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The threads of fate
Have you ever thought that the spindle of your destiny began to rotate at the moment of birth?
In the beginning, our life is a yarn – something crumpled and disorganized. Gradually, the yarn turns into a thread that is wound on the spindle, connects with others, and gradually becomes a canvas.
The spindle rotates, the spinning wheel spins, colorful threads go up, down, then to the right, then to the left, like ups and downs, right choices and mistakes ... And they make a pattern. unique “pattern” of our lives. Sometimes it looks very bright – this is how our feelings, thoughts and actions make it. But often it is faded, dull, homogeneous, or, on the contrary, colorful, confused and chaotic.
In many fairy tales and myths, the spinning process is surrounded by an aura of mystery and magic. “The process of turning raw fibres into threads has invariably involved the ability to manage life and death issues.
All of them wizard with their knotted wiring hands over wild, pristine, unbridled raw materials, turning it into a soft, obedient yarn. From these long, entwined into huge tangles, threads of fate, they weave endless canvases of life and death. Turning the spinning wheel, the great women of legends and fairy tales follow the knowledge of the laws of existence accumulated by mankind. Not only are these laws followed and confirmed, but they are created and affirmed anew.
Like the archetypal gods, Our parents largely determine what our "life canvas" will be. Because we are initially “woven” into the system of their expectations, it is very difficult for them to recognize that we are Others, and stop trying to “shape” us in their own image, or adjust our lives to the existing in their head “sketch”.
We inherit many “instructions for the use of spindles” ... and the whole family experience of “weaving”, starting with the most distant ancestors.
We are included in the “family repetitions, interweavings”, which largely determine our actions, wrapping us in a web of prohibitions and regulations, in which we risk spending our lives, like a butterfly sleeping in its cocoon, never knowing the joy of flight.
Family regulations hold tighter ropes...
Without conducting a revision of the “inherited”, without becoming the Creator and not learning to “stick” ourselves, we, like the heroine of the fairy tale “Sleeping Beauty”, risk living our lives “in someone else’s dream”, never using the beautiful gifts of the 12 fairies, not realizing why they were given to us, and why we came to this world.
Remember the story? The King and Queen have a feast in honor of the long-awaited birth of the Princess, invited all the Fairies of the Kingdom, and each gives the girl wonderful gifts - virtues and virtues. One promises that she will sing like a nightingale, the second that she will dance perfectly, the third that she will be more beautiful and intelligent than anyone else in the world, and so on, each gift is more beautiful and more precious than the previous one. And suddenly, in the midst of the ball, another one appears – the Old Fairy, which everyone forgot about, because she hadn’t left her tower for a long time, and everyone thought she was dead. The sorcerer pronounces a terrible curse: the princess will die from a spindle injection.
Are you sure that's what the Princess' curse is? And the young Fairy softened it with her last gift - a dream for 100 years.
What could be worse than a dream life?
“Sleepers do not walk fast. They stagger, stumble, hobble like children stuck in a lake of sweet molasses.
Many of us, following parental instructions, try to be not just good, but perfect. Who, in your opinion, are these fairies, the “gift-bearers”, who did not forget to invite to the ball, which determined the character of the young Princess? What do you think they would like to see? The old need to be the best at everything for the sake of the mother, to be rewarded with her love. “Perfect” means “perfect”, “complete”, “stayed in development”. But we are “alive” and reach for life (our own Ideal Life) – passion, emotions, spontaneous actions, etc.
Trusting the parental desire to control our destiny, we may live a quite decent life, never having ventured up a steep and narrow spiral staircase to the very top of the tower, will not find a pitiful closet, from which a beautiful view of the surroundings opens up - our potential and prospects, will not meet an old woman who does not know about any prohibitions and restrictions.
What's wrong with that? After all, then no blood will be shed, no one will die, and no one will sleep for 100 years, and, in general, parents know better.
You can still hear their voices inside us.
... A decent house should be as quiet as a grave.
A well-educated man is as comfortable as a rose without thorns.
Neat as a lily. That's what we need to learn.
But if they are not taught, they will not understand themselves.
(N. Gaiman, “Behave yourself!”)
“And no steep stairs, terrible dusty attics, sharp spindles and prodigal Princes – lovers of kissing dead women and wandering in your bushes! Wash, comb your hair, put on a beautiful dress, sit by the window and wait! It will be! The main thing is to wait and believe... and, of course, do everything “right”.
...
