How to determine the sincerity of feelings in a couple

Building relationships and a strong family is rarely easy. Yet two completely different worlds collide and try to get along together. Of course, it is not without quarrels. It is difficult to name a couple who have never quarreled. Many people see quarrels as something bad that destroys a relationship. However, psychologists claim that the opposite is true.



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Today. "Site" Tell me why. quarrel They don’t spoil, they strengthen relationships.

Scientists say that the strongest couples are those who argue a lot. Surveys showed that 44% of couples consider quarrels once a week to be the key to a long and healthy relationship. And this is confirmed in practice: people who quarrel more often stay together and build strong families. Why is that?

Why fights are necessary

1. Arguments are a sign of a healthy relationship
   There are 7 components of a healthy relationship, according to psychologists, and quarrels are one of them. If people aren’t fighting, it’s a wake-up call that signals that something is wrong in the relationship. It is the arguments that help the couple to reconsider their values and feelings, to say out loud what everyone is thinking. If the arguments are not aggressive, but balanced and thoughtful, then a quarrel can bring a good result. For example, you will understand what worries each of you and can find a compromise.
   
   
   
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2. It's easier to communicate with each other.
   Sometimes it is in a quarrel that people manage to find a way to communicate with a partner openly about everything. Emotions rage, so it is easier to say about the important. Silence spoils relationships, not quarrels. Through conflict resolution, you can get closer to your partner, find a way to communicate better, and trust and understand. This is exactly what you need for a strong relationship.
   
   
   
   
   
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3. Fighting helps to get rid of negativity
   Resentment and irritation accumulate over time, this happens in any couple. To keep silent and accumulate these resentments is the worst thing you can do. And in a fight, it all spills out. Not the best way to express your emotions, but it works. Perhaps it is the quarrel that will help you better understand each other's needs and spill out the accumulated negativity. It helps to smooth out even the biggest misunderstanding.
   
   
   
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4. It means you care.
   If you fight, you don’t care about your relationship. Silence and indifference – this shows that the relationship has reached a dead end. The argument suggests that you are ready to change and evolve. Just breaking up is not an option for you, you want to be together and become a better couple. It means you see your future with this person.
   
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5. Fighting makes the bond between you stronger
   When partners fight, it makes them closer. Yeah, it sounds weird, but it is. You will learn a lot about each other, and you will know yourself better. Arguments help us understand our essence and show how to better interact with our soul mate. If you manage to resolve the conflict, find a compromise, then the bond between you will only become stronger. Whatever it is, when we fight, we get closer.
   
   
   
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6. It also helps to add a light.
   Arguments add passion to relationships. There are couples for whom conflict is just a way to warm up the relationship, add light and diversity. The main thing is to end the quarrel on a positive note and without unnecessary offense.
   
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7. It's a way to keep the relationship together.
   It is proved that couples most often break up because they do not try to find out the relationship. The number of hidden grievances grows, the negative accumulates, and with this you move away from each other. This alienation eventually becomes the cause of the rupture. It is better to solve the problem, let it be loud, even with a scandal, but solve it. It will be much more productive than holding it for years and cultivating something terrible out of it.
   
   
   
   
   
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Conflicts and contradictions constantly arise, that is normal. However, it is important to understand that not every quarrel is useful and bears fruit. Mature people do not shout and do not pass to personalities. Disagreements must be resolved through dialogue and productive discussion. It is important to respect each other and not to descend to the level of banal insults.

If you’ve been with someone long enough, you know their vulnerabilities. So, you should not hurt them, it will only cause unnecessary resentment, and will not bring results. There is no need to remember any mistakes of the partner and resentments from the past. The dialogue should be essentially about what is happening now.

Also, don't be afraid to apologize. If you realize that you made a mistake or flare up, you better apologize. Whatever you think, apologies don't make you weaker, they show you care. Take care of each other and love with all your heart.

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What do you think? quarrel Do they really strengthen the relationship? Tell me in the comments what you think.