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7 main tricks of the bestseller "How to talk to anyone"
How to overcome shyness and become uverenneeNavernyaka you sometimes find yourself in places and positions that you find it difficult to start a conversation. This can happen to anyone. Often - due to a lack of communication practices. But there is another enemy of dialogue - the fear, which certainly must be addressed. Here are a few tips to help you overcome it.
Change the attitude towards situatsiiNastoyaschy real conversation depends on how it is seen in your imagination. Case in relation to it. Beginning any conversation, you have to be friendly and open. That is what will affect the first impression of the interlocutor and the overall success of conversation. The internal state certainly manifested in the tone of voice, facial expressions and gestures. If you have a bad mood, move quickly fail. So before you decide to talk, think of something good.
TreniruytesEsli a conversation with a stranger for you - a real test, be sure to perform this exercise:
Embark on a noisy place. Tune in to what you should certainly to someone speak. Think carefully about what you will say. For example, you can ask as somewhere to go. Go to the person and talk to him. Wield obstanovkoyChtoby win people's attention and eye-catching, you need to be able to own situation. If you find it difficult to behave themselves, do not despair. Seize the situation and possible on a physical level, occupying more space in space. Stretch, take a few quiet steps. So you begin to occupy more space in space. This is a good way to draw attention to themselves, without saying a word. People who know how to captivate the views are perceived as confident, having leadership qualities.
Imagine how it could bytPered the beginning of the conversation scroll mind: imagine that communication is going well, people greet you started a conversation. And try to feel that you're proud of yourself, because you were able to communicate so well.
Remember that any conversation - it was good. He needs everything: you, the person with whom you spoke. It is much better than the silence. The conversation can improve the mood of you and the other party.
"I'm sorry that you have turned on the way!" Perhaps, with each case is: you make your way through the crowd - and suddenly someone pushes you. What do you feel? Most people feel a little humiliated. But this is the wrong attitude to the situation. You just think that you rejected or humiliated. If such a shame to happen to you again, do not be angry, but simply pushed the tell: "I'm sorry that he was in your way!»
Even if no answer, you feel that you are in control and able to fend for themselves.
Euthanize domestic kritikaKolebaniya kill spontaneity and spontaneity - your ally. Every minute inner critic is trying to prevent us to make some action. If suddenly you need someone to talk, try to lull voice control you from the inside. Do not analyze what is going to say - just start a conversation.
Soul-searching - a pledge of missed opportunities. A potential companion will accept you if your statement will seem natural to him, and this is possible only if you radiate energy, see the interlocutor in the eye and give the impression of an open talkative person.
And what think of me? People are not confident, very often worry if everything is correct they do or say. This is a clear manifestation of the fear of failure: you think you do not have any skills just because you do not always succeeded in everything. But that's OK, people make mistakes and often do not get everything right the first time. Do not think about what will or not, think of each mistake as an opportunity to improve the training and skills. Take a break from the opinions of others and think about what will be helpful to you or that conversation.
Based on the book "How to talk to anyone»
via www.mann-ivanov-ferber.ru/books/razgovor-eto-vozmozhnost/
Change the attitude towards situatsiiNastoyaschy real conversation depends on how it is seen in your imagination. Case in relation to it. Beginning any conversation, you have to be friendly and open. That is what will affect the first impression of the interlocutor and the overall success of conversation. The internal state certainly manifested in the tone of voice, facial expressions and gestures. If you have a bad mood, move quickly fail. So before you decide to talk, think of something good.
TreniruytesEsli a conversation with a stranger for you - a real test, be sure to perform this exercise:
Embark on a noisy place. Tune in to what you should certainly to someone speak. Think carefully about what you will say. For example, you can ask as somewhere to go. Go to the person and talk to him. Wield obstanovkoyChtoby win people's attention and eye-catching, you need to be able to own situation. If you find it difficult to behave themselves, do not despair. Seize the situation and possible on a physical level, occupying more space in space. Stretch, take a few quiet steps. So you begin to occupy more space in space. This is a good way to draw attention to themselves, without saying a word. People who know how to captivate the views are perceived as confident, having leadership qualities.
Imagine how it could bytPered the beginning of the conversation scroll mind: imagine that communication is going well, people greet you started a conversation. And try to feel that you're proud of yourself, because you were able to communicate so well.
Remember that any conversation - it was good. He needs everything: you, the person with whom you spoke. It is much better than the silence. The conversation can improve the mood of you and the other party.
"I'm sorry that you have turned on the way!" Perhaps, with each case is: you make your way through the crowd - and suddenly someone pushes you. What do you feel? Most people feel a little humiliated. But this is the wrong attitude to the situation. You just think that you rejected or humiliated. If such a shame to happen to you again, do not be angry, but simply pushed the tell: "I'm sorry that he was in your way!»
Even if no answer, you feel that you are in control and able to fend for themselves.
Euthanize domestic kritikaKolebaniya kill spontaneity and spontaneity - your ally. Every minute inner critic is trying to prevent us to make some action. If suddenly you need someone to talk, try to lull voice control you from the inside. Do not analyze what is going to say - just start a conversation.
Soul-searching - a pledge of missed opportunities. A potential companion will accept you if your statement will seem natural to him, and this is possible only if you radiate energy, see the interlocutor in the eye and give the impression of an open talkative person.
And what think of me? People are not confident, very often worry if everything is correct they do or say. This is a clear manifestation of the fear of failure: you think you do not have any skills just because you do not always succeeded in everything. But that's OK, people make mistakes and often do not get everything right the first time. Do not think about what will or not, think of each mistake as an opportunity to improve the training and skills. Take a break from the opinions of others and think about what will be helpful to you or that conversation.
Based on the book "How to talk to anyone»
via www.mann-ivanov-ferber.ru/books/razgovor-eto-vozmozhnost/