Why giving your child a separate room is a disservice

Personal space is necessary for every person. Even a small child needs it. private roomIt will make you feel like a full owner. But it's in perfect conditions.

But in real life it often turns out that in a cramped housing and children’s is not provided. There is no room that can be set aside for this purpose. So you have to sit in a large family almost on each other’s heads.

And even though the old proverb says that “in the crowd, but not in offense”, but in reality it is the lack of personal space that often causes family conflicts. And in the future adult life of the child it also leaves a trace.



My own room, I once saw a friend. When she said she was expecting her third child, I couldn’t help but ask. “Wife, are you going to move?” To this question, she was only surprised: “Why?” I tried diligently to lower raised eyebrows, but I seem to be bad at it, says Anastasia.



“I knew that this young lady with her two children and her husband was huddled in a small mortgage. And how they were going to fit in there as five was a mystery to me. I'm not sure they thought about it themselves.”

“I always thought I was a bear. My house is my den. Only mine. Living with a crowd of people has always seemed alien to me. Maybe the problem is, as a child, I had a private room that I didn't have to share with anyone. No brother or sister.”



“Even with my son and husband in two, I found myself cramped. It was only when we moved into treshka that I began to feel more comfortable. Although sometimes it seemed that another spare room would do the trick.”

“Maybe that’s where all the evil lies?” Perhaps the worst thing a parent can do is give their child a room? His own room without brothers, sisters or grandmother.”



“Such a spoiled person will come to a student dormitory or live in a small family for a year or two. And he's going to be motivated. And he will begin to work as if not in himself, surprising others with his agitation. To break out of this tightness. To breathe fully. Refuse to live and breed furiously for a few meters. After all, we egoists will not reproduce in captivity.



Of course, seriously, everyone chooses what conditions to live in and how many children to have. But here he decides not only for himself, but also for the future child. Again, I remember my childhood, when my parents started remodeling and we had to live together in the same room for a couple of days.

“At first it turned out that I had nowhere to put my things. Then I found myself unable to sleep because my father snored loudly. Then I learned that solving lessons with a working TV is an impossible task.

“My mother told me that some families lived in the same room their whole lives. Then I didn't believe it. I couldn't believe it. But it turns out it does. And some parents create such a “close” life for their children. And they do not even think that this can be a problem, Anastasia reflects.



Of course, it is better when every child has personal spaceOr better yet, your own room. But that's not always possible. Especially when it comes to a large family. And giving one child a room at the expense of others is a disservice.

Traditionally, there have always been many children in our families. And everyone had to live in cramped places. However, this did not become a big obstacle and did not spoil the relationship. Isn't that right?