Like the father in a fairy tale, many parents try to remove from the kingdom any spikes, needles, spokes or needles that may be on the rose-strewn path of their beloved child. They provide him with a whole arsenal of necessary instructions (do not go there, do not approach the spindle, etc.). Out of concern for his well-being, they try to make his life better than theirs, striving with all their might to give them all that was not given to them at the time. It is rarely thought that a child may have other needs, dreams and aspirations. That they're just Others. . .
Living according to parental instructions is a great scenario, if you’re really “happily ever after,” but where does the unbearable longing for the Other come from?
“Without regaining consciousness” – “in a dream” – marriages are made, professions are chosen, children are born.
In that part of the fairy tale “Boars”, which the moralists the Grimm brothers preferred to omit, the sleeping Beauty waited for her Savior, who did not limit herself to a kiss, but “more and more flared up by her beauty, carried her on a bed in her arms and there collected flowers of love.” "A good woman is a dead woman"? (c) In the end, the Princess woke up from a dream with two babies in her arms, and was forced to face everyday problems of basic survival.
So “suddenly” (?) “waking up” “good” women “for no reason” (?) (for others) divorce, realizing that they are quite from the “ideal life” – never was, and their chosen one (are they?) the most that neither is the Beast (not at all enchanted, but the most real), which do not kiss, there is little sense ...
So at forty, again, “for no reason” people abandon prestigious well-paid and stable jobs and positions, radically change their lifestyle, and suddenly go in search of unknown things.
Spiritual insights? Adventures? Your unique path?
And now yesterday’s “Sleeping Beauty” saddles the horse, and leaving the “sleepy, spider-web-covered house” behind, goes to meet a new “dawn”. And in the canvas of her life, a new thread is weaved - from the roadside dust and the smoke of evening bonfires ... - harsh, verbose, furious, militant and honest ...
“I’m crazy,” the people around me sighed. - What's not living?
“Not living,” because “not yours,” and it is unbearable to live with a crack inside, in a state of conflict between the mind and the heart.
Do they regret their choice? Sometimes, yes. Making independent decisions is not easy. Sometimes it seems that the thread of their fate “is composed of barbed wire, tears, gray cigarette smoke and howls of cold February wind.” There is no one to blame, “all by itself.”
But at least they can say, whatever it is, this is my destiny!
...
So maybe it is better to “live without regaining consciousness” – to permanently close the door to an unpredictable independent life on a bolt, and not to let the Wicked Witch in? Well, it's Destiny's spindle!
You can do that. But, then, unlike the fabulous Sleeping Beauty, in 100 years you (with a high degree of probability) risk turning into the Sleeping Old Woman, whose life was only “the dream of parental figures who see dreams, when we do not pass through the world, leaving a trace, and the world passes through us.”
Yes, and Parents are different – they do not always strive to “weave golden threads” into the canvas of their child’s life, sometimes they “burn” such holes in our soul that only the primary “stack” takes half of life. And the fabulous evil witches are just little girls in comparison. . .
Sometimes, we need a period of rest to sort out our own needs and desires, to nurture the conscious, active part of ourselves. Princess to life), but sometimes the dream lasts forever, and we just once resigned, not even trying to change something.
Fate is not a toy for children, but the Forest of Adult Life, which begins beyond the parental threshold, is dark and terrible. Having “lost” from the path of your mother’s warnings, you really risk turning the wrong way, getting a couple of deadly splinters in the heart, choking on the apple of temptation, falling into the abyss of wolf beliefs, faced with a Predator who is ready to swallow, experience and spit out your life, without even noticing, “suck on the spindle”, or... find your personal happiness, the idea of which everyone has his own.
The choice is yours...
Of course, you can not go to the forest, but then sooner or later he will come to you.
It is impossible to escape and hide from life indefinitely.
The spindle is a constant rotation, a symbol of continuous development. Whether you learn to spin the thread of your own thought depends on the fairy tale of your life.
Don't be afraid of the Thirteenth Fairy. It represents death and transformation. Our Symbolic Death in the old capacity, the end of a certain period of life, and the beginning of a new one. We fear change, therefore we do not invite the old (wise) Witch to the feast of life and happiness. And then she comes by herself...
“There is no transformation without work. Either way, you're gonna have to burn to the ground. And then sit on the ashes of what we thought we were before, and from there begin a new journey.
Our lives are built on the basis of certain decisions made long ago. Without special work, we do not remember them, and do not realize them. But any decision has consequences...
Are you happy with how your life is going and going? What roles do you play in it? What kind of results do you get?
If so, you can only be happy for you.
If not, have you ever thought you could change it?
