What to do in late pregnancy

Let’s say you’re in your 40s, a successful woman with a career and a husband (assuming the best option). Your children are grown up and you are enjoying yourself. And then something unexpected happens: a pregnancy test winks nicely at you in two stripes. What are you gonna do? Will you leave the baby or...?



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Everyone has an opinion on this. Ultimately, it is the woman herself who decides, but the editorial board. "Site" I decided to understand the pros and cons of pregnancy after 40. We'll share them with you.

Doubts in such a situation are absolutely normal, because this is a very responsible step. We believe that we must start from a rational point of view. There are different situations and you need to think about all the details. For example, if the financial situation or physical condition leaves much to be desired, then perhaps you should not take such a risk.



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Often you can hear the phrase: “God gave a child, will give a child”, but it sounds somehow unconvincing. You need to count on your strength and capabilities. But we will talk about this later, and for now we will analyze all the pros and cons of late pregnancy.

Consequences of late pregnancy

1. Health
   Naturally, this is the first thing worth talking about. After 40 years it is more difficult to get pregnant, so do not postpone the first pregnancy at this age. There is a possibility that you will have to lie on preservation for a long time. There is also a high probability of giving birth to a child with serious congenital abnormalities. For example, a child with Down syndrome in such a mother can be born with a probability of 1: 30. You have to pass a lot of tests, pass hundreds of tests, but no one will give you any guarantees anyway.
   
   
2. Mental state
   It's very difficult. Imagine the situation: the test is done, and it shows that you will have a sick child. The moral choice to give him life or not is extremely difficult. Parents suffer in both ways. After all, leaving such a child, you will face many problems. It is hard to imagine what those who decide to have an abortion are going through. Not every woman is ready for this. This can severely undermine health, both physical and mental.
   
   
   
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3. Life.
   As cruel as it may sound, but there is a risk that the child will lose parents early. You need to think about this too: is there anyone to look after the child in case of something? If you want to give life, you need to understand the responsibility. There is no room for selfishness.
4. Financial matter
   Parents may not have enough resources to put their children on their feet. If there are other children, will there be enough money for education if there is another child? All of these issues are equally important.
5. Calm is off.
   If you planned a quiet old age and life for your pleasure, then it is unlikely that with the advent of a child this will be possible. A child is an irrepressible flow of energy that you need to run for, play with. And his teenage years will be your 50s. You have to accept that, too.
   
   
   
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6. Big age difference
   This is a nearly two-generation difference, which increases the misunderstanding between parents and children even further.
7. Moral pressure from others
   You'll be discouraged. Parents, relatives, doctors and even a second cousin from Bryansk, who saw you once in her life. Yeah, we'll exaggerate a little, but still. You need to be prepared for the hospital to call you an old-timer, some of them even stare at you. But the only question is your willingness to face all these difficulties.
   
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This is not an attempt to dissuade you or anything like that. Just a sober look at the situation and analyze all the real threats and disadvantages. But it's not that bad, is it? Let’s look at the situation from the other side and analyze the obvious advantages.

The benefits of late pregnancy

1. Second youth
   Women who give birth after 40 look younger and more beautiful than their peers. The thing is that the body literally acquires a second youth: there is a surge, after which a woman gets better and younger.
2. Liability
   Practice has proven that mothers over 40 are more responsible for pregnancy than young. By the age of 40, a woman has often already felt the need to monitor her own health and is much more responsible for everything. She'll do exactly what's best for the baby.
   
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3. Smart kids.
   There is a study that proves that children born to older parents are more intelligent and talented. Maybe it’s because parents have more time to give their child.
4. Maturity.
   This paragraph includes two things at once: moral state and financial situation. Mature parents are calm, more experienced and wise. They are the best teachers, they can give a lot to a child. Most often, in 40 years, the financial situation of parents is better than in 20, so financially they can better provide for the child.
5. There's no time to get sick and get old
   People feel younger and more energetic. They just don't have time to get sick - they have a baby. There are many cases when older people with the appearance of a child radically changed. A child is your incentive to live long, stay active and take care of your health.
   
   
   
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6. A dream come true
   Some people just couldn’t have a baby for years. And this child, even if born after 40, will give you a new life and give you such a long-awaited happiness of motherhood. There are many stellar examples of late pregnancy, when women gave birth at a later age for the happiness of motherhood. For example, Emmanuel Vitorgan’s wife, Irina Mlodik, gave birth at 56. It was a real happiness for the family!
   
   
   
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Here are all the pros and cons we wanted to talk about. To give birth or not to give birth is up to you. If this child is desirable, and health allows, why not? Yes, you will face difficulties, yes, you will be discouraged or even pressured, but if you want to, give birth. If the doctors are looking at you, change the doctors. If relatives do not allow passage and try to dissuade, stop communication during pregnancy. It's your business.

It is only important to treat such a step extremely responsibly, weigh all possible options and take all risks. Many women gave birth to children even after 50, which you can not do for the sake of the happiness of motherhood!

How do you feel about this late pregnancy? Do you have to have a baby when you are over 40? Share your opinion in the comments!