My son asked me why my grandparents didn’t like him and I was confused.

Love is a mysterious thing. It appears spontaneously and often occurs when you are not waiting, or is absent where it should be. It is one thing when you choose your partner. You know exactly what you want and you love who your heart has chosen. The love of parents for children is of a different kind. Grandma’s love for grandchildren is also different. Today we will try to find out why not all grandparents love their grandchildren.

When we talk about the love of parents for their children, we mean affection and the desire to care. Parental love occurs even before the birth of the child. When the baby is waiting, it is impossible not to love him. Mom and Dad have not even seen the child, and are ready to give their lives for him without the slightest doubt.



Children are like their parents. In part, fathers and mothers see in their babies echoes of a partner, and even mixed with their own traits. How can you not love? Most often, parental dislike occurs when the child is not really wanted. Or the mother, having given birth to a child from an unloved, sees in him unpleasant features. It is difficult for her not to notice similarities with a person who she does not like.



And yet much more often there is a completely different situation, which sometimes looks like the above. Parents are too busy making a living, for example. They don’t give their children as much time as they want. It is these moms and dads who try to make up for their missed opportunities with their grandchildren. Usually, parents who missed out on their children’s lives when they were young try to give as much love as possible to their grandchildren.



However, we must not forget that any blood relationship implies unconditional love. We do not choose our children and grandchildren. They are born and raised by us. And while we can still steer our children a little in the right direction so that they grow up to be like us, the situation is different with grandchildren.

Grandmothers often do not even accept grandchildren as close people. Especially when the parents are divorced, The child does not resemble her own daughter, but her misfit husband, for example.. Love is not subject to any laws. It's either there or it's not. Usually, when you try to impose love on yourself for a person who you initially do not like very much, the opposite effect occurs. When we try to love the unloved, we begin to hate him.



Of course, it plays a huge role. level of opennessand how conservative he is. If grandparents want to meet the younger generation and accept it as it is, then love is not far away.

My mother always regretted that she did not manage to properly enjoy the time when I was little. Her mother didn’t really give her time when she grew up. Because my grandmother loved me madly much and forgave any pranks.. She compensated for her cold attitude towards her daughter.





Besides, I wasn’t responsible for my grandmother. She took care of me, but she knew that my fate depended on my mother. That's why loving me was easier. But her grandmother could not accept her daughter, because she saw her own mistakes of the past.





My point is that love should not be imposed. If you feel it, it's beautiful. However, do not force yourself to what you do not feel, trying to pull the owl on the globe. Let yourself feel what you feel and don’t judge yourself. It is impossible to love everyone and be liked by everyone.