Every person’s life follows an unconscious scenario. If we do not study it, we are forced to solve problems that were not set by us, constantly make the same mistakes, experience one after another disappointment in life, to embody not our conscious desires, but alien ideas and dreams.
Someone lives by inertia – “as is, so is”, rejoices at luck and is upset when they bypass him, complaining that Fate is like this. Someone is looking for the right path for themselves.
But the script of life is a very real thing, which is written not in the mystical “book of destinies”, but in our own consciousness in the form of a set of programs of the unconscious part of it, the basis of which is laid in early childhood. This is like the invisible, but never letting go of the rails on which we usually roll, harboring the illusion of freedom and not even suspecting that everything is already predetermined. .
We live in the past because everything we see around us is the result of what we have chosen. Some “solutions” continue to “poison” our lives. It doesn’t matter how old we are, once adopted attitudes remain “by default”, despite the fact that we grow up. We carry this “baggage” with us all our lives: memories, successes, failures, shocks and discoveries that happened to us as children. We are all “wounded” by our childhood – who is more, who is less.Everyone has wounds that need to be treated.
The only way to change the “predeterminacy” we don’t like is to analyze the scenario and then change all the programs that determine the direction, course and course of our lives.
What we can do is expand our awareness zone, learn to recognize maladaptive reactions, decide to experience emotions we normally avoid, explore the feelings behind them: fear, guilt, pleasure, anger, envy, resentment, jealousy, “live” internal conflicts, and risk experimenting with new behaviors.
Knowing ourselves, we change – our sensations, feelings, thoughts, our attitude to the past change, there are changes in the present.
Scenario analysis allows you to make the script conscious from an unconscious set of stereotypes that currently governs our lives – stop the not invented by us performance and put another, better one instead, where you will be a director who determines the roles, plot and final scene of the story.
After all, behind those events that in everyday life are usually called a manifestation of fate or fate, psychologists see unconscious mental mechanisms that affect the behavior of a person, his actions, the choice of friends, life companions and business partners. And if you understand these mechanisms, much of what is happening can be understood and if you want to change. published
Author: Ulasevich Tina
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: //www.b17.ru/article/57321/
In the beginning, our life is a yarn – something crumpled and disorganized. Gradually, the yarn turns into a thread that is wound on the spindle, connects with others, and gradually becomes a canvas.
The spindle rotates, the spinning wheel spins, colorful threads go up, down, then to the right, then to the left, like ups and downs, right choices and mistakes ... And they make a pattern. unique “pattern” of our lives. Sometimes it looks very bright – this is how our feelings, thoughts and actions make it. But often it is faded, dull, homogeneous, or, on the contrary, colorful, confused and chaotic.
In many fairy tales and myths, the spinning process is surrounded by an aura of mystery and magic. “The process of turning raw fibres into threads has invariably involved the ability to manage life and death issues.
- Ariadne, holding her lover a ball of thread to bring him out of the maze;
- Baba Yaga is the guide of the Seekers,
- Sumerian Namtarta,
- Morgana le Fay of the ancient Celtics,
- The three sisters of Moira, who control fate, in Greek mythology,
- Moko is in Slavic,
- or Norns from Scandinavian myths;
- Old women who spin the thread of life or cut it.
All of them wizard with their knotted wiring hands over wild, pristine, unbridled raw materials, turning it into a soft, obedient yarn. From these long, entwined into huge tangles, threads of fate, they weave endless canvases of life and death. Turning the spinning wheel, the great women of legends and fairy tales follow the knowledge of the laws of existence accumulated by mankind. Not only are these laws followed and confirmed, but they are created and affirmed anew.
Like the archetypal gods, Our parents largely determine what our "life canvas" will be. Because we are initially “woven” into the system of their expectations, it is very difficult for them to recognize that we are Others, and stop trying to “shape” us in their own image, or adjust our lives to the existing in their head “sketch”.
We inherit many “instructions for the use of spindles” ... and the whole family experience of “weaving”, starting with the most distant ancestors.
We are included in the “family repetitions, interweavings”, which largely determine our actions, wrapping us in a web of prohibitions and regulations, in which we risk spending our lives, like a butterfly sleeping in its cocoon, never knowing the joy of flight.
Family regulations hold tighter ropes...
Without conducting a revision of the “inherited”, without becoming the Creator and not learning to “stick” ourselves, we, like the heroine of the fairy tale “Sleeping Beauty”, risk living our lives “in someone else’s dream”, never using the beautiful gifts of the 12 fairies, not realizing why they were given to us, and why we came to this world.
