Bert Hellinger: Purchased at the expense of others paid for their own losses Bashny.Net

Almost every time any of us makes in life is this or that choice, does the deed, manifests his will, thus creating a personal history.

However, the destiny of man is not only influenced by his personal choice, it depends also from the influence of family and kin.





Family and the family gives a man of moral principles, behavioral patterns, coping strategies, career choice, and debt, unresolved local conflicts, mysteries, illnesses, irrational fears and premature death. Thus, by the nature of transmitted information on any dramatic events that happened in my life as one of the family members and the family as a whole. It may even be information about events of historical scope: wars, disasters, witnessing violence, repression, genocide.

Such a transfer is called transgenerational and comes from directly from the unconscious to the unconscious of the ancestors of the descendants through the morphogenetic field. L. Sheldrake believed that the images of morphogenetic fields can be anything: information, feeling, pattern of behavior. Moreover, such fields exist not only in humans but also in animals, plants and even crystals. Also, along with information from ancestors to descendants passes and PTSD resulting from these events: "to the child affects the fact that the parent meant the wound".(M. Terek, N.Abraham), we Can say that transgenerational transmission is the embodiment of the concept of family (patrimonial) karma.

Who relates to family members (sort of)? According to B. Hellinger is:

 

• children, including adopted or deceased;
• parents, their brothers and sisters, including summary or illegitimate;
• grandparents, sometimes up to 5-7 knee;
• not related or integrated into the system (those who lost their place: for example, the former marital or extramarital partners, parents, grandparents, or whose participation has brought tangible benefits to the members of the family: nannies, nurses, caregivers, donors, etc., as well as victims of violence, and killings committed by family members).

Why is transgenerational transfer?

For example, in Soviet time the family history is often priukrashivanii, on the one hand, and on the other hand, suppressed some unpleasant facts, and with them, the shame and fears of arrests, pogroms, black Maria, links, camps and other social grievances and injustices. In other words, if the ancestors withheld some important, sometimes unpleasant or shocking information, it is required to find their destination, and it will be someone from the descendants. F. Dolto believes that "all that is silenced in the first generation, the second carries in his body".

In the history of many families, thus preserved and transmitted by inheritance "skeletons in the closet" and others "ghosts." It is important to understand that while this order remains unconscious, it remains in force.



 

Another reason for the transgenerational transmission is a desire among members of the family to compensate for gains and losses, but simply to restore justice through the tribal conscience.

"It means that the acquired at the expense of others paid for their own losses, and this compensation". B. Hellinger

When it comes to criminals, or people, who served as executioners in the times of Nazi Germany or the NKVD of the Soviet era, for their crimes pay (usually) not they themselves, and their descendants. Children, grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren of the criminals are highly prone to suicide. Thus the family system restores justice to the victims.



Is it possible to repeal the law transgenerational transmission and is it necessary?

Then you need to consider two things. First, every person throughout life needs to deal with "skeletons" and "ghosts," which he obtained the inheritance, and for this it is necessary to know and respect the history of his family, whatever it was.

The basis for the study of information received from the ancestors, could be the construction of genealogical (generic) tree, and performing the placement of a family system. The method of family constellations can be both group and individual, and shows how we are woven into the lives of others, and sometimes what is not suspect. Secondly, you need to pay off debts of their ancestors (if they were), but not in a bad way, through the punished, and the good, through the establishment of the order, United with love. This means that you need to commit such actions that will be healing for all members of a family system and will help eliminate the "karmic" influence of tribal conscience.

What it can be action? For example, before the deceased (or the victims) don't need us to redemption in the literal sense, they need recognition and respect. The bow is an expression of respect. Also in recognition of and respect for the dead, the unjustly wronged or neglected to do something good on the material level (e.g. participation in charity, etc.).

Generic conscience never sleeps and is more ancient, and therefore the priority of "authority". She arose before a man could stand out from the kind as a person to follow in life their own way. The generic conscience is the highest authority that protects the integrity of the genus (genera), and therefore it is a talisman for the whole of society.You need to remember and honor ancestors. You need to think about every living person that received it as a gift from his family and race, and that will give it to his descendants, to this gift was "fatal". published

 

Author: Natalia Nilova

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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