Children in our time lack severe measures! Parents, it's time to wake up...

In the old days, the upbringing of children was based primarily on intimidation: “Do as I say, or you will feel bad!” Today. family atmosphere It has become more liberal, but very often parents show excessive kindness towards children.





Is it possible to prepare a child for real life? And what kind of rigor do our children need? Let's try to figure it out.

The inability of parents to limit their children in certain undesirable actions can give rise to carelessness in them, because in this case the child does not know how far he can go in his behavior.



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In his book Children in Power, Swedish psychologist David Eberhard states, Liberal education as a method has failed. Parents no longer act like responsible adults. They think they should be the best friends of their children. They put themselves on the same level as children, not daring to contradict them and set boundaries.”



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You’ve probably seen children who throw food in their mother’s face in hysterics, scream furiously, demand to buy what they want, and even beat strangers. They were not told how to behave.



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Children need boundaries and clear rules. They test their parents’ patience with their behavior to see how far they can go. If there are no prohibitions, then everything is allowed - even throwing food in the face of the parent.

By setting boundaries, parents provide their children with the information they need to make the right decisions on which to build their lives. The child must understand that he cannot have everything or do everything he wants.

If you give in to your child as a result of his anger or whims, you teach him that this should be done in the future, so you can get what he wants. Giving in is easy, especially if you’re tired, but it’s important to be persistent.

Inconstancy and the absence of clear rules are the worst enemies of education. By setting rules that are mobile and adaptable, we send the child the wrong signals.

For example, children can not insult or beat their parents, and parents can. It is forbidden for children to swear, but it is permissible for dad. Children at the table should be silent, and parents should communicate.

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There are double standards that create a misunderstanding in a child’s head – why can they and I not? What kind of rules are these? In addition, the rules often change along the way. Today, my mother is in a good mood and an untidy room is normal. But tomorrow my mother is not in the mood - and for this you can get a belt.

Such rules are ignored by children as well – what’s the point of keeping something that nobody observes in this house? That is, in this case, strictness is more necessary for parents in relation to themselves in order to be consistent in their words and deeds.





You should also be stricter about your own weaknesses, because children will copy them and take them as normal. If you want your children to be honest, you should learn it yourself. If you don’t want them to get addicted to cigarettes, it’s time to think about saying goodbye to the habit.

Children copy your attitude to life, to other people and to yourself. And in the last point, they take into account how you feel about them and how you feel about yourself. In those mothers who consider themselves ugly and “not very”, girls adopt these thoughts, but address them to themselves.

You have a choice today. You can stick to the old methods of upbringing - not pampering, but whipping so that you grow up obedient and normal. You can only use the new rules - to take care, to accept, to indulge in everything, never being strict, so as not to hurt the child.





And you can understand that love without rigor does not happen, then it is just attachment. Surely. strictness This is the opposite side of motherly love, without which it cannot be complete.

Therefore, to a greater extent, strictness and consistency are necessary for parents in relation to themselves. They want to be the people they want their children to be.

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