My grandmother inherited an apartment, but my mother says I have to earn it first.

“My mother thinks I should earn the right to inherit from my grandmother. We don’t often discuss this topic, but recently she called me and asked me again what we would do with the inheritance. The girl has long lived an independent life apart from her parents. It so happened that in the graduation of her beloved grandmother made a will in favor of her granddaughter. But Natalia’s mother believes that you can not just count on an inheritance, you need to work hard to deserve it.



All my childhood I was told that I should deserve the love of my parents, a delicious candy or a birthday present. I know I've been trained for adulthood, where nothing can come for nothing. By the way, the love of my parents was never earned. Market relations in the family were constant. Now here's the inheritance situation.

I grew up and stopped depending on my parents. To be honest, my breathing became easier without their perpetual disapproval and guidance. I have been married for 4 years and live in my husband’s apartment. My parents and I haven’t seen each other for almost a year and my mom called me.



My grandmother on my mother’s side loved me very much, she always said that she bequeathed her apartment to me. Everyone knew that. And when my grandmother made a will, my mother clinged to me with her new rules, saying that I will not get an apartment just because I was bequeathed it. I don't understand why she even decided to stop me from inheriting.



We haven’t touched on this topic in years since Ali’s grandmother passed away. I went to university and lived in a dormitory. Even though I got on a budget, I still wasn't good enough to deserve the attention of my parents. I was raised to be strict. And when I was glad to be admitted, my father only raised his eyebrows and said that it should have been so.”

In my last year, I got a job and started renting. I decided I didn’t have to prove anything to anyone and I had the right to do whatever I wanted as an adult. Since my mother clinged to this living space, I did not claim it for a while. But why should I voluntarily give up my apartment in favor of my parents?



All the time that I lived separately, my parents rented out an apartment and received passive income. Now it's even harder for them to give me the keys to Grandma's apartment. Even when I needed financial help, I didn’t come to borrow money from my parents. We didn't talk until my husband asked me to get married.



My mother-in-law insisted that my parents should be on both sides and that I might regret not inviting them to my wedding. I said yes. Then it became clear that I was right. The bride’s dress is too expensive, the holiday is too luxurious, and, they say, why was it so much spent, since you could modestly sign.

I have a little daughter growing up. She and I went to our parents' house last year. I understand that communication with my grandparents is necessary, so I wanted to establish relations with my parents. But they're back to the old stuff. I'm tired of always complaining like I'm asking for my apartment. They will probably save it instead of some trump card to manipulate me. I no longer believe or want an apartment, I am annoyed by the talk of inheritance.



Natalia’s parents probably grew up in a shortage. Then their parents instilled in them diligence and then people appreciated everything they had. It seems that Natalia’s mother is trying to keep in touch with her daughter using the apartment. If it were not for the inheritance, perhaps Natalia would completely stop seeing her parents and would not take her granddaughter to them. Lack of attention and a peculiar manifestation of care for the daughter produce the opposite effect. But it is possible that it is stinginess that prevents mom and dad from doing the right thing. What do you think about that?