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Why men in youth are freedom-loving eagles, and in sixty dream of a family
90% of elderly single Russians are women. They are not the ones to feel sorry for, because they chose loneliness consciously. The lives of older people are very different. I am talking about the different priorities of older men and women. Interestingly, men after 65 years want to live with their beloved, and women flatly refuse to move to a man at this age.
This situation was faced by Nicholas. Once he was married, but after dozens of years together, his wife told him that she wanted to live for herself. After healing his wounds, Nicholas decided to marry again. He offered to marry him twice, but each time he was refused: “She does not want to live with me, because she believes that her freedom will end there.” I am not lazy, I like to cook and I can clean up sometime. Only women don't need us anymore. Men were out of business, lamented Nicholas.
The idea of personal life is very different for women and men after 65 years. Although women rethink the priority of relationships even earlier. By the age of 40, when the children have grown up, a career has taken place, a woman wants to finally take care of herself. Put your thoughts in order, do your favorite hobby, relax from the eternal cooking and cleaning.
Paradoxically, men, on the contrary, want a strong family in old age and an affectionate wife next to them. If a man in 30 still looks at young girls, then by 60 a man is sure that there is nothing better than a warm cozy house, where his beloved woman is waiting for him, who will take care of him. It is not easy for a man to be alone, so he is focused on marriage.
Women have no time to think about themselves. She would rather live a lonely free old age than a life with a man who condemns her to eternal domestic chores. There are a lot of comments on this topic online. Here's what women in their 50s think about relationships:
As women say, “With age, a woman’s need for a man decreases and sometimes decreases to zero.” I am 52 years old, behind 2 marriages, an adult daughter, my son graduated from school. What kind of grandpa do I need to take care of? Wash, cook, heal? I am comfortable alone, I want to drink jelly, I want to play on a transistor.
“I am the 65+ category. Twenty years divorced, separated when the children were 10 years old. I raised the kids myself. I earned a good pension. Now I live with my sons, so there is someone to take care of. I devote my free time to myself: I read, walk, communicate on the Internet, meet with friends. So why would I want an old man with a lot of problems?
“A man in marriage is looking for a servant, not one he would care for and help in his later years. In youth, all eagles are freedom-loving, and in old age they look for where to attach their aging ass.”
“It is one thing if people have lived together for years, they have a common past, children, grandchildren. They care about each other and are not alone. It is different when divorced, widows and widowers meet. Older men need a babysitter more than when they were young. He's already run over, he needs a sofa, a TV and a warm toilet. And the woman worked all her life at work, and at home, and with children, and with grandchildren. Why else would she care for someone else's man in her old age?
“What a woman has come to, she no longer sees a man as a support. These women’s cares became just elderly boys. The children grew up, the wives left, and nothing changes. In addition to the increase in disease, mainly through their own fault. I exclude those who worked in difficult conditions and pulled families. And women are right not to. And men are not always eager either. If he is on his own feet and used to do everything himself, he also does not need a permanent woman.”
Not all women are of this opinion, but as you can see, they are the majority. There are single men who are comfortable living alone. Guest marriages have not been canceled, because you still want to communicate, and children will not always be there if you have them. What do you think about that?
This situation was faced by Nicholas. Once he was married, but after dozens of years together, his wife told him that she wanted to live for herself. After healing his wounds, Nicholas decided to marry again. He offered to marry him twice, but each time he was refused: “She does not want to live with me, because she believes that her freedom will end there.” I am not lazy, I like to cook and I can clean up sometime. Only women don't need us anymore. Men were out of business, lamented Nicholas.
The idea of personal life is very different for women and men after 65 years. Although women rethink the priority of relationships even earlier. By the age of 40, when the children have grown up, a career has taken place, a woman wants to finally take care of herself. Put your thoughts in order, do your favorite hobby, relax from the eternal cooking and cleaning.
Paradoxically, men, on the contrary, want a strong family in old age and an affectionate wife next to them. If a man in 30 still looks at young girls, then by 60 a man is sure that there is nothing better than a warm cozy house, where his beloved woman is waiting for him, who will take care of him. It is not easy for a man to be alone, so he is focused on marriage.
Women have no time to think about themselves. She would rather live a lonely free old age than a life with a man who condemns her to eternal domestic chores. There are a lot of comments on this topic online. Here's what women in their 50s think about relationships:
As women say, “With age, a woman’s need for a man decreases and sometimes decreases to zero.” I am 52 years old, behind 2 marriages, an adult daughter, my son graduated from school. What kind of grandpa do I need to take care of? Wash, cook, heal? I am comfortable alone, I want to drink jelly, I want to play on a transistor.
“I am the 65+ category. Twenty years divorced, separated when the children were 10 years old. I raised the kids myself. I earned a good pension. Now I live with my sons, so there is someone to take care of. I devote my free time to myself: I read, walk, communicate on the Internet, meet with friends. So why would I want an old man with a lot of problems?
“A man in marriage is looking for a servant, not one he would care for and help in his later years. In youth, all eagles are freedom-loving, and in old age they look for where to attach their aging ass.”
“It is one thing if people have lived together for years, they have a common past, children, grandchildren. They care about each other and are not alone. It is different when divorced, widows and widowers meet. Older men need a babysitter more than when they were young. He's already run over, he needs a sofa, a TV and a warm toilet. And the woman worked all her life at work, and at home, and with children, and with grandchildren. Why else would she care for someone else's man in her old age?
“What a woman has come to, she no longer sees a man as a support. These women’s cares became just elderly boys. The children grew up, the wives left, and nothing changes. In addition to the increase in disease, mainly through their own fault. I exclude those who worked in difficult conditions and pulled families. And women are right not to. And men are not always eager either. If he is on his own feet and used to do everything himself, he also does not need a permanent woman.”
Not all women are of this opinion, but as you can see, they are the majority. There are single men who are comfortable living alone. Guest marriages have not been canceled, because you still want to communicate, and children will not always be there if you have them. What do you think about that?
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