When I found out that my daughter will soon have twins, I decided to help her financially, but I did not expect such a reaction.

For any parent. quarrel - always a bitter pill. Especially in adulthood. They used to argue with each other, and then they fought again. Mom and Dad didn’t even pay much attention. But now that we are all adults, we need to live in peace. Why fight? But sometimes it happens that relatives find out relationships for a variety of reasons: social, political, everyday.



And it would not be normal to gather, to find out the relationship in the family circle. They may even be accompanied by lawyers. Twenty-first century, whatever you say. Any lost profits, even the smallest ones, are a reason to turn into real enemies. Maybe it used to be, too. But for some reason, it does not become easier from this, alas.

After our recent meeting with the children, I still have an unpleasant residue on my heart. It's sad to know that three adults can fight each other like this. And for what? Because of the usual dacha. Even if not old, yes. But this is just a material part of our relationship. How can you be so wild and callous to each other? In general, this quarrel of the children came as a surprise to me.

My second daughter is expecting a baby. More like children. The doctors said she would have twins. For me, this is like good news, a real miracle. That’s why I decided to sell real estate outside the city and help my own child with the proceeds. Is this a bad decision, especially now that the world is not clear?



The eldest daughter already has children. But Mary feels pretty good. Her husband makes a decent living, drives a car, and their kids don't need anything. I saw it and I know what I'm talking about. Just last year, the whole family went on vacation in warm lands. And on New Year’s Eve, they gave each other such gifts that they were right. Modern technology, jewelry. So in that regard, I think they're doing very well. Another thing is that Mary with her own children can not always cope. But I told her long ago not to make my grandchildren selfish. She didn't listen.

The youngest son Walik is also married, but has no children yet. Nothing, they'll make it. He works a lot, recently graduated from some courses to improve his skills, so I hope that his future will only go uphill. He lives in the house of his wife's parents. But don’t think about it, there is a huge house in which even I would not mind moving: there would be enough space with my head. Father-in-law and mother-in-law seem like good people to me. So I hope that Valentine is not offended. At least he never told me anything like that.



Peels and Yulenka. Middle daughter. Her marriage somehow turned out very confused. They're renting a one-bedroom apartment, and I still don't know how they even think of expanding. To live as a foursome in such a birdhouse is a challenge. I even thought I'd suggest that their family move to that cottage. But it is far from work and infrastructure. If I had money, I don't want to live. Clean air, nature. And the cottage itself is insulated and with more or less normal repairs. Therefore, the price for it turned out to be good.

But here's the bad luck. It turns out that each of my children had their own plans for this property. Valentine even suggested leaving everything as it is and agreeing to come there from time to time, so that each family would not interfere with the other. One month him, then one of the sisters and everything new. On the one hand, maybe it is. Until then, everyone except me didn’t care. It was me who went there, I cleaned up there, I looked where I had broken.

And after the sale of real estate, everyone suddenly wanted to grab a piece. But it seems to me that it should not be so convenient, but to be fair. Who is most in need of financial assistance, who has the most difficult fate? That's why I gave all the money to Julia. Did I think I was doing a good job? Of course. Could I have suspected how this would all turn out? Not at all.



Now I'm both the best and the worst mother. The son remained with his own, but somehow sighed loudly before farewell. I really hope my daughter-in-law doesn't nag him for such a "lost opportunity." Yulia, of course, thanks and promises that in the future will try to return at least part of the money. But everyone understands that when you have two young children at once, nothing will come back. There's a way to fix things.

But Maria went much further. First of all, she stopped talking to me. At all. I tried calling her, I think I called her yesterday. No answer. And before that, at our meeting, she even threatened to hire lawyers to see if I did the right thing, and in general, did she not turn out to be the biggest victim in this situation? And she really can do anything. She is stubborn since childhood and will not spare any money just to get her way.



Peels How to explain it. In fact, the cottage is not entirely mine, but my sister, who died 5 years ago. She was always single and had no children. Masha in the past, when she was still very young, became very friends with her aunt and often visited her. Including at the same place. Before leaving, my sister left no will, and this house went to me. I didn’t care about him with my family, believe me.

And now my oldest daughter assures me that she has a special relationship with this place. It didn’t have to be sold, but kept as a memory. But to contain this "memory thing" was I, it turns out. After all, until the moment of sale, none of my children were interested in it. I even asked Masha what would have happened if I had sold the cottage to her and given the money to her sister. So Masha, it seemed, even the hair on her head began to move.



That's the situation. The children stopped getting along with each other because it became a little easier for one of them to live. However, it did not affect others at all. And that's very sad for me. The children's quarrel knocked the ground out from under my feet. Do they not realize that their bond must be much stronger than some unfortunate dacha? Blood is not water...