The story of how a desperate daughter bought a cake and went to her parents for a serious conversation

Many of us live with the idea that parents should help our children. But not everyone thinks that far. Some believe that children must achieve everything themselves to learn the mind. The heroine of our history, a mother of three children, who dared to ask for help from her parents, got into such a situation.



Editorial "Site" Trying to figure out if this line is where parents could help their only daughter.

The mother of three has had a hard time with my family lately. My husband and I have three children. We live in a rented apartment. Until recently, we did a great job. My husband has a good job and I have a small job at home. With three children it is difficult to get a permanent job. Although I plan to do it when all the children can go to kindergarten. My husband and I had a plan, but it collapsed like a house of cards.



The war made adjustments. Husband greatly reduced wages, and the hostess raised the price of housing. Afterwards, she confronted us with the fact that we had to move out. We found a new apartment, but it was even more expensive. You can see the current prices for yourself. That's why it's very difficult. We live from salary to salary, we can not afford anything extra. I'm not talking about savings. Although we've been able to put off before. We dreamed of our own apartment.



At such moments, people turn to the closest ones for help. But as it turns out, we have no one to turn to. My husband’s parents live in a village and don’t have much money. They give us products from time to time. My parents are a separate story.

I'm their only child. All my life they told me I had to do everything myself. That's why they took me out of the house after school. I also believe that children should be independent, so I did not mind. They never asked for anything, even though they are not poor. Their apartment is idle right now. They don't even rent it out because they're afraid of ruining the repairs.

The most ironic thing is that they inherited both apartments: one from their mother’s parents, the second from their father’s. So they don’t even know what it is to save for their own home. But I have to deal with it myself.



Every time I asked my parents for something, they said I had to make money, make it, invent it, and so on. So for years, I didn't ask for anything. However, the situation is nowhere worse now. So I gathered my strength and decided to ask them for help. It seemed to me that since their apartment was idle, I could ask them to stay there for a while.



One evening I asked my husband to babysit and went to my parents. I bought a cake on the way and had a serious conversation. I described the whole situation to them, hoping for an understanding. But the mother said, "What were you thinking when you had three kids?" I should have bought an apartment first. It's my fault. I tried to explain that I gave birth late, there was nowhere to pull. But my mother kept telling me it was all my fault.

I was in tears because of this situation. Even in this situation, I can’t rely on my parents. The husband says that if so, let them take care of themselves in old age. But is that right? I don't know what to do next.



We are sad that the mother of three children was in this situation. Their family did well and did not depend on anyone. It's just the circumstances. Isn’t family there to support you in a difficult time? We don't understand that. It seems to us that parents simply do not realize how difficult it is to buy their own home, trying to simultaneously raise children and build a family.

What do you think about that?