Internal navigation. How to find a point of equilibrium in the zone of turbulence?

We are all the time trying to mislead about the fact that the earlier marriage was stronger and divorce was much less. But if we analyze the lives of our parents and grandparents, we are faced with an interesting situation. Rather, they endured each other, and the great love that would last long enough to have been isolated cases. And as far as I know, strong marriages were based on the fact that one of the spouses was dominant (whether male or female), and the second - to adjust to. In a very large extent the relationship based on fear then, depending on the opinions of others. And though the adventures of the left still present, people continued to live together. Many women are afraid of loneliness, and can live with the unloved, going contrary to your happiness state. And those men who turned out to be inert (there were so many), has no interest in women and went smoothly in a relationship "fishing, hunting, beer, billiards, dominoes are friends».

We now have a number of couples who divorced, just tremendous. If our grandparents still somehow tolerated, and mom-dad's already started divorce, such as looking for an opportunity to be alone, but feel more happy, but now people no longer tolerate and do not want to stay close. They received so much negativity in the unit of time, they understood that if this continues, and further, they simply collapse. And this is indeed the case.
Energy dilemma
Men and women love each other just energy. There are two energies - yin (female) and yang (male). Moreover, women are born mostly Jansky (to develop the yin qualities: attractiveness, femininity, charm, sheet, sensuality, forgiveness, physicality and love), and men - Yin (to develop the yang: courage, calmness, confidence, a sense of humor, ability to make decisions, to act, to realize our plans, to take responsibility, to respect themselves and others). If we begin to develop these qualities, the gain and multiply them many times, which would not have been if we had simply received since birth.

Both men and women can not suppress their energy. The problem at the same time the dilemma is that women need to be Jansky and at the same time increase the charm, attractiveness and femininity, and men - to remain Yin, but at the same time strengthen the courage, calmness, confidence
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As soon as we cease to work on themselves in this direction, it is skewed: men become weak, inert, lazy, hysterical, vindictive and not willing to take responsibility. Testosterone in the blood falls, the activity becomes weak, as a result of people do not want nothing to do and nowhere seeks. A woman, on the contrary, become active, include aggression, begin to act, to take responsibility and move forward. Testosterone in excess starts to implement a program of self-destruction. This leads to the fact that a woman becomes aggressive, depressive, overwhelming. Even if it is successful in business and in society is realized, most likely it is not personal happiness (or it is illusory).

A woman has the ability to "be" man. If we compare it with the fighting and the army, the woman - a rear, and a man - it's the front. A woman has the ammunition, weapons, ammunition, barracks, food and treatment. The man - it's just a soldier. Woman whom his energy "puts", gives him weapons, feeds, heals and inspires. And he was at war. It turns out that men are filling the manifest power of women. And the man appeal level must always be the same as that of the woman, in order that there was harmony. If the level of attractiveness of the woman will be higher then what would the man was, he begins to be jealous, and her subconscious mind will form the other men, who will take care of it, to give flowers and be willing to communicate, because they intuitively understand that it is that unrealized energy that will make them healthy, happy and rich. This happens subconsciously. Are you willing to lose?
Are you willing to lose?
When we fall in love with a person, we should be a willingness to lose it, because it will change. Figuratively speaking, he will lose the qualities that he has been in the first class, and acquire the ones that should be in the tenth.

How do you explain the fact that there are women and men, which together may be short-lived? The reason is that there are women who are ready to move forward, and the men who stopped in its development. If a woman goes to the development of further and stay with this man, he destroys her, and she begins to get sick and die.
No one can change what we might have applied to that effort, if he does not want to change myself. It will not be an athlete, even if we'll drive him to the most luxurious gym - he lies there on the mats and sleep. Do not comfort yourself with illusions that your man or your woman will start to work on themselves, that they might be interested in moving forward, if they are inert, lazy, if they have not anything they do not want to engage in any activities or their appearance or development, any business. They already have a stability (or not), they already have children, for which they hide, they complain, all unhappy, support empty talk, remember the past ...

But we love each other the unknown - that's when we have the irresistible urge to communicate. Our goal - to realize that we are always developing. Both spiritually and physically, and attractive, and financially. We can not stop there - ever. Suppose someone says, "I already have a normal position, the normal salary, a normal apartment, computer, television, car - everything, I have nothing else, live and be happy." But this is not the stability and degradation.

In the progress it should be including in the relationship. New computers are located, new mobile phones, cars. And when we take a five-year-old model and new, we realize that this is heaven and earth. But the same should happen to us, we must be physically, emotionally appealing, intellectually developed in the same way. If we lag behind, this progress is beginning to have the same and destroy. We have to go with him in the leg and still be a men - men, women - women. About love
Only when there is respect, love and ...., it leads to normal relations, but they are based on small things. We need to win each other every day, and it means - to move amor paravpered. Women need to change your wardrobe all the time, constantly want something, ranging from shoes and finishing with dresses, coats, spa and cosmetics. Men need to take pleasure in the fact that they earn money, move forward. How a woman's dream big, so the man is a great potential.

If a woman says that she has a claim to the man, because he is drinking, but she smokes and has an extra 30 kilograms, she has no right to voice complaints, because she creates the conditions to ensure that it did not have a normal men. (On the claims of men to women - just below.) Love to yourself - this is when take care of yourself, eat right, exercise, you use high-quality cosmetics, train, go to your favorite job, earn a lot of money. Love to yourself - when you communicate with interesting people, you look great movies, listening to good music.

It is based on this love of self.
If we want to have a man around, who will love us, we must first love yourself. And when we come to love ourselves, then we can love another - only on the excess. There is a real love - when we from an excess of self-love and love of another is important for us to be happy, whether it is with us or not. And love is the consumer - when we are afraid of losing the other person, and we want to have it all done the way we want. But in this case we do not love the person, and the feeling that feel to it. And the more we love this feeling in yourself, the more we take away a human life energy to nurture this feeling, thus destroying the man and creating the conditions for it or we hate or ill and died. Other options I do not know.
Source - magazine "Wheel of Life» №4 (77)