My husband married me with a child and now he wants us to go on a honeymoon without my son.

Do you want to leave your child at home when you go to wedding? Our reader Victoria firmly believes that if you go on vacation, it is only with your son. Her new husband doesn’t seem to share that view. Who is right and what is the best thing to do?



My first marriage was a big mistake I made under the pressure of my mother. She wanted to marry me and was expecting grandchildren. So when I got pregnant, she insisted on getting married. Neither I nor my husband were prepared for this. We ended up living together for a little over a year and broke up, Victoria wrote.



“The husband simply had no parental feelings. After the breakup, he returned to live with his parents. I wasn’t really upset because I didn’t feel like the woman I loved next to him, we were just strangers. It is good that he continues to pay alimony.”

“The first time I was raising my son, but then when he went to kindergarten, I decided to go to work. She got a job as a consultant in a perfume shop. Not the best job in the world, but something. I never thought it would be in our little shop that I would meet my fate.



“One day there came a man who long and carefully chose the spirits of women. I helped as much as I could, asked about the preferences of that woman, offered different fragrances, paid attention to bottles of the most presentable kind. In the end, he bought a very expensive perfume, warmly thanked me and left happy. And I am sad that such gifts are given to someone, not me.

“But the next day the man came back for the perfume, and offered to choose the perfume that I like myself.” I thought this rich man would probably have a lot of women if he had to run for gifts every day. So I decided to teach him a little bit, and chose the most expensive perfume available.”



You can only imagine how surprised I was when Kirill paid for these perfumes without hesitation and presented them to me as a present. And then he asked me out. It turned out that the first time he bought perfume to his older sister for her birthday.”

“Our relationship with Kirill has developed rapidly. I told him about my son and introduced him. At first I was worried that the child would take my boyfriend into bayonets. But he came to get acquainted with the candy and typewriter at the radio control, so Olezhka immediately recorded him as his friends.

We did not play the wedding, but just signed the wedding, and I moved to live with Kirill. He also offered to fly together on a wedding trip to Turkey. But the child wanted to leave for this time my mother. And I didn't know what to do.”



“My mother loves her grandson very much and is always happy when we leave him with her for the night. This time she told me we were doing the wrong thing. And it's very bad that Kirill is already trying to isolate himself from my son. Therefore, the mother insists that we go to rest with the child.”

“I sit there and think she is right about something. I thought Kirill was nice to my son, but this is a journey. Now I think about how to explain it to my husband. Isn't it just to say that a mother can't babysit, so we'd better take it with us? muses the anxious young mother.



Perhaps Victoria's husband can be understood if he wants to spend a wedding trip exclusively with his beloved woman. Taking a child with you is not a good idea. Maybe we should go together now. And when the child grows up, you can go on vacation and three.

And if you see better options, then share your thoughts in the comments.