How to cope with negative emotions without any harm to others







Man - an amazing creature: he can adapt and get used to almost any conditions. And all because our psyche - not frozen once and for all design and flexible plastic education, which aims - to preserve our "I" in a state of equilibrium and harmony. To cope with shocks, stress and all sorts of trouble that day rained on our heads, we - it's worth noting, quite unconsciously - use certain mechanisms that are collected and described a kind grandfather Freud for us

Website <. / says about these mechanisms, as well as the dangers that they are currently hidden.



unconscious mechanisms that help us deal with stress:

Wipe: "I know nothing, I do not remember anything" best way to cope with the trauma - forget about it. Our psyche is perfectly aware of this, so the most horrible thoughts, experiences and emotions pushed into such depths of the subconscious, from which they can extract did hypnosis. One simply does not remember that it struck unpleasant or traumatic, and it is, meanwhile, continues to live in his subconscious, quietly eat up his psychic energy and, worst of all, to determine its future behavior.



The projection: "blame Snusmumrik» cunning, greedy, vile, cowardly, messy, does not allow us to live normally and I take over the world? Of course Snusmumrik! Or gibberish or Smeshariki or anyone else. The main thing - not us. Thinking bad about yourself - an unpleasant activity, so it is best to project their negative qualities to someone else, and at the same time hang on him the blame for unsightly consequences

. Our psyche is all very well knows how to do, so there is such a thing as a scapegoat - a person or team who first attributed all sorts of vices, and then for them is punished. Scapegoats are found almost everywhere - at the class level, the company workforce and even the whole country. It is thanks to them we can feel warm and fuzzy



The replacement:. "... And I have something for that !!?» you have offended someone strong and terrible, such a stupid neighbor athlete, a teacher at the university, or the boss, do not worry, because for someone as dangerous and present ourselves. You can come home and be rude to her grandmother, kick the dog or little sister, to bring to the tantrums saleswoman in a store ... There are all sorts of ways to relieve tension!

Substitution - is a mental mechanism that allows you to redirect negative emotions with a dangerous object at a much less dangerous. The Japanese, who instead of dinner stuffed beat his top managers engaged in exactly this



Negation:. "It is impossible» li > denial - the first reaction to the bad, very bad news. "It can not be", - says the man, saving the integrity of their familiar and comfortable world and its logic and imaginary resistance. He tries to act as if nothing had happened, she refuses to believe and see the changes. But you can not stay forever, otherwise, in the pose of an ostrich - clinic



The rationalization: "Do not hurt something and it is necessary» <. / , again, did not take to work? Nothing, they still salary is small, but had to work hard to the fullest. Not enough money to buy fashionable gadget? But who needs all these features, they do not use the same one. Denied girl? Not so it is good and one nose which is ...

Yes, well, once again not to be upset, you need all the good and logichnenko explain. The fact is that all sorts of rational construction have one hell of an important quality - they are objective, that is natural, that is needed. That is, we with all their complex and wonderful inner world do not have to do with them. Therefore, there is nothing to suffer if the university is bad, but its reputation is questionable, why be upset, if you have not done it



regression? " ! Aga-aga-years-hoo-ah .. » as sometimes want to return to childhood - at the perfect time, when we feel safe, when it was not necessary to think about the future, make decisions and scramble, and the entire range of duties exhaust the games, afternoon naps and five meals ...

In critical situations, our mind tends to the same, so we start to offer a variety of children's behaviors - return to the previous stage of development. Pretend to be a fool, suck on a finger, curl up, inflate, and not to talk - all this points to the fact that the man took a protective stance and is trying to escape from the outside world



<. Reactive education: "who it hurts, he is and says,» ardent fighters than whatever cause us some suspicion: instead of fighting are they with you? Indeed, excessive passion for such things indicates the emotional significance of the problem to the subject.

Thus, Freud believed that excessive activity in the fight against homosexuality indicates the presence of a person corresponding meaning. Seeing this, the psyche supplanted them in the subconscious mind and launched a reactive process: now the man directs all his energy to fight what disturbs him most



Sublimation: "The soul hurts, and the hand writes ...» , painters, writers and other artists are born out of suffering - this is known to all who at least once took up a brush, feather or string. Art helps to make life bearable, and in some cases even delightful. When the beloved does not love overcomes sadness and longing and loneliness make their way to the heart of what we do? That's right, we begin to create! That is, to transform their negative energy into socially acceptable forms of behavior. Anyway, it's better than to make love to your favorite, and the people around them - to mourn with us



How to deal with negative emotions and do not fall into the trap of unconscious protection
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The mechanisms, of course, useful. But in addition to providing our with you they are mental stability fraught and one great danger: almost all methods of protection distort actual situation for the sake of our spiritual comfort

Vegetating the price is quite high - a sense of reality that we lose the more, the longer and work more efficiently, our unconscious defense. At some point, we can see that we are surrounded by enemies solid, and the people we love suffer from our misbehavior. protection effect is diametrically opposite - sorrow, pain, lack of implementation, loneliness

. What all of this there is an exit?

to think about the reasons for their actions «Follow them and be careful," conscious all the subconscious and brings to light all the hidden in the depths of our "I».



Second, to engage in manual labor and sports < / , running, digging, chopping wood (as Adriano in the famous film "The Taming of the Shrew"), rock muscle, swim, ride a bike and do other such pleasant for the body and soul of things. It is so consumed psychic energy, including negative.

30 minutes in the gym can save our families and from our formidable chief, and from our hurts and fears. Sports improve mood and sleep, increase self-esteem and help fight stress, thus making us healthy and beautiful.

A third, often do! < / music, poetry, paintings, shelves, stools, buns, scarves, cakes, in the end, life itself. After all, only creativity can cope with their fear and terror, so that not only do no harm, but actually help.

It does not distort, and enriches our world, helping to know, to love and to express themselves, that is, actually it makes life better. Creativity - a noble and rewarding activity, and if there are so many various "benefits", why would they, in fact, do not



? According to the materials: psyera.ru
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