Life on a marriage visa in Japan and why Japanese people voluntarily deprive themselves of personal space Bashny.Net

Learning about another culture is always interesting. But when you come permanently and not as a tourist, you soon realize how difficult it is to adapt and become truly your own. You can only imagine how strange they feel. foreigner. After all, this country is so original that you just wonder.

And today's edition. "Site" The story of a woman who left St. Petersburg for Japan. Three years of living in another country helped her to make interesting conclusions, which we hasten to share with readers.



A little more than three years ago, I worked in a small cosmetics store, got pennies for my work and barely made ends meet. But finally not to lose heart helped me dream to leave. Most of all, fabulous Asia attracted. I imagined standing in a kimono near cherry blossoms and breathing in the fresh ocean air, says Ekaterina.



“Dreams led me to study Japanese. It helped me to meet my future husband. Kenta and I met on Facebook and he helped me with Japanese. We liked each other and soon our daily Skype conversations began to drag on for 3-4 hours. Upon learning of my difficult life, he promised to take me away.”

“Soon we met in St. Petersburg, where Kenta came with his father. The fact is that the Japanese are taken to immediately acquaint the beloved with his parents. After 6 months, Kenta married and decided that my move to Japan would be the best option. My husband had a good job there, and I was all for it.”

“It was not easy for me to get used to it. Japanese dishes were not as delicious as I thought. And sakura did not seem as pink as in the pictures on the Internet.



The Japanese themselves are extremely reserved. It is difficult for a local to even confess his love to his lady of heart. Especially if they're already married. It seemed strange to me that no one was celebrating their wedding anniversary. But since Kenta and I have an international marriage, I have maintained that tradition.

“What shocked me was the lack of heating. If at home I walked around the apartment in light clothes even in winter, then in Japan I had to wrap myself in several sweaters to fall asleep.

“The discovery (very unpleasant) was also the abundance of large insects and snakes in the Land of the Rising Sun. The first earthquake was one of my biggest shocks. It seemed that the house was swinging on the waves, and you at this moment can not move. Now I'm more or less used to it. Fortunately, even small earthquakes are alerted by a mobile message.”

“Japanese restraint is also reflected in their tolerance. They will not ask stupid or unpleasant questions, they will not get into the soul or be rude. At least I haven’t seen this in years.”



“We live in a small prefecture with no big park or theater. There's only one movie theater. But even in this small village, the standard of living is the highest. It sells anything you want. Washed laundry can be dried in a special dryer, from where it will not disappear or get lost.”

“Automation everywhere: from doors to containers for used diapers. And it's very clean everywhere, even though I haven't seen a janitor. It is just that every town has its own cleanliness laws, which are carefully observed by every inhabitant.”

“The difference in wealth is hardly felt either. The rich pay higher taxes, so they live at about the same level as everyone else. Each family member has their own car. Every house has a dishwasher, an air conditioner, and a robot vacuum cleaner, on which lies most of the cleaning duties.”

“I was surprised at the beginning by the arrangement of houses. The rooms are so small, with low ceilings, cramped! There are no children at all. They say this is done so that children do not move away from mom and dad. That the family may always feel united.”



Kenta is a teacher, but in recent years he has been working as an accountant at a school. In general, education is well paid, but the load is huge. A teacher should know everything from mathematics to swimming to working with musical instruments. Work is desirable, but few can obtain it.”

“In general, workers are needed everywhere, so good pay jobs are easy to find. Still, I decided to stay in the role of a housewife, and my husband did not mind - his salary is quite enough for us.

“Making a household in Japan is not easy. For example, food should all be taken together. And if the husband gets up at work at 5 a.m., then all other family members should wake up at the same time.”

“In addition, I need to make breakfast. The Japanese take food very seriously. And you need to make sure that the food is balanced and nutritious. Often on the table are dishes of rice, meat, seafood and vegetables. And if in Russia with my family I sat down at the table only on big holidays, here it happens every day.



Of course, each region has its own characteristics. However, Japan seems to be a unique country in terms of surprises. And I want to come here at least once as a tourist to see everything with my own eyes.