Discreet and not yell at a child ... Well here is how?

1. codeword "FUFANDI»

Think of yourself abstract word that means you are on the edge and is about to lose his composure. What kind of "fufandi." This is a signal «SOS» for other relatives: mother in a rage and now will be on-the-very swear if she did not help. It is also a signal for the child: the game ended, if you do not stop immediately, the move will go heavy artillery. This is a serious warning, it means that some very cool "nakosyachil" and should be immediately corrected.

2. Barbie, WHAT are you doing ?!

To scold the child's favorite toy, and not on himself. At the same time on your child pointedly ignore at this time. Let your child sees mom or dad angrily shakes bear and questioned him: "Who did this ?! I ask you, who did it? That you izrisoval the wall? You said many times that we can not do that! ". On the one hand, you have to let off steam and calm down a little. On the other hand, a child is well aware that it was he who committed a misdemeanor, not a bear. Finally, listening to your appeal to the toy, the child is more receptive to the meaning of your words, as like as not scold him, he does not have to be afraid of making excuses and slap on the pope.

3. swears whisper

Imagine that you have a sore throat or behind the wall someone is asleep and can not wake up. Shout whisper - the child will understand that you are very angry, but at the same time will not be shocked and scared by your yelling.

4. Throw NEGATIVE OTHERWISE

Feeling that you are now going to explode, transfer their anger on any physical action. For example, a knock on the pan with a spoon, squeeze something in hand to pain or foot kick wall. Just do not hit the wall with his fist - tested, very painful.

5. Che cazzo ... ?!

If you speak a foreign language, shouting the first, the most insulting and swearing at him unconstructive. If you are not 100% bilingual and has outstanding talent, you will not be so easy to translate the Russian warfare in another language. This requires effort, redirect your raging energy in a different direction, at the same time allow to talk from the heart, and most importantly - does not injure the child.

6. growl!

In order not to slander dangerous for children's ears the words, sometimes it's better just to growl. Or howl. Sometimes it is better to look like an idiot, than to do things, which you then will be much to regret.

Put yourself in the position of a child

Imagine, just very clearly what it is you stand today on the shards of my father's favorite dish. It is you pour the contents of the pot in the flower room. That you poured water into a condom and now take aim in front of an open window. And then angry footsteps in the corridor, the door swings open, your heart sinks somewhere, hands, and do not obey ... and now again return to his parents' place. Do you still want to, sputtering and rolling his eyes, cry out in the face of this child all the words that revolve language?

Do not hoard IRRITATION

Walk for days and inspire yourself: I am calm. I have it. And even then I suffer. And once more through the "can not" - is not an option. The spring can not squeeze indefinitely, sooner or later it will straighten and robust design sharahnet for your loved ones. If at any point you child begins to irritate and enrage permanently, then the problem is almost certainly not in it, and you. Urgently take a break, take a bath, go somewhere: movies, concerts, shopping, chat with friends, at worst just step out and take a walk alone. Switch to something, explain to families that this is not a whim, but an urgent necessity to maintain a normal climate in the family.

Finally, do not forget the good old rule of "count to 10". Trite as a colander, and works about the same. Before we demonstrate the full power of his vocal cords, just close your eyes and counted to ten to yourself. Then he says. Unnecessary words and emotions "flow away", head clear. And the child, if it is already in the age of reason, smeknёt that if the mother suddenly fell silent and closed her eyes, then everything seriously.