Love through the eyes of a monk Bashny.Net

To love is first of all to understand the other person.

1. If you dissolve a handful of salt in a Cup of water, the water impossible to drink. But if you pour this salt into the river, it is still possible to get water for cooking, washing and drinking. The river is immense, and she has the ability to accept, embrace and transform. If the heart is small, the ability to understand and empathize is limited, and we suffer.

We cannot accept the imperfection of others and demand that they change. But when our hearts get bigger, the same things will not make us suffer. We have a lot of understanding and empathy, and we can show others his arms. We accept them for who they are, and then they have a chance to change.

2. In really deep relationships, the boundary between you and the other person. He is you, and you him. Your suffering is his suffering. When you are aware of your suffering, you help your loved one to suffer less. Suffering and happiness do not seem to you the sole concepts. What is happening with your loved one is with you.

What is happening to you is happening with your loved one. In true love there is no more separation or discrimination. His happiness is your happiness. Your suffering is his suffering. You can no longer say, "That's your problem".



3. The essence of deep love to be able to offer happiness. You can become a beacon of light for the other person. It is impossible to offer happiness to someone, while you yourself do not feel. So build within themselves a comfortable home, accepting yourself and learning to love and heal yourself.

Practice mindfulness, to create moments of happiness and joy for your own nourishment. Then you will have something to offer another person. When we nourish and support our own happiness, we care for our capacity to love. That's why love means to master the art to feed their happiness.

If you have enough understanding and love, every minute you do it, cooking Breakfast, driving, watering the garden or doing any other activity during the day can be a moment of joy. Understanding other people's suffering is the best gift you can give to another. Understanding is another name of love. If you don't understand, you can't love.

4. Often we fall in love not because to truly love and understand the object of our passion, and to distract ourselves from our own suffering – life troubles, unpleasant emotions. When we learn to love and understand yourself and truly compassionate ourselves, then we can truly love and understand the other person. To love, not knowing how we love – so hurt that beloved one. To know how to love, we must understand the other.

To understand you must listen. If you like, you should be able to bring relief to your beloved in his sufferings. It is an art. If you do not understand the roots of suffering, you can't help, as a doctor cannot cure your disease, if you do not know its cause. You need to understand the cause of suffering of a loved one to bring relief. The more you understand, the more you love; the more you love, the more you understand. They are two sides of one reality. The ability to understand and ability to love are one and the same.

5. Often, saying "I love you", we focus on "I" that loves, and not think about the love that we offer, how it is deep. All because we are captives of our ego. We think of ourselves as something separate, but in the world there is no such thing as a separate "I".

The flower consists exclusively of necletocny elements, such as chlorophyll, sunlight and water. If you remove the flower from all necletocny elements, nothing will remain. A flower cannot be by itself. The flower may only be with us on the event or interrelated Genesis.

And so do people. We can't exist by themselves. We can only live in an interconnected existence. I consist only of items not-self, such as the earth, the sun, parents and ancestors. In relationships, if you are able to see the interrelated nature of being between you and your loved one, you feel his suffering – your own suffering and your happiness is his happiness. With such a vision of love you speak and act differently. This in itself can alleviate a lot of suffering.published

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