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about parenting written thousands of books, but nonetheless many parents there are several stable stereotypes that often interfere with the child's development and the formation of his personality. Olga Nechaev, a mother of two children, a well-known blogger, has written an excellent article about this, based on life experience.
And Website in a hurry to share it with you.
One of the strange and for me malologichnyh myth goes something like this: "If a child to love unconditionally and to make it grow spoiled maladaptive boor»
. This myth is based on a few interesting ideas.
Idea 1. "Man, however, should know that life is cruel" Not that he needs someone, but, frankly, it would be difficult to hide it from him. In addition to the correct 10-minute parsing who knows conscious parent spent vector acceptance and empathy, there are all the other 23 hours and 50 minutes, in which the child learns passively around
Idea 2. "If you teach, he will get used" This myth is based on ignorance of the peculiarities of personality development. On that certain personality traits are formed in stages, and it is not a question of habit. What can not wait for the child's desire to share in two years, compassion in three or four of awareness. The child is not only extremely flexible, it also does not develop immediately. Therefore, a child whose parents have experienced temper tantrums with patience and understanding in 2-3 years will not hysteria in 7 years, just like a child, peeing in your pants per year, will not make it to 10. Ignorance of child development features creates a lot of fear, and child "taught" to be good in 2 years in the fear that the children's self-interest will continue until 25
idea 3. "If you love children, they will remain selfish" This is a very dangerous myth, because it is even more deeply convinced him that people are inherently - It is evil, and only a strict ban on selfishness makes him human.
Man in essence - a social being. < It has the ability to all:. As the greatest selfishness and the need to protect themselves, and to the great sacrifice and love, and manifests and develops in himself the ability to respond to people around If a person lives in a dangerous aggressive an environment where a lot of humiliation, violence and senseless, he grows protected, angry and unfeeling. If a person is living in a supportive, respectful, and feeding environment, he grows to respect, noble and generous.
Other things being equal eat vegetables from the garden and pine trees breathe healthier than living in Kapotnia is potato peelings.
But the world is amazing: there are always those who deny it. Someone says, "But I was beaten on the hands with a bow, and now I play the violin beautifully»
. Well. We all have the opportunity to beat the child's hand, and not even apologizing violin. Is that not enough. And suddenly.
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