The mission of the family: everyone —

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фото:www.xossip.com to Rise above the immediate problems, look at family life from the height of the deep meanings and to understand how minor domestic conflicts. The mission of the family is an opportunity not just to get away from the evening of scandals, but also to live a long, harmonious life together.Each seapride than to create a family, the partners should know each other. But most couples in the first stage combines sexual attraction. And to clarify, that new girl is her Outlook on life seems to be the case is irrelevant. When love goes, sexual relationship no longer compensate for internal lack of clarity of meaning. Therefore, already at this stage many couples break up with the phrase "We are different!".

Value-semantic level is the relationship of a different order. In proximity based on shared values, the same relation to the world, other people, the natural differences between people in the emotional sphere, the education, the traditions are not as destructive. Rather, they enrich the relationship, adding to their piquancy.

So as early as possible, already on the other side, try to get to know a partner better. You search for unifying values. In fact, in the first stage this is the main task.

Vadim Borisov, a practicing yogi, a marriage counselor, head of cultural-educational center "Tattva":

The main reason for the crisis in the family, as in any society, is not an economic or political problems, and the lack of meaning that would unite people. If we disregard the philosophy of the family, at some point the answer to the question: "Why are we together?" — just do not find. The absence of this response leads to the gap. Therefore, our values and what we want to realize in life together, must be formulated in the mission family.

Mission: perezagruzite problems and in the already established family make you forget about deep life meaning.

We are trying to compensate for the meaninglessness of different ways: sexual attraction, children's education, business, economy, entertainment and other things — analyzes Vadim.

At some point you may find that you no longer continue to inspire the senses. Then it is time for them to reconsider: "it's been 5 years since we married. What are we together now?"

Many couples feel a strong crisis at a time when children grow up and begin an independent life. This is because for them children are a unifying element, and when they leave his father's house, the parents puzzled: "why are we together?"

If you keep going back to understanding the most profound questions, there is a very valuable interaction.

In this case, we develop a deep relationship, — the expert believes. — People become friends not because they have a common household and the children, but because they have a common Outlook on life. If they are close, the Union is durable.

Podskazhite each family is deeply personal. But there are universal basics.

Religion. Traditionally the rallying point in different world traditions was religion — in the face of great meanings the spouses are not willing to give much importance to household disagreements. In this case, marriage always strong enough, the idea of divorce is not even discussed.

Moral values. Loyalty, truthfulness, loyalty — all valuable for us, should be named and in the mission. When making any decision in life, you need to remember this list in order to understand the actions correspond to the values, or we change them in favor of some circumstances.

Family tradition. "I'm with you, because we have children, relatives, for me this is all very near and dear". Through family relationships we come out of the shell of selfishness, close the housing world, and trying to do something for others. The power of family traditions allows you to stay people along and serve as an example for future generations.

The mission is zalivino to understand that mission is not a life plan and goals that we must achieve. These are the values that help us to do it.

For example, our goal is to go to University. She appeared because for us education is a life value.

— Here's another example — continues to our expert. — We believe that the dedication to the value of family. Over time, however, the husband discovers that his wife is not getting younger and the number of young women around the is not reduced. But this does not affect him in terms of devotion to his wife. He cultivates the loyalty remains. It turns out, circumstances change, but values remain.

How to write it?

Someone might say, "I'm a simple man, not a philosopher. My partner is also quite simple. Why do we have a mission?", — says Vadim. But its creation is a necessity for any family. Just every it's filled with its own meanings.

— Take the time to discuss the mission of your family.

— Everyone should think about and record their understanding of the purpose of your Union.

— Points of individual missions that overlap with each other, take a basis in common and write it together. Moreover, the mission may look very different. As the volume of essays, a list of slogans or an aphorism. As long as it was clear to the partners.

— The mission should contain the broadest possible meaning. Do not limit yourself to personal relationships, communication with children and relatives. Let this be the broadest possible vision of how the two of you are having a positive impact on the world.

— The mission is the document that you put in the table. This is a guide to action in everyday life. In the same way as in the developed companies, the mission is not just hanging on the wall in the principal's office, and recognized by all staff to the cleaners and watchmen. The family mission should be explained and children.

— Periodically go back to mission, change, build upon. The mission of the family is not something that can be solved once and for all. Like the manifestation of a photograph with time it may be supplemented and modified. It may take years, even a lifetime.

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