How to live with old people and not go crazy

Many complain that elderly parents have become unbearable: constantly grumble, resent, irritate. The desire to help them turns into pickyness, frugality into stinginess, and the love to talk into an attempt to get into their own business.



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A commandment to honor parents. You can't argue with her... But how do you do it? How can we honor and respect our parents when they torture us?

Psychologists believe that the cause of old-age resentment, isolation, irritability is mental discomfort. Most likely, a person feels unhappy, unnecessary, old, sick. Internal discord generates negative emotions that spill out on others.





It happens that character Illness. After all, if a person suffers from a serious illness, it is extremely difficult to remain cheerful, active and cheerful.

Many, of course, struggle with pain, and with a negative mood, but sometimes “rolls” and on them – they cry, offended, capricious, closed in.

Conservatism and categorical rejection of the new also do not always indicate a spoiled character. By the age of 75-80, 30-40% of neurons in the brain are destroyed.

The speed of perception and processing of information is reduced. Therefore, old people are not capricious when they refuse to master a gifted smartphone - it is really difficult for them to do this.



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So stop being angry and resentful at older parents: if they bother you, it’s definitely not on purpose. Try to surround them with care and attention. Editorial "Site" I have 4 phrases that will help to improve the relationship.

1. Help.
   Older people often find that their help is no longer needed. All their lives they were active: working, raising children, engaged in public affairs. And at the moment when everyone has grown up, and the pension has become a reality, there is no one to help. Remember, neediness Importance is very important for the elderly. So ask your mom or dad for help, even if you can do it yourself. You can ask your mother to help with cooking or take your grandchildren somewhere.
   
   Think about how parents can be helpful. This will help you to avoid irritability in your parents.
   
   
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2. Advise.
   Older people like to advise. They have a lot of experience behind their backs and they have a lot to share. Even if you do it your way, often ask your mom or dad for advice on various topics. This will help them to always be in good shape and feel important.
   
   
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3. I really want to understand.
   Usually, the relationship between adult children and parents is based on the concept of “should – should not”. Of course it's wrong. But, unfortunately, this happens because older people are especially vulnerable and often have no one to share with them what is happening in their souls (and very often they are simply afraid of their thoughts).
   
   Therefore, try to understand your parents and tell them that you want not only to do your duty, but also to have a strong and sincere relationship. Having them will make things easier.
   
   
   
   
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4. Thank you for...
   How often do we thank our parents? Unfortunately, not often. Because relationships are built on a sense of duty, we don’t have an inner urge to thank our parents. Even the little things. Older people need it because they want to make sure they have a good life.
   
   
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It is not their fault that they are only human. Some of us age and turn from diseases and age into tyrants, while others live nearby – also sick, having a lot of problems and responsibilities, exhausted at work.



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It is not in our power to abolish parental old age, but we can do something that will simplify our life together, make it a little less nervous, just so that we have enough strength to remember that both sides have very little time left to love each other against all odds.

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