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Is it worth having a second child at 37 when the world is mired in chaos?
In times of turmoil, many of us need support. When it is difficult to cope with emotions alone, it is better to share your thoughts and experiences. You can write everything down in a personal journal or tell your friends. Everyone decides how comfortable they are in this situation. Okay, the other day, editorial board. "Site" She received a letter from her longtime subscriber Oksana with doubts about whether a second child is needed, especially when the country is at war. The girl allowed her to publish her appeal in the hope that other readers would help her with their advice and reflections. We're complying with her request immediately.
I am writing to you because I am afraid to be alone with my doubts and thoughts. I'm 37, the mother of a beautiful 6-year-old girl. But a month ago I found out I was pregnant. I cannot say that this news made me happy. Quite the opposite: very uneasy at heart. It’s a shame to admit it, because hundreds of women would dream of being in my shoes.
Back in March, the whole family went to a safe place. We are staying in the country because our friends and relatives are here, so what can we say: this is our land after all. Sophia, my daughter, keeps asking when we'll be home. I don’t know what to say, because my hometown is still very uneasy. And now, with my sudden pregnancy, the question has arisen about going abroad so that the birth took place in complete safety.
Sonia's mother's support is now going to school, she really needs her mother nearby. I can't imagine helping her adjust to school with her second child. I'm afraid I won't be able to fulfill all of Sonina's first-class dreams and wishes for the youngest child. So, the daughter has long looked for a backpack with beloved Anna and Elsa, a bunch of different stationery also with the characters from this cartoon. My husband comforts me, says that in the evenings he will drive a taxi to earn more.
My mom is supportive, too. Says she got me the same way. She didn't plan on me, it's really like our situations. But I think it was easier for her. When I was born, we had a peaceful sky above our heads. Now my child will come into a world that shudders every day from war. Although she had another difficulty: Artem, my older brother, categorically did not want a sister, dreamed of a brother. However, over time, this did not prevent us from becoming friends.
While I was sure that my mood swings and nausea were associated with the nervous situation in the country, my grandmother asked directly: “Xenia, are you not pregnant for an hour?” I shrugged it off, to which Grandma replied, “Look, I dreamed today that I was fishing.” Good fish, good quality. I don't think I dreamed about it. I am too old for such visions.” I climbed into the dream book to understand what my grandmother is leaning towards, and there in black and white, they say, fishing - to pregnancy.
It is clear that it was not from one dream that I realized that I was carrying a child under my heart. Immediately after my grandmother’s conversation, I rushed to the doctor. My fears were confirmed and I was pregnant. On the one hand, I am afraid to have a child during the war. On the other hand, I understand that children are given to us for a reason. My age is a little controversial. It is terrible that I will not have time to properly put on my feet, to give everything necessary. Although the doctor reassures that as long as the pregnancy proceeds normally, the baby is developing well.
I did not come for advice, because my position is clear: once a child is given, then you need to give him life. I want support. Maybe now someone is also carrying a baby under the heart and will share some thoughts and experiences under my letter. I know that I am not alone in my thoughts and fears.
Editorial Board
Peels, we have no right to decide,Do you need a second child? Our heroine. But their promise was fulfilled, the letter Oksana published. It's up to our readers. Maybe the words of support will help the girl to be inspired and fill the pregnancy with bright moments. We wish that all children who live under the hearts of their mothers, were born healthy and under a peaceful sky. We are waiting for comments under the material. Have a good day!
I am writing to you because I am afraid to be alone with my doubts and thoughts. I'm 37, the mother of a beautiful 6-year-old girl. But a month ago I found out I was pregnant. I cannot say that this news made me happy. Quite the opposite: very uneasy at heart. It’s a shame to admit it, because hundreds of women would dream of being in my shoes.
Back in March, the whole family went to a safe place. We are staying in the country because our friends and relatives are here, so what can we say: this is our land after all. Sophia, my daughter, keeps asking when we'll be home. I don’t know what to say, because my hometown is still very uneasy. And now, with my sudden pregnancy, the question has arisen about going abroad so that the birth took place in complete safety.
Sonia's mother's support is now going to school, she really needs her mother nearby. I can't imagine helping her adjust to school with her second child. I'm afraid I won't be able to fulfill all of Sonina's first-class dreams and wishes for the youngest child. So, the daughter has long looked for a backpack with beloved Anna and Elsa, a bunch of different stationery also with the characters from this cartoon. My husband comforts me, says that in the evenings he will drive a taxi to earn more.
My mom is supportive, too. Says she got me the same way. She didn't plan on me, it's really like our situations. But I think it was easier for her. When I was born, we had a peaceful sky above our heads. Now my child will come into a world that shudders every day from war. Although she had another difficulty: Artem, my older brother, categorically did not want a sister, dreamed of a brother. However, over time, this did not prevent us from becoming friends.
While I was sure that my mood swings and nausea were associated with the nervous situation in the country, my grandmother asked directly: “Xenia, are you not pregnant for an hour?” I shrugged it off, to which Grandma replied, “Look, I dreamed today that I was fishing.” Good fish, good quality. I don't think I dreamed about it. I am too old for such visions.” I climbed into the dream book to understand what my grandmother is leaning towards, and there in black and white, they say, fishing - to pregnancy.
It is clear that it was not from one dream that I realized that I was carrying a child under my heart. Immediately after my grandmother’s conversation, I rushed to the doctor. My fears were confirmed and I was pregnant. On the one hand, I am afraid to have a child during the war. On the other hand, I understand that children are given to us for a reason. My age is a little controversial. It is terrible that I will not have time to properly put on my feet, to give everything necessary. Although the doctor reassures that as long as the pregnancy proceeds normally, the baby is developing well.
I did not come for advice, because my position is clear: once a child is given, then you need to give him life. I want support. Maybe now someone is also carrying a baby under the heart and will share some thoughts and experiences under my letter. I know that I am not alone in my thoughts and fears.
Editorial Board
Peels, we have no right to decide,Do you need a second child? Our heroine. But their promise was fulfilled, the letter Oksana published. It's up to our readers. Maybe the words of support will help the girl to be inspired and fill the pregnancy with bright moments. We wish that all children who live under the hearts of their mothers, were born healthy and under a peaceful sky. We are waiting for comments under the material. Have a good day!
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