Remember the story? The King and Queen have a feast in honor of the long-awaited birth of the Princess, invited all the Fairies of the Kingdom, and each gives the girl wonderful gifts - virtues and virtues. One promises that she will sing like a nightingale, the second that she will dance perfectly, the third that she will be more beautiful and intelligent than anyone else in the world, and so on, each gift is more beautiful and more precious than the previous one. And suddenly, in the midst of the ball, another one appears – the Old Fairy, which everyone forgot about, because she hadn’t left her tower for a long time, and everyone thought she was dead. The sorcerer pronounces a terrible curse: the princess will die from a spindle injection.
Are you sure that's what the Princess' curse is? And the young Fairy softened it with her last gift - a dream for 100 years.
What could be worse than a dream life?
“Sleepers do not walk fast. They stagger, stumble, hobble like children stuck in a lake of sweet molasses.
Many of us, following parental instructions, try to be not just good, but perfect. Who, in your opinion, are these fairies, the “gift-bearers”, who did not forget to invite to the ball, which determined the character of the young Princess? What do you think they would like to see? The old need to be the best at everything for the sake of the mother, to be rewarded with her love. “Perfect” means “perfect”, “complete”, “stayed in development”. But we are “alive” and reach for life (our own Ideal Life) – passion, emotions, spontaneous actions, etc.
Trusting the parental desire to control our destiny, we may live a quite decent life, never having ventured up a steep and narrow spiral staircase to the very top of the tower, will not find a pitiful closet, from which a beautiful view of the surroundings opens up - our potential and prospects, will not meet an old woman who does not know about any prohibitions and restrictions.
What's wrong with that? After all, then no blood will be shed, no one will die, and no one will sleep for 100 years, and, in general, parents know better.
You can still hear their voices inside us.
... A decent house should be as quiet as a grave.
A well-educated man is as comfortable as a rose without thorns.
Neat as a lily. That's what we need to learn.
But if they are not taught, they will not understand themselves.
(N. Gaiman, “Behave yourself!”)
“And no steep stairs, terrible dusty attics, sharp spindles and prodigal Princes – lovers of kissing dead women and wandering in your bushes! Wash, comb your hair, put on a beautiful dress, sit by the window and wait! It will be! The main thing is to wait and believe... and, of course, do everything “right”.
...
Like the father in a fairy tale, many parents try to remove from the kingdom any spikes, needles, spokes or needles that may be on the rose-strewn path of their beloved child. They provide him with a whole arsenal of necessary instructions (do not go there, do not approach the spindle, etc.). Out of concern for his well-being, they try to make his life better than theirs, striving with all their might to give them all that was not given to them at the time. It is rarely thought that a child may have other needs, dreams and aspirations. That they're just Others. . .
Living according to parental instructions is a great scenario, if you’re really “happily ever after,” but where does the unbearable longing for the Other come from?
“Without regaining consciousness” – “in a dream” – marriages are made, professions are chosen, children are born.
In that part of the fairy tale “Boars”, which the moralists the Grimm brothers preferred to omit, the sleeping Beauty waited for her Savior, who did not limit herself to a kiss, but “more and more flared up by her beauty, carried her on a bed in her arms and there collected flowers of love.” "A good woman is a dead woman"? (c) In the end, the Princess woke up from a dream with two babies in her arms, and was forced to face everyday problems of basic survival.
So “suddenly” (?) “waking up” “good” women “for no reason” (?) (for others) divorce, realizing that they are quite from the “ideal life” – never was, and their chosen one (are they?) the most that neither is the Beast (not at all enchanted, but the most real), which do not kiss, there is little sense ...
So at forty, again, “for no reason” people abandon prestigious well-paid and stable jobs and positions, radically change their lifestyle, and suddenly go in search of unknown things.
Spiritual insights? Adventures? Your unique path?
And now yesterday’s “Sleeping Beauty” saddles the horse, and leaving the “sleepy, spider-web-covered house” behind, goes to meet a new “dawn”. And in the canvas of her life, a new thread is weaved - from the roadside dust and the smoke of evening bonfires ... - harsh, verbose, furious, militant and honest ...
“I’m crazy,” the people around me sighed. - What's not living?
“Not living,” because “not yours,” and it is unbearable to live with a crack inside, in a state of conflict between the mind and the heart.
Do they regret their choice? Sometimes, yes. Making independent decisions is not easy. Sometimes it seems that the thread of their fate “is composed of barbed wire, tears, gray cigarette smoke and howls of cold February wind.” There is no one to blame, “all by itself.”
But at least they can say, whatever it is, this is my destiny!
...
So maybe it is better to “live without regaining consciousness” – to permanently close the door to an unpredictable independent life on a bolt, and not to let the Wicked Witch in? Well, it's Destiny's spindle!
You can do that. But, then, unlike the fabulous Sleeping Beauty, in 100 years you (with a high degree of probability) risk turning into the Sleeping Old Woman, whose life was only “the dream of parental figures who see dreams, when we do not pass through the world, leaving a trace, and the world passes through us.”
Yes, and Parents are different – they do not always strive to “weave golden threads” into the canvas of their child’s life, sometimes they “burn” such holes in our soul that only the primary “stack” takes half of life. And the fabulous evil witches are just little girls in comparison. . .
Sometimes, we need a period of rest to sort out our own needs and desires, to nurture the conscious, active part of ourselves. Princess to life), but sometimes the dream lasts forever, and we just once resigned, not even trying to change something.
Fate is not a toy for children, but the Forest of Adult Life, which begins beyond the parental threshold, is dark and terrible. Having “lost” from the path of your mother’s warnings, you really risk turning the wrong way, getting a couple of deadly splinters in the heart, choking on the apple of temptation, falling into the abyss of wolf beliefs, faced with a Predator who is ready to swallow, experience and spit out your life, without even noticing, “suck on the spindle”, or... find your personal happiness, the idea of which everyone has his own.
The choice is yours...
Of course, you can not go to the forest, but then sooner or later he will come to you.
It is impossible to escape and hide from life indefinitely.
The spindle is a constant rotation, a symbol of continuous development. Whether you learn to spin the thread of your own thought depends on the fairy tale of your life.
Don't be afraid of the Thirteenth Fairy. It represents death and transformation. Our Symbolic Death in the old capacity, the end of a certain period of life, and the beginning of a new one. We fear change, therefore we do not invite the old (wise) Witch to the feast of life and happiness. And then she comes by herself...
“There is no transformation without work. Either way, you're gonna have to burn to the ground. And then sit on the ashes of what we thought we were before, and from there begin a new journey.
Our lives are built on the basis of certain decisions made long ago. Without special work, we do not remember them, and do not realize them. But any decision has consequences...
Are you happy with how your life is going and going? What roles do you play in it? What kind of results do you get?
If so, you can only be happy for you.
If not, have you ever thought you could change it?
Every person’s life follows an unconscious scenario. If we do not study it, we are forced to solve problems that were not set by us, constantly make the same mistakes, experience one after another disappointment in life, to embody not our conscious desires, but alien ideas and dreams.
Someone lives by inertia – “as is, so is”, rejoices at luck and is upset when they bypass him, complaining that Fate is like this. Someone is looking for the right path for themselves.
But the script of life is a very real thing, which is written not in the mystical “book of destinies”, but in our own consciousness in the form of a set of programs of the unconscious part of it, the basis of which is laid in early childhood. This is like the invisible, but never letting go of the rails on which we usually roll, harboring the illusion of freedom and not even suspecting that everything is already predetermined. .
We live in the past because everything we see around us is the result of what we have chosen. Some “solutions” continue to “poison” our lives. It doesn’t matter how old we are, once adopted attitudes remain “by default”, despite the fact that we grow up. We carry this “baggage” with us all our lives: memories, successes, failures, shocks and discoveries that happened to us as children. We are all “wounded” by our childhood – who is more, who is less.Everyone has wounds that need to be treated.
The only way to change the “predeterminacy” we don’t like is to analyze the scenario and then change all the programs that determine the direction, course and course of our lives.
What we can do is expand our awareness zone, learn to recognize maladaptive reactions, decide to experience emotions we normally avoid, explore the feelings behind them: fear, guilt, pleasure, anger, envy, resentment, jealousy, “live” internal conflicts, and risk experimenting with new behaviors.
Knowing ourselves, we change – our sensations, feelings, thoughts, our attitude to the past change, there are changes in the present.
Scenario analysis allows you to make the script conscious from an unconscious set of stereotypes that currently governs our lives – stop the not invented by us performance and put another, better one instead, where you will be a director who determines the roles, plot and final scene of the story.
After all, behind those events that in everyday life are usually called a manifestation of fate or fate, psychologists see unconscious mental mechanisms that affect the behavior of a person, his actions, the choice of friends, life companions and business partners. And if you understand these mechanisms, much of what is happening can be understood and if you want to change. published
Author: Ulasevich Tina
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: //www.b17.ru/article/57321/
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