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You've definitely seen it! This story has something to think about.
The situation described in this article is so real, as if it was watched by one of us on the set. There's a lot to think about.
Mom rides the baby on the carousel. Two-year-old. Sitting almost motionless in an inflated winter suit. Mom walks along with the carousel, nudging her with one hand and the other holding the phone and staring at it unbroken.
It snows. Mom pushes the carousel. The baby's sitting.
After 5 minutes, the child begins to rattle his leg to hurt his mother and begins to hurt. One, two, three. I hit it. Mom doesn't pay attention at first. One, two, three. I hit it. Mom looks away from the phone. The carousel keeps moving. Snowing. The baby looks at mom.
After five seconds, my mother returns to the phone. One. Two. Three. I hit it again. Watching. I missed you. Mom asks you to stop kicking. It goes on.
Mom gets angry and gets more distracted from the phone. One, two, three. Mom got really angry. Carousel stopped. The child is abruptly removed from the seat, taken by the hand and taken to another object on the court.
Swing. The baby is seated. Snowing.
Mom tells a two-year-old in a dud suit about how it is not good to push people with their feet, that if you stand in the place of another, it is clear absolutely crystal that doing so with your foot is not good.
The child looks and is silent. It snows. Mom starts rocking the swing and pulls out the phone. One, two, three. The baby starts crying. Mom's pumping harder. The baby is crying.
Mom begins to figure out what it is: drink, write, eat, freeze. Swing stopped. The child is abruptly removed from the seat, taken by the hand and taken to another object on the court.
A wooden boat. It's snowing. The child is shown the way to the boat. The child climbed into it and took the helm. Standing. Out. I went to my mom. Pulled against her leg. The mother strokes with one hand, the other holds the phone and looks at it without interruption. The child got away from his mother and ran. For the snow.
"Where are you going?" Tripped, fell, cried. Mom's picking up. Comforting and rocking. The baby calms down. He's hanging on his mom with all his fancy suit and apparently falling asleep. O hard battle for mother's attention, on the severity of being and the mist of loneliness.
Many adults are not interested in their children.
The truth is that most of these parents are not interested in themselves. This means that their attention is constantly being taken, captured, directed and saturated, whether it be a person, a screen, an event.
It is difficult for them to be in the simplicity of the moment and simplicity for them is not an event, but a gray piece of everyday life, which is simply necessary to skip the schedule. Preferably faster and with some kind of simulated anesthesia, such as a social network or news feed.
Where there are no achievements, prizes, pay or misfortunes and disasters, their attention drifts anxiously and tries to find something to cling to. So this attention was brought up and without due effort will educate the same.
Since it is difficult for children to provide adults with achievements, prizes and pay, they can create plenty of misfortunes and disasters. What they do most often in such a system. It's very catchy. Crying, difficulties, problems, illnesses, experiences - everything goes in motion for the sake of being stared at, taken by the hand, take time, noticed at least somehow, even with the back of the head ...
Sadly, yes. This is how the carousel of child-parent suffering pushes itself. Parents do not know how to be quiet/calm/simplicity and children do not learn this. In such a system of relationships, all participants constantly need something from each other. Relationships are a satisfaction of needs or a failure of dissatisfaction. But that’s not all there is to a relationship.
This is a very important and very difficult experience for a modern person - to be with another in simplicity and contact is not about business, not about the situation, expectations and clarification, but just like that. Best of all, playing. Or watching the phenomena of nature, or dancing funny dances, or writing meaningless stories, hugging, rolling down a mountain. Together.
As long as your children are young, you have a beautiful and still legal right to pastime in Russia, the purpose of which is to ensure that you have a good time.hang out?
If you go for a walk together, try to turn off the phone while walking. Notice what is happening around you, pay attention to the child.
Let your son go into the male world! Male education for real men These words are the worst parental curses.
Shut up together on a walk or at home in a room, and then discuss how to keep quiet and what you wanted at that time and how to deal with the falsity of silence.
With preschool children, run, lie down, laugh, play the game they offer. Share a story that is really important for you – about work, about friends, about your parents and then ask them what is happening at school, with friends, with hobbies.
Achievements and goals are also important. It's just a different text. published
Source: badmama.com.ua/2016/03/21/roditelyam-mozhet-byt-skuchno-s-ih-detmi/
Mom rides the baby on the carousel. Two-year-old. Sitting almost motionless in an inflated winter suit. Mom walks along with the carousel, nudging her with one hand and the other holding the phone and staring at it unbroken.
It snows. Mom pushes the carousel. The baby's sitting.
After 5 minutes, the child begins to rattle his leg to hurt his mother and begins to hurt. One, two, three. I hit it. Mom doesn't pay attention at first. One, two, three. I hit it. Mom looks away from the phone. The carousel keeps moving. Snowing. The baby looks at mom.
After five seconds, my mother returns to the phone. One. Two. Three. I hit it again. Watching. I missed you. Mom asks you to stop kicking. It goes on.
Mom gets angry and gets more distracted from the phone. One, two, three. Mom got really angry. Carousel stopped. The child is abruptly removed from the seat, taken by the hand and taken to another object on the court.
Swing. The baby is seated. Snowing.
Mom tells a two-year-old in a dud suit about how it is not good to push people with their feet, that if you stand in the place of another, it is clear absolutely crystal that doing so with your foot is not good.
The child looks and is silent. It snows. Mom starts rocking the swing and pulls out the phone. One, two, three. The baby starts crying. Mom's pumping harder. The baby is crying.
Mom begins to figure out what it is: drink, write, eat, freeze. Swing stopped. The child is abruptly removed from the seat, taken by the hand and taken to another object on the court.
A wooden boat. It's snowing. The child is shown the way to the boat. The child climbed into it and took the helm. Standing. Out. I went to my mom. Pulled against her leg. The mother strokes with one hand, the other holds the phone and looks at it without interruption. The child got away from his mother and ran. For the snow.
"Where are you going?" Tripped, fell, cried. Mom's picking up. Comforting and rocking. The baby calms down. He's hanging on his mom with all his fancy suit and apparently falling asleep. O hard battle for mother's attention, on the severity of being and the mist of loneliness.
Many adults are not interested in their children.
The truth is that most of these parents are not interested in themselves. This means that their attention is constantly being taken, captured, directed and saturated, whether it be a person, a screen, an event.
It is difficult for them to be in the simplicity of the moment and simplicity for them is not an event, but a gray piece of everyday life, which is simply necessary to skip the schedule. Preferably faster and with some kind of simulated anesthesia, such as a social network or news feed.
Where there are no achievements, prizes, pay or misfortunes and disasters, their attention drifts anxiously and tries to find something to cling to. So this attention was brought up and without due effort will educate the same.
Since it is difficult for children to provide adults with achievements, prizes and pay, they can create plenty of misfortunes and disasters. What they do most often in such a system. It's very catchy. Crying, difficulties, problems, illnesses, experiences - everything goes in motion for the sake of being stared at, taken by the hand, take time, noticed at least somehow, even with the back of the head ...
Sadly, yes. This is how the carousel of child-parent suffering pushes itself. Parents do not know how to be quiet/calm/simplicity and children do not learn this. In such a system of relationships, all participants constantly need something from each other. Relationships are a satisfaction of needs or a failure of dissatisfaction. But that’s not all there is to a relationship.
This is a very important and very difficult experience for a modern person - to be with another in simplicity and contact is not about business, not about the situation, expectations and clarification, but just like that. Best of all, playing. Or watching the phenomena of nature, or dancing funny dances, or writing meaningless stories, hugging, rolling down a mountain. Together.
As long as your children are young, you have a beautiful and still legal right to pastime in Russia, the purpose of which is to ensure that you have a good time.hang out?
If you go for a walk together, try to turn off the phone while walking. Notice what is happening around you, pay attention to the child.
Let your son go into the male world! Male education for real men These words are the worst parental curses.
Shut up together on a walk or at home in a room, and then discuss how to keep quiet and what you wanted at that time and how to deal with the falsity of silence.
With preschool children, run, lie down, laugh, play the game they offer. Share a story that is really important for you – about work, about friends, about your parents and then ask them what is happening at school, with friends, with hobbies.
Achievements and goals are also important. It's just a different text. published
Source: badmama.com.ua/2016/03/21/roditelyam-mozhet-byt-skuchno-s-ih-detmi/
