“Your boy isn’t cute when he kisses my daughter.” If a child forcibly hugs and kisses others...

Many times I have seen situations when adults are touched by childish manifestations of love. It’s so cute: a little boy kisses his girlfriend and clutches her tight in his arms.





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What children's weddings are worth! Surely many parents are familiar with the sense of pride in their own child, when a groom or bride is found in kindergarten. We are used to enjoying children’s hugs and fully support them. We teach children to be emotional – we allow them to rejoice, laugh, kiss, but we forbid them to cry. You can hear from the playground, “You’re a boy!” Or a girl, whatever.

Most moms and dads don’t know how to raise kids. Eats hearty and warmly dressed, in the hands of a gadget, around the room toys. This is the ideal scenario. You can do everything, as long as it does not interfere with parents.





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But everyone knows the boundaries. personal space. It's you and your body! As well as feelings, views, goals and resources. Your whole inner world with emotions, thoughts and actions. When this topic concerns adults, everything is clear - do not mess with it. Any attack on one’s self is perceived as a threat from which one instinctively wants to defend oneself.

Invisible boundaries are very important for the feeling of inner comfort. When a person does not know or know his own, he involuntarily destroys others. It doesn’t matter how old you are, 43 or 3.





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I recently came across an article where an angry mom recounts a situation in kindergarten: I watched a 4-year-old boy run from one child to another in kindergarten, forcefully hugging and trying to kiss shocked little faces. He completely ignored the clear signals sent by the victims of unexpected love. He did not care that they were uncomfortable, and some even feared him.”

Amazingly, this picture caused a stormy delight in adults! Parents clapped their hands, rejoiced, and no one thought to stop this flirtation. But the moment came when one of the girls was tired of this nonsense, and she with a sweep charged the culprit in the nose. She was immediately scolded by her mother for inappropriate behavior. Of course, she did so publicly, apologizing to the boy’s mother.





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That day, the children learned another life lesson. You can't protect yourself.. The attacker is such a charming child. Our moms' logic is unpredictable. And it's not the boy's fault. It does not matter what caused his behavior, lack of attention or banal copying of adults. The important thing is that the people around him did not stop him, but encouraged another race for praise.

In life, you have to be able to say no. This is more important than all the sinuses and cosines combined. As soon as a child learns to understand the world around him, he must be taught to guard his boundaries. And any invasion Another person is possible only after clear permission.





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Talk to the kids! In this simple way, you will teach them to ask before you do.

Only those who do not have children will not know what it is. Nobody condemns kissing babies! I am saying that parents should be more careful. If the child kisses everyone in a row so that others shy away, and the mother looks at it with tenderness, then the mother has a problem with her head. Draw the right conclusions and teach children to protect themselves.





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Anything. privacy It is a serious problem at any age. Be sure to share this useful information with your friends.