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Why we tend to believe our childhood was perfect
Here's the truth. My friends and I often remember our childhood. It was actually completely different. So is the world around us. Thirty or forty years ago, things were different. There were no mobile phones, computers, Facebook or even the Internet. A carefree childhood! But don't you think today's kids are much better than us?
Editorial "Site" I really thought about it. On the one hand, it seems to us that modern children are deprived of activity and fresh air, and on the other hand, just look at them. Some have no time to raise their heads: school, lessons, clubs and tutors. Sometimes they seem to be more busy than adults. Let's try to figure out what they're better at.
Come objectively, we did not have all the benefits that modern children have. Take care and the opportunity to object to adults. Children have rights they know about. The picture, when an adult yells at a child, now seems wild. But before it was easy to get a slap from a neighbor, a school teacher and even from his mother.
Of course, we and the tomboys were the same. Other methods may have been of little use. How else can I influence a young fool who jumps from the top of a tree into a pile of leaves, risking curling his neck? Or climbing a construction site, trying to show everyone how cool he is and how he doesn't care. Don’t you remember that “let’s go low?”
Sometimes you tell your child how we rode on bungalows, ran on thin ice, roamed the roofs and climbed on them on the gutter pipes. Someone (I, for example) could have gone down a high-voltage cable. They ran away. Slate was thrown into the fire. And empty aerosols. Carbide. Explosions. Honestly, sometimes I'm surprised that the 90s survived.
Now, when you tell this to a child who is twelve years old, he looks at you like an idiot, and with a completely genuine intonation says: “But it’s dangerous!” He doesn't understand why we need this or what the hell it is. I'm sure it's full of daredevils now, but it was a whole culture back then. Everyone had to. In fact, we loved it!
The subject of travel, by the way. All we could afford was the Black Sea with our parents. A separate adventure could be a pioneer camp in another city. That's Grandma. Go to the village! During the day in the garden with weeds, in the evening, then a disco. It's a test. Our children saw much more in their years and had a lot to visit.
I know what I don’t like about kids today. There are people who consider themselves the center of the universe and are constantly looking for something to have fun with. And the entertainment is often weird. But not all children are like that. The educated are just less noticeable. Look at how many positive and reasonable young people are around. Didn't you get one of those?
This is where the problem of parents comes up. Upstarts are usually among those who did not play in childhood, who are especially “concussed” by their childhood and now give free rein to their complexes through children. Push them without a queue or with foam at the mouth prove that this is a child, so it will make noise where and how he wants. Embrace and forgive, but not to sit on your head.
Here’s another great example that points to the broader outlook of today’s children. Remember when you were scared that a watermelon seed inside you would sprout if you ate it? You can't get them now. Everyone has their own point of view and search engine at hand. And that has to be reckoned with now. To be honest, I'm a little jealous of them. They're cool!
A carefree childhood - What is it? Everyone decides for themselves, experience is different. Write everything you think about it in the comments. From us a bonus material on how to raise a child without complexes. We wish you a good mood!
Editorial "Site" I really thought about it. On the one hand, it seems to us that modern children are deprived of activity and fresh air, and on the other hand, just look at them. Some have no time to raise their heads: school, lessons, clubs and tutors. Sometimes they seem to be more busy than adults. Let's try to figure out what they're better at.
Come objectively, we did not have all the benefits that modern children have. Take care and the opportunity to object to adults. Children have rights they know about. The picture, when an adult yells at a child, now seems wild. But before it was easy to get a slap from a neighbor, a school teacher and even from his mother.
Of course, we and the tomboys were the same. Other methods may have been of little use. How else can I influence a young fool who jumps from the top of a tree into a pile of leaves, risking curling his neck? Or climbing a construction site, trying to show everyone how cool he is and how he doesn't care. Don’t you remember that “let’s go low?”
Sometimes you tell your child how we rode on bungalows, ran on thin ice, roamed the roofs and climbed on them on the gutter pipes. Someone (I, for example) could have gone down a high-voltage cable. They ran away. Slate was thrown into the fire. And empty aerosols. Carbide. Explosions. Honestly, sometimes I'm surprised that the 90s survived.
Now, when you tell this to a child who is twelve years old, he looks at you like an idiot, and with a completely genuine intonation says: “But it’s dangerous!” He doesn't understand why we need this or what the hell it is. I'm sure it's full of daredevils now, but it was a whole culture back then. Everyone had to. In fact, we loved it!
The subject of travel, by the way. All we could afford was the Black Sea with our parents. A separate adventure could be a pioneer camp in another city. That's Grandma. Go to the village! During the day in the garden with weeds, in the evening, then a disco. It's a test. Our children saw much more in their years and had a lot to visit.
I know what I don’t like about kids today. There are people who consider themselves the center of the universe and are constantly looking for something to have fun with. And the entertainment is often weird. But not all children are like that. The educated are just less noticeable. Look at how many positive and reasonable young people are around. Didn't you get one of those?
This is where the problem of parents comes up. Upstarts are usually among those who did not play in childhood, who are especially “concussed” by their childhood and now give free rein to their complexes through children. Push them without a queue or with foam at the mouth prove that this is a child, so it will make noise where and how he wants. Embrace and forgive, but not to sit on your head.
Here’s another great example that points to the broader outlook of today’s children. Remember when you were scared that a watermelon seed inside you would sprout if you ate it? You can't get them now. Everyone has their own point of view and search engine at hand. And that has to be reckoned with now. To be honest, I'm a little jealous of them. They're cool!
A carefree childhood - What is it? Everyone decides for themselves, experience is different. Write everything you think about it in the comments. From us a bonus material on how to raise a child without complexes. We wish you a good mood!
