Her parents rejoiced at her sister’s wedding, but two years later she returned to them in tears.

In my family, for generations it is believed that the main breadwinner in the family should be a man. The parents are very conservative, even though they say our mommy grandparents were even stricter. That's probably why my older sister jumped out of the marriage without ever knowing. What is love?. And why, if a person is prominent and secure? At least until a certain point, the whole family thought Veronica was lucky.

When my sister finally got an offer of marriage, my mom and dad couldn’t be happy. After all, Veronica was already 32 years old, and they all dreamed of grandchildren. However, two years later, the grandchildren did not appear, but on the threshold appeared crying Veronica. It turns out that she for a long time tolerated the antics of her husband, and decided to talk about them only now. Her parents insist that she try. marriage. But I think it's just ridiculous after what he did.

What is love and is it important to build a family

Perhaps I am a naive and romantic person in the eyes of my parents. However, I believe that a family cannot be built only on the basis of cold calculation. My sister wanted to marry a respectable man. Let him be older, let him be shorter, but socially. That's what she found.

The first impression was very memorable. He arrived in an expensive car, and everything he wore, from socks to shirts, is a famous brand, if you look closely. Parents considered this a very good sign and immediately gave the go-ahead for marriage. Veronica also did not think for a long time and after 3 months went under the crown. Their family decided to do this: her small salary will go to repay the mortgage. And his earnings are on theirs. comfortlessness. At least we thought it would be comfortable.



As soon as Veronica and her husband moved in, we didn't hear much from them. We only met on holidays. The husband is always dressed with a pin, but Veronica, according to her mother, also prettier – she lost weight. Who knew it was because the refrigerator was empty.

The patience of my sister was enough for 2 years, and I hardly understand how she lasted so long. It turned out that the money they had to live with her husband - his salary - she had seen over and over again. And more recently, receipts in household They're gone. My husband said his salary was delayed for a second month. Of course he was lying. After that, she forgot what love was.



Unsplash At first sight it was clear that this man liked to pretend. The main attribute of success for him was and remains brandy. Veronica said it was a problem early in their relationship. Then they quarreled, after which the sister strictly forbidden her husband to buy anything dear without her knowledge. The thing is, he was putting on clothes. money. And since the sister's salary went to the mortgage, they barely had enough money for groceries. And as soon as there was a scandal on this soil, the fashionista promised that he would never do this again.

Remarkably, there was no more money from this. A few months later, he complained that he pay cut. Why it happened, he did not really explain. Allegedly, the authorities were completely brutalized, it is good that they did not fall under the reduction. The money he brought to the family was melting in front of his eyes. Then you need to pay a fine, then give a bribe to some lawyer, then you need money for a gift to an old friend.

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My sister even believed him at first. And then, when I realized that something was not clean here, I continued to endure. She kept trying to find the source of the problem. Where can such sums go? It seems that the furniture in the house is not added, and things in the closet are all in their places without any update. There is nothing to say about her wardrobe at all: as it was after her marriage two years ago, so it remained. But the truth still surfaced with time.

Living with a Shopaholic Man

It’s not easy to live with someone who has an addiction. It can be anything: smoking, drinking, ludomania and shopaholism. My sister’s husband is in the latter category, and she decided that she could fix him somehow. Unfortunately, from the first time she did not succeed. When she noticed that the money simply dissolved, and from her husband’s salary remained almost nothing, she began to look for the reason. At one point she even had to borrow from our parents because she had to eat something for the rest of the month.

What a surprise she was when she decided to take camp-bag from the trunk of the car. In it, she found both checks and what the money was spent on. Several pairs of expensive leather shoes, shirts of famous brands, glasses and even a custom suit. And everything fell into place! It was after this that Veronica went straight to her parents to ask for advice, because this could not continue.



Parents did not even mention that Veronica, perhaps, should divorce. Mom very gently explained to her that marriage is when you need to take care of family ties at all costs. You need to understand what love is. In her mind, it comes with time. I'm not sure my sister totally agrees with her. After all, in her eyes there was no love or special delight about the personality of her husband. However, she never contradicted her mother, and now she does not.



Parental plan It was this: to return all things to the stores, and the proceeds to pay for the mortgage. Of course, it was not possible to return everything. The term of some checks simply expired, so only a part was compensated. But it was enough to pay back my parents, buy groceries and finally fix the washing machine. Much more interesting was her husband’s reaction.

According to his sister, he was furious. He said, "I'm very angry, you had no right to do that to me." And he had the right to lie and keep my sister half-starved. In response to this remark, he only brushed it aside, saying that it would be better to walk hungry, but not like a raghead. Said, done.



Unsplash The day before work, he was surprised: "Where's the coffee and the omelet?". My sister took our mother’s second advice and said that everything was exactly as her husband said. They have no money for groceries, and her salary is enough for a mortgage and her own breakfast. And the husband, if he wants to, let him go hungry.

It was enough for four days, after which he simply howled and swore that he would never buy anything again without his wife’s knowledge. Having achieved the promise, the sister and parents sighed with relief. But I'm not at peace, because I have little faith in those vows.. As for me, all the problems from the fact that the sister married not for love, and the husband can not say that the soul in her does not revere. This family has forgotten what love is. What do you think?