out of your head, accept the fact that you are not able to control the minds of other people, and spend time in the company over to you.
9. The same caustic comment can come as someone who just got off on the wrong foot, and from someone who a day can not toptv anyone in the dirt. If the case of the latter, it is worth remembering Tina fey: "don't waste your strength in trying to dissuade people. Someone else's opinion is better to either not notice or go ahead – when you will stand at the top, the views will change by themselves. Or will not change. What's the difference? Do what you want, no matter, enjoy the rest of it or not."
10.Or here is another remarkable statement Tina: "If you had to deal with disapproval, whether it be sexism, ageism, lookism or even aggressive Buddhism, just ask yourself: "can this person stop me to achieve what I want?" If the answer is negative – ignore it and move on. Invest your energy in your own case – so you are faster you will achieve success. If will be some big boss – don't hire a bad attitude to you people"
11. People who relate to all too biased and pessimistic, simply because they so want, will definitely turn into a big pain in the ass, if them in time not distance. Get rid of such people and avoid them in the future.
12. Understanding and empathy will come in handy where you least wish them to be. Sometimes they can be used to solve even the most intractable conflict.
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13.Mental attitudes like "I am the baddest of them all" and "They treat me just because I'm doing my job better than they" usually do more harm than good, because they still contains a negative connotation. So just don't take other people into account. Yes, they can hurt you careless word, but the pain will pass quickly, and your life will be much easier if you just stop to consider these people as a significant factor in your peace of mind.
14. Even the most successful, confident, and beloved crowd of people had to face criticism. If public disapproval is holding you back, then it is unlikely that you ever will.
15. Bias as a phenomenon will always exist – because we all are people. On the other hand, when a person is too busy with his own life, someone else's opinion just ceased to worry him.published
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: mixstuff.ru/archives/110471
1. No matter what you think about other people. This is your life and you should live – and not to them. Live as you want.
2. If someone for no reason trapped a grudge on you, do not bother and do not try to "find the reason in yourself." A biased attitude usually hides the banal self-doubt, attempts to assert themselves and have a lot of different complexes. People tend to project their own shortcomings on others is much easier than to get rid of them.
3. Agree, you also treated people biased, and probably repeatedly. Try to remember a few of these situations so you will understand that it is not man provoked a disapproving attitude, and you yourself are something they invented.
4. To be independent of other people's opinions is quite simple in words, but in reality it is much more difficult. Sometimes it is worth to get mad or be offended, to use this negative energy and channel it in a positive direction.
5.The demonization of enemies – the approach is simple, and even enjoyable, because in this case you act as a positive character, and the surrounding become evil and heartless monsters that you fight. However, it is worth remembering that in fact all these people are just victims of their own insecurities and subconscious fears, and no worse than the other – you were just unlucky to get caught under the hot hand, or rather head.
6. There is a huge difference between constructive criticism and openly biased judgments. Sometimes it is worth to listen to people who criticize you, maybe they are just trying to help you. Our brain is difficult to tolerate criticism and equally sensitive to any attacks, but if for a moment calm down and think, you will easily find the above difference. So if someone is trying to tell you something important – try to listen.
7. It is not necessary to take it out on other people – it makes you easier still will not, and negativity in the world will only get bigger.
8. Ill contagious. Save your nerves: throw the bad thoughts out of your head, accept the fact that you are not able to control the minds of other people, and spend time in the company over to you.
9. The same caustic comment can come as someone who just got off on the wrong foot, and from someone who a day can not toptv anyone in the dirt. If the case of the latter, it is worth remembering Tina fey: "don't waste your strength in trying to dissuade people. Someone else's opinion is better to either not notice or go ahead – when you will stand at the top, the views will change by themselves. Or will not change. What's the difference? Do what you want, no matter, enjoy the rest of it or not."
10.Or here is another remarkable statement Tina: "If you had to deal with disapproval, whether it be sexism, ageism, lookism or even aggressive Buddhism, just ask yourself: "can this person stop me to achieve what I want?" If the answer is negative – ignore it and move on. Invest your energy in your own case – so you are faster you will achieve success. If will be some big boss – don't hire a bad attitude to you people"
11. People who relate to all too biased and pessimistic, simply because they so want, will definitely turn into a big pain in the ass, if them in time not distance. Get rid of such people and avoid them in the future.
12. Understanding and empathy will come in handy where you least wish them to be. Sometimes they can be used to solve even the most intractable conflict.
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13.Mental attitudes like "I am the baddest of them all" and "They treat me just because I'm doing my job better than they" usually do more harm than good, because they still contains a negative connotation. So just don't take other people into account. Yes, they can hurt you careless word, but the pain will pass quickly, and your life will be much easier if you just stop to consider these people as a significant factor in your peace of mind.
14. Even the most successful, confident, and beloved crowd of people had to face criticism. If public disapproval is holding you back, then it is unlikely that you ever will.
15. Bias as a phenomenon will always exist – because we all are people. On the other hand, when a person is too busy with his own life, someone else's opinion just ceased to worry him.published
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: mixstuff.ru/archives/110471
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