In the minds of the layman "Domostroy" is associated with the dark middle ages, violence and family violence. The site publishes a fascinating article debunks the belief is widespread.
A role in forming this opinion played propaganda, including the Soviet. Its aim is to create an image of the kingdom of darkness, ignorance and tyranny, which was an old Russian. In support of these templates opponents patriarchal family quotes about calls for the application in respect of their households forces that are present in this monument of Russian literature of the XVI century. No wonder people who want to describe the life of ne'er-do family, where wife and children are in constant fear of the beatings his father-bully, using word-horror story "Domostroy».
Mention of assault and battery in this book is, but they are, in the words of the historian Dmitry Volodikhin only particular on marginal fields. In fact, the «Domostroy" was truly revolutionary for its time, product, urge readers to love, common sense and care for his family in the harsh realities of the ancient Russian state. Consider the basic teachings of "patriarchal despotism", which is credited with authorship of the archpriest Sylvester.
Teach father! h2> Perhaps the main message that runs through the entire book, can be formulated as follows: the head of the family is obliged to educate their households doing business, the economy and the basics of spiritual life.
That's what says about the author of "patriarchal despotism": "A God who sends children - sons or daughters to take care of chadah his father and mother, and ensure that they educate in good sermon; teach the fear of God and courtesy, and to every order, and then, looking at the children and age, to teach them needlework - the mother of daughters and skill - the father of sons; who are capable of than what to whom God gives opportunities; love them and take care of ... and his wife to learn, also the household of their mentoring, not violence, is not afraid, not slavery, a heavy, but as kids to have always rest, fed and clothed, and in the warmth of the house, and always in the order ... If the children have offended paternal or maternal neglect, of such sins and their response to keep the Day of Judgment. So if children are deprived of the teachings of their fathers and mothers, what sin or evil is created, the fathers and mothers of God, sin, and from people reproach and a taunt, the house is a loss, and ourselves grief and loss by the judges as a penalty and shame ».
the commandments! h2> The basis of a prosperous life for all family members "Domostroy" - keeping the commandments. In this part of the author only paraphrases the basic instructions for every Christian scriptures: "Himself to you, sir, and my wife and children, and households - do not steal, do not fornicate, do not lie, do not slander, do not be jealous, not offend, do not tell tales on someone else not to encroach, not to judge, not revel, do not make fun of, do not remember evil, anyone not to be angry, for the elderly to be obedient and submissive to the average - friendly, to the younger and the poor - friendly and gracious, all the work rule without red tape, especially not to offend the pay the employee all the same offense with gratitude to suffer for the sake of God and reproach, and reproach, if rightly revile and reproach, with love and receive such desperation to avoid, and in response, not revenge. If, however, in no way responsible for this award was given by God ».
Mines dowry h2> Throughout the narrative the reader "patriarchal despotism" faced with appeals to the head of the family constantly concerned about the welfare of their loved ones, careful housekeeping and life. In other words, the father is obliged to provide full material support, and if he has a daughter, then a very young age need to start to accumulate a dowry for the bride: « Reasonable people from all earnings daughter lay: in its name or zhivotinku grow offspring, or paintings, and from the canvas and from pieces of cloth, and from ubrus and of shirts over the years in her special box put the dress and the dresses and necklaces, and Church plates and utensils tin and copper, and wood; always add a little bit of everything, but not all of a sudden, currently at a loss ».
Take care of the honor of his youth h2> «Domostroy" urges fathers to preserve the reputation of his family and to see to it that her children are not spoiled. Neither the head of the family, nor his household in this context is not allowed to drink, fornicate, "sramoslovit" vilified bosses gossip. If at least one member of the family will become the glory of a bad man, the dark spot will be on the whole race, and future generations.
To save the honor of his youth, "Domostroy" advises, in particular, to be kept around, not to stay away, and thus always to be welcoming and helpful.
Taboo on reckless aggression h2> Surely, you ask, in the "Domostroi" so nothing is said about corporal punishment. It is said, but the use of force in this book is severely limited, and describes as an inevitable necessity in extreme cases. At the same time the punishment itself should take place without rancor, with a sincere desire to benefit and instruct a household, which then need to be sure to regret.
"The good people at the economic wife's house is always clean and arranged - all as it should stashed where that is necessary, and cleaned and swept always: in this order in heaven enter. - explains the author of" Domostroi. " - ... And the husband sees that his wife and servants of the disorder, or not all as set forth in this book, would be able to instruct his wife to teach but useful advice; if she understands - then it is the way it do, and love her, and praise, but if the wife of the science was and counsel should not be, and that just does not perform, and she is nothing of that does not know and servants do not teach, should the husband wife to punish and warn his private fear and punished, forgive, and reproach, and lovingly instruct and teach, but neither my husband not to be angry at his wife or wife to husband - always live in love and in harmony. And the servants and children, also depending on the wine and on the case, punish and whip and punish regret ».
Given the severe nature of the medieval Russian, compiler of the book alone underlines the unacceptability of violence and harm to the health of family members.