The opinion of a mother who does not respect elders and teaches it to her children

Mutual respect is an important component of trusting relationships. Adults try to teach this to their children first. It all starts with the concept.respect? But everyone's interpretation is different. Instead of treating the child with respect before instilling this trait, adults completely discourage the desire to interact with them.

I came across an interesting article about parenting in Mel magazine. The topic is quite burning, about the respect of the younger generation to the older. How it happens, said a woman who decided to raise her child differently. First-hand history makes you think and rethink methods of education of the younger generation.



“The cult of elders has been entrenched in society since primitive times.” Here everything is obvious: the older brother took the toy, so he needed it more. Parents decide who you are because they have more experience. Seniors need to be respected, and this is almost always true.



Few people know how to raise their children before they arrive. Any errors in education parents shift on the shoulders of their child. It's very elementary. Complexes and inability to convey their thoughts parents project on the child and require respect from him. Most often, the concept of “respect” is distorted by the parents themselves.



This behavior is passed down from generation to generation. We inherit the habits of our parents, raise our children in the same way that our moms and dads did. My grandfather raised my father in strictness. I was raised the same way. It was only as I got older that I began to doubt my parents’ methods.



I learned to analyze the actions of everyone I know. It doesn’t matter how old these people are. My character was bad and I am proud of it. I'm teaching this to my child now. When I became a mother, I began to behave like my parents did. Of course, I wanted the best for my daughter and never ceased to control her and give her the necessary advice.



Everything fell into place when my four-year-old daughter said she didn’t have to worry so much about her. The shock turned into a long thought, and it hit me. I remembered the words of my friend, who teaches pedagogy at the university. She said that for a very long time there are different models of child rearing, which were used by teachers for many years.



Then I thought that it would be nice for all parents to take a course in pedagogy, this subject is very valuable for young parents who repeat the mistakes of raising their mothers and fathers. So now I know that it is important to let the child express his opinion and not reproach him, but praise him for it. So he will grow up a full-fledged member of society without complexes and resentment against his parents.



The problem is that under the age of 18, we don't think of children as human, roughly speaking. We tell them what to do, what institution to go to and how to behave with your spouse and so on. And then we wonder if they don't want to talk about their problems and failures. When a parent understands this simple truth, he becomes a faithful companion for his child. The unquestioning obedience that parents demand from children destroys their trusting relationship.



Previously, children sought the love of their elders by following their instructions. It's different today. If you want respect from your child, give him a reason: you want him to talk politely, learn how to communicate politely, you want the child to read more, remember the last time you held a book.