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I did not listen to my husband and called his mother, now I am not happy.
What to do if baby-grandmother It didn't work out? The first step is to find out why this is happening. Unfortunately, a lot depends on the desire of the woman. If she just doesn’t want to babysit her grandchildren, it’s corny stupid to force her.
It is a pity that children suffer from this. After all, the education of grandparents plays a huge role in the growth of the younger generation. If you haven’t had a problem like this, you’re definitely lucky. But the heroine of our current history was less fortunate. Let's find out what happened and if she could find a way out.
I would not like to say that my husband is a mama’s son. However, every day I am convinced of this. The fact is that Andrew just idolizes his mother. Literally the dust blows off her, solving all her problems. As long as she's not tired and nervous.
A few years ago, Andrew’s father passed away. He does all the housework now. If something breaks, my husband throws everything and rushes to Valentina Petrovna. God forbid, her head hurts or her blood pressure rises, Andrey immediately takes her to a private clinic. At the same time, the mother-in-law does not deny herself anything: she goes to beauty salons and does herself.
Of course, on the one hand, this is commendable. But sometimes it crosses all permissible boundaries. I'm just not used to it. My mother worked all her life, now she has her own small cottage with a garden. I see my mom almost every day. She picks up our eldest son from school while my husband and I are at work. And on weekends, Ma likes to spend time with our little one.
I am grateful that the communication of my children with my grandmother was the best way. What can not be said about Valentina Petrovna. She never showed interest in her grandchildren and hardly ever saw them. Although Anyuta and Vladik often ask when we will go to visit “Baba Vale”.
Just recently there was a situation when the grandchildren finally could see their grandmother. But it wasn't! So that's the situation. Andrey and I started a small cosmetic renovation in the kitchen. Of course, children better not breathe all this dust and dirt. So I arranged for my mother to sit with her grandchildren.
Everything was fine, but on Saturday morning, Mommy called and said that she had risen blood pressure. He is lying down and can not even get out of bed: very bad. There is no one to leave the children with, and you need to go to your mother. I thought I could ask my mother-in-law to babysit. While I'm at my mom's, my husband's gonna start prep work.
Andrey took my proposal into bayonets: “You’re crazy!” My mom will probably be resting today after a hard day at work yesterday. Don't even call her! Of course, I did not listen to my husband, this whole situation made me angry. I called Valentina Petrovna, explained everything. But her mother-in-law said she had her own plans.
Honestly, I didn't even know what to say to her. For the first time in so many years, I asked her for help. And the answer is total indifference! And what irritates me most is that my husband doesn't realize that this is not normal. After this incident, I do not want to communicate with my mother-in-law. It is a pity only for children who sincerely reach out to their grandmother. She doesn't care about them!
Kitchen refurbishment moved. I went to my mom's, sat with her for a while. She got a lot better, and so did I. My mother listened to me and shared her wisdom with me: Katyusha, you cannot re-educate a grown woman. And you won't make her love your children. Let go of the situation and do not expect a miracle.”
No more waiting. But how do you make your husband feel? He will always be on his mother’s side.
The Wisdom of the heroine’s mother should be repeated as a mantra. She is right: you cannot instill love in an adult. If a grandmother is not interested in the lives of her grandchildren, she will probably have to accept it.
The question is: why does Catherine’s husband act as if there is no one else in his life besides his mother? If I were the main character, I would talk to him honestly. It would be better to seek help from a family therapist. Because it could lead to more serious problems in the future.
What do you say? What would you do in Catherine's place? Boldly share your advice in the comments. Wait for you!
It is a pity that children suffer from this. After all, the education of grandparents plays a huge role in the growth of the younger generation. If you haven’t had a problem like this, you’re definitely lucky. But the heroine of our current history was less fortunate. Let's find out what happened and if she could find a way out.
I would not like to say that my husband is a mama’s son. However, every day I am convinced of this. The fact is that Andrew just idolizes his mother. Literally the dust blows off her, solving all her problems. As long as she's not tired and nervous.
A few years ago, Andrew’s father passed away. He does all the housework now. If something breaks, my husband throws everything and rushes to Valentina Petrovna. God forbid, her head hurts or her blood pressure rises, Andrey immediately takes her to a private clinic. At the same time, the mother-in-law does not deny herself anything: she goes to beauty salons and does herself.
Of course, on the one hand, this is commendable. But sometimes it crosses all permissible boundaries. I'm just not used to it. My mother worked all her life, now she has her own small cottage with a garden. I see my mom almost every day. She picks up our eldest son from school while my husband and I are at work. And on weekends, Ma likes to spend time with our little one.
I am grateful that the communication of my children with my grandmother was the best way. What can not be said about Valentina Petrovna. She never showed interest in her grandchildren and hardly ever saw them. Although Anyuta and Vladik often ask when we will go to visit “Baba Vale”.
Just recently there was a situation when the grandchildren finally could see their grandmother. But it wasn't! So that's the situation. Andrey and I started a small cosmetic renovation in the kitchen. Of course, children better not breathe all this dust and dirt. So I arranged for my mother to sit with her grandchildren.
Everything was fine, but on Saturday morning, Mommy called and said that she had risen blood pressure. He is lying down and can not even get out of bed: very bad. There is no one to leave the children with, and you need to go to your mother. I thought I could ask my mother-in-law to babysit. While I'm at my mom's, my husband's gonna start prep work.
Andrey took my proposal into bayonets: “You’re crazy!” My mom will probably be resting today after a hard day at work yesterday. Don't even call her! Of course, I did not listen to my husband, this whole situation made me angry. I called Valentina Petrovna, explained everything. But her mother-in-law said she had her own plans.
Honestly, I didn't even know what to say to her. For the first time in so many years, I asked her for help. And the answer is total indifference! And what irritates me most is that my husband doesn't realize that this is not normal. After this incident, I do not want to communicate with my mother-in-law. It is a pity only for children who sincerely reach out to their grandmother. She doesn't care about them!
Kitchen refurbishment moved. I went to my mom's, sat with her for a while. She got a lot better, and so did I. My mother listened to me and shared her wisdom with me: Katyusha, you cannot re-educate a grown woman. And you won't make her love your children. Let go of the situation and do not expect a miracle.”
No more waiting. But how do you make your husband feel? He will always be on his mother’s side.
The Wisdom of the heroine’s mother should be repeated as a mantra. She is right: you cannot instill love in an adult. If a grandmother is not interested in the lives of her grandchildren, she will probably have to accept it.
The question is: why does Catherine’s husband act as if there is no one else in his life besides his mother? If I were the main character, I would talk to him honestly. It would be better to seek help from a family therapist. Because it could lead to more serious problems in the future.
What do you say? What would you do in Catherine's place? Boldly share your advice in the comments. Wait for you!
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