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Divorced after 30 years of marriage, others twisted a finger at the temple, but for good reason.
People meet, fall in love and move in. It's a normal life process. In a well-formed union, we become stronger, achieve more, have offspring. We grow up and become wiser. But What are the reasons for divorce Can it be in adults, even mature couples? People who have known each other almost all their lives?
Turns out there's plenty of reasons. In 2018, statistics told us that, on average, there was one divorce for every 13 minutes in the world. After the onset of the pandemic, divorces began to occur even more often: people were constantly in the same room with their soul mate and experienced great stress from this. Even couples who have been together for decades have given up. But why? Let's figure it out.
What are the causes of divorce, the age crisis or the midlife crisis? The name is memorable, but not true enough. A person can be in this state until old age. It happens not only in men, but also in women. We become more thoughtful, we begin to think about life, our destiny, some philosophical things. There is even an interesting theory: they say that historically a person simply did not live to such an age. Consequently, now we have a program that breaks down and we become “dolls with all the strings cut off.”
It is logical that a person in a state of such crisis is a difficult partner for living together. What if both husband and wife are in crisis? It will be very difficult to coexist with them. That's your reason for divorce. One of many.
They are inherent in married people of all ages. But cheating in adulthood is different in that the reasons for it are a little more. One spouse may want to prove to himself that he is still “in the saddle” and can have an affair with another person. Sometimes it comes from knowing that your partner has been with you for too long, no variety.
It happens that the reason is high earnings, which was so expected. But with the arrival of the desired income, a person sees that nothing, in fact, changes. Seeking solace in a foreign society. And even this is not all the reasons for adultery.
Spiritual differences are easiest to explain in a small example. Here's a girl who graduated from college and met a handsome guy. She's a grey mouse with glasses and a bunch of notebooks. He is a handsome macho who has already achieved a certain level of success in the circles of his friends. Opposites attract, as many like to say, and the couple marries. Years pass. What will these people be like?
Of course, you can't say anything for sure. But hypothetically, a woman is sure to find a good job with high pay. A man will not go far from his original level. Why, because he's pretty and alpha. Sooner or later someone will get bored.
There are situations when two adults already see that they are not holding anything together. Well, if we talk about some inner feelings. In fact, they may share small children, a bunch of loans, mortgages and the like. At this point, they turn from a married couple into ordinary partners with a stamp in their passport.
Spouses may even have relationships with other people, they may stop communicating with each other. But the debt is red. And one day, when the children grow up, loans or mortgages are paid off, two adults decide to separate. In order to deal with their lives as they have long dreamed.
Let’s say right away, it should not be associated with an age crisis. Tired of everything, a person just wants to do everything as quickly as possible, as soon as possible. He is no longer interested in the other half, work, even children. Inside, this man is much older than he looks. Older even than the gray-haired pensioners who go under the handle and dance in the summer in the park.
Why is this happening? There are enough reasons: fatigue from constant work, health problems, genetic predisposition. Even the family can get bored. At the initial stage, rest and change of scenery can still help. But then you have to go to a specialist. And divorce, by the way, is not all that a tired person may need.
It seems that any problem between people in adulthood can be solved. They've known each other for a long time. But often the problem lies not on the surface, but at the heart of marriage. People just don’t want and can’t be together. Sometimes the decision to divorce brings people only positive emotions. Yeah, that happens.
Turns out there's plenty of reasons. In 2018, statistics told us that, on average, there was one divorce for every 13 minutes in the world. After the onset of the pandemic, divorces began to occur even more often: people were constantly in the same room with their soul mate and experienced great stress from this. Even couples who have been together for decades have given up. But why? Let's figure it out.
What are the causes of divorce, the age crisis or the midlife crisis? The name is memorable, but not true enough. A person can be in this state until old age. It happens not only in men, but also in women. We become more thoughtful, we begin to think about life, our destiny, some philosophical things. There is even an interesting theory: they say that historically a person simply did not live to such an age. Consequently, now we have a program that breaks down and we become “dolls with all the strings cut off.”
It is logical that a person in a state of such crisis is a difficult partner for living together. What if both husband and wife are in crisis? It will be very difficult to coexist with them. That's your reason for divorce. One of many.
They are inherent in married people of all ages. But cheating in adulthood is different in that the reasons for it are a little more. One spouse may want to prove to himself that he is still “in the saddle” and can have an affair with another person. Sometimes it comes from knowing that your partner has been with you for too long, no variety.
It happens that the reason is high earnings, which was so expected. But with the arrival of the desired income, a person sees that nothing, in fact, changes. Seeking solace in a foreign society. And even this is not all the reasons for adultery.
Spiritual differences are easiest to explain in a small example. Here's a girl who graduated from college and met a handsome guy. She's a grey mouse with glasses and a bunch of notebooks. He is a handsome macho who has already achieved a certain level of success in the circles of his friends. Opposites attract, as many like to say, and the couple marries. Years pass. What will these people be like?
Of course, you can't say anything for sure. But hypothetically, a woman is sure to find a good job with high pay. A man will not go far from his original level. Why, because he's pretty and alpha. Sooner or later someone will get bored.
There are situations when two adults already see that they are not holding anything together. Well, if we talk about some inner feelings. In fact, they may share small children, a bunch of loans, mortgages and the like. At this point, they turn from a married couple into ordinary partners with a stamp in their passport.
Spouses may even have relationships with other people, they may stop communicating with each other. But the debt is red. And one day, when the children grow up, loans or mortgages are paid off, two adults decide to separate. In order to deal with their lives as they have long dreamed.
Let’s say right away, it should not be associated with an age crisis. Tired of everything, a person just wants to do everything as quickly as possible, as soon as possible. He is no longer interested in the other half, work, even children. Inside, this man is much older than he looks. Older even than the gray-haired pensioners who go under the handle and dance in the summer in the park.
Why is this happening? There are enough reasons: fatigue from constant work, health problems, genetic predisposition. Even the family can get bored. At the initial stage, rest and change of scenery can still help. But then you have to go to a specialist. And divorce, by the way, is not all that a tired person may need.
It seems that any problem between people in adulthood can be solved. They've known each other for a long time. But often the problem lies not on the surface, but at the heart of marriage. People just don’t want and can’t be together. Sometimes the decision to divorce brings people only positive emotions. Yeah, that happens